Aibu to message my friend?

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My best friend went into labour 5 days ago messaged me to say it was all happening, very exciting, she was about to go into hospital etc etc... we have been through thick and thin together and besties since we were little.
It's now 5 days on and I still haven't heard anything more. I have messaged her, but she hasn't read my message (it has been received). I'm really worried about her/baby.
Aibu to consider messaging her family members to check everything is ok? The more time passes, the more worried I am. It's just so unlike her to not message... 😢

Sorry title is wrong! Should say 'message my friend's family'!

Have you not messaged her again OP?

I hope your friend is okay

I’d leave it for now. It may seem intrusive.
if something serious had happened you’d know by now

Why when her previous messages haven’t been read?

Why when the previous messages haven’t been read ????

Did you not go to the hospital? If she is your bestie then maybe go there. I mean she's probably out by now. Message her and ask if all is well because you are worried.

I would message to her something to her that does not require a reply
”Just wanted to know I am thinking of you. Will speak soon when you have your breath back. Love you loads.

I wouldn’t say there was any harm in dropping her brother a message, OP.

Hopefully everything is fine and she’s just caught up in all the chaos of having a new baby.

She's not princess Di. Who wouldn't tell people that their baby was born?. Its not like she's selling it to Hello! Its her best friend. I find it highly weird that there wasn't so much as a text even if it was difficult. Who do you turn to if not your bestie? I'm hoping this has been updated before I scroll on down 😄

the op has said she messaged her xx

I would definitely message again in this situation. 6 days with no word is concerning to say the least. It's up to her if she checks her phone or responds but I think messaging her again is a good move. She might be going through trauma, although I do hope not.

I’d do this.

Any update OP?

My closest friend I’d be round her house - if you leave it too long she may think you don’t care enough -if the door isn’t answered pop in a note saying you called and wanted to check she was ok - the art of talking to one another is being lost with mobiles … if she’s having a bad time she may just want a huge hug from you

I’m all for trying to make contact in this situation but I think that turning up announced at someone’s home, during the initial throes of postpartum, is intrusive. I would definitely stick to a message until you know more.

When i was in this kind of situation (although knew baby had been born but was very poorly) I sent a message along the lines of "been thinking of you a lot over the last few days, no need to reply if not a good time but please do let me know if I can do anything useful" or similar. Simple, no pressure, not OTT happy if things have been difficult etc.

Tbh it's kind of my go to approach for anything sensitive - impending births, relationship breakdowns, illness, bereavements etc.

Exactly

I’d be very worried 5 days later, and yes i’d just send her a brother a message to check in. Hopefully all is fine and she is just avoiding messages.

That’s not that unusual surely? None of my friends have my DH’s number. Why would they? We don’t go out as couples. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m so sorry OP.

Either your ‘friend’ is utterly shitty and is deliberately worrying you or there is something seriously wrong. I hope it’s the former obviously, but it’s not great for your friendship.

Privacy’s fine but you can’t message someone when you are going into labour and provide zero update. Thats so worrying.

I never told anyone when I went into labour (for privacy) but totally sent out a general text when they were here.

I would send a message but not ask a question that demands she responds straight away. So msg saying you are thinking of her and hope shes doing ok.

Lay off, it's not a out you.if your a good friend, you'll hear in time.
Be patient.

Because she was probably too busy to open her messages then and may not have gone through them yet, especially if there are many. Having a new notification pop up might remind her to check

Have you heard anything OP?

CHRIST when my best friend hadn’t heard by the following morning she was driving round my mums house to ask if everything was ok!….
Don’t text… CALL THE BROTHER ASAP .. otherwise you’re in danger of looking like you don’t GAS