Aibu to message my friend?

[Roundmirrors]

My best friend went into labour 5 days ago messaged me to say it was all happening, very exciting, she was about to go into hospital etc etc... we have been through thick and thin together and besties since we were little.
It's now 5 days on and I still haven't heard anything more. I have messaged her, but she hasn't read my message (it has been received). I'm really worried about her/baby.
Aibu to consider messaging her family members to check everything is ok? The more time passes, the more worried I am. It's just so unlike her to not message... 😢

Sorry title is wrong! Should say 'message my friend's family'!

Thats really not unusual. I dont have any of my friends husbands / partners numbers and dont think any of them have my husbands number. I have a best friend of 25 years. We have been there for each other through divorce, homelessness domestic abuse, cancer, bankruptcy and more. I dont have her husbands number. I barely know him.

I was due to be induced and nothing happened for six days, so people got worried and started texting me/ husband. Thankfully everything was fine but I think it’s normal to check in.
Hope everything is ok with your friend xx

If it was my best friend I’d message her brother-who is also my friend. Could you do that?

And I realize that I don’t have my best friend’s partner’s number either!

That seems perfectly normal to me

Id text her brother. Just something brief. Haven't heard, so dont want to pry but hoping Friend and her DC are OK?

Let us know, were all hoping shes just knackered and baby bubbled away from her phone

Why?!? She’s not in outer space! She’s not got a mobile phone that will detonate and blow a building up if it rings! I think this is a tad melodramatic!

@Roundmirrors i did the same as your friend. Went in on Wed PM and had my DD by CSection after a very difficult time on Friday PM. My friends said they were panicking by the time my DH text all. I think in this time of social media, this may not be a fairytale ending.

I hope I’m wrong. X

I wouldn't. The thing is, if something terrible has happened and she's not ready to tell you then you'll be putting the brother in a difficult position with a message asking if all is OK.

I'd just send another message to her saying "hope everything is alright.x"

Truly hope she's OK

I don’t have the number of the husband of my best friend either. Nor does she have my husband’s number. I don’t think that’s particularly unusual.

None of my friends have my husbands number.

Or she could've lost or had her phone stolen. One of mine vanished during a hospital stay

Then I'm sure she could have logged onto whatever social media she uses via her husbands phone and contacted op.

She's staying quiet for a reason.

I would message her.

I don't have the number of any of my friends' other halves. Why would I?

I’d message her again and just say you’re thinking of her and hope she’s going ok.

Id be very unimpressed if I were dealing with something major and people started messaging my brother for information I wasn’t yet ready to share. I hope my brother would have the sense to say ‘you’ll have to talk to Clon’.

I messaged my BFF's mum after 36 hours, let alone 5 days. She was in labour for bloody ages but she and her baby were thankfully fine.

why does someone, on nearly every thread, have to post something that doesn’t assist the Op with the advice requested? And then the thread gets detailed? 🙄

Hope all is ok

Actually, going against the grain here, I wouldn't. You've already messaged her and received no reply. Now you wait a bit.

I know you're worried, but question this - would the purposes in messaging her family members be for your benefit or for hers? I think it's for yours. If something terrible has happened it would be upsetting for her family, and they might not want to have people messaging them at that time. Just be patient, at least for another few days.

This.

Not even in group chats e.g. group for a kids bday party? Communications for a group holiday, shared hobby, waiver forms for activities…? Your husband doesn’t have their husband’s number?
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Its difficult to know someone’s spouse for so many years but not have their number, even if you’ve never had reason to message them directly.

*derailed

I would message her brother and just say you’re concerned and wanted to make sure her and baby are ok. I must say, I had soooooo many messages after having my daughter, and my emotions were all over the place. I didn’t reply to most people for a week as I was just so overwhelmed, struggling massively with breastfeeding and the hormones were horrific. I had a planned section but if she’s had a tough labour and then potentially an emergency section, she could be in an even worse place than I was. I was a pretty shitty friend, but my friends now understand! Hopefully all is well! Please let us know x

Erm, I dont think I have any of my friends' husbands' numbers, apart from the ones on the school whatsapp group. I don't think that makes me weird...