Be absolutely honest, would you consider only fans/sex work if it guaranteed you’d be rich?

[Love13]

If you were being 100% honest hypothetically. Would you consider sex work/only fans/webcam work if you could guarantee you’d become rich.

Obviously completely hypothetical because in reality most of us probably wouldn’t be able to make much money, we’ve probably got children to consider, you might already be well off.

But if it was the difference between working in a job you hate until retirement, or doing sex work for 10 years and then being able to retire a millionaire, if it was safe and you only had yourself to please. Could you forget your morals and do it? Do you think you could live with it?

Yabu - no
Yanbu - you’d consider it.

If you would consider it, do you think you’re a highly sexualised person anyway, maybe multiple sexual partners, able to separate sex from emotions.

No. My peace of mind and dignity are priceless.

Yes but only if I could remain anonymous.
However I have distinguishing tattoos on parts of my body and also I highly doubt anyone would pay to see me naked these days!

If he's a tradie he will be earning much more than most. Make sure you're on his pension and you'll be fine.
Around here trades are now on £350-500ph!

He doesn’t earn that much and I’m not actually going to start doing porn so that my husband can retire 🤣

Its a purely hypothetical question, a bit like wwyd if you won the lottery or wwyd if you could have one wish granted.

If I could guarantee I’d make a few million quid then I would, but the chances of me making £10 a month are very small.

My pondering is also about what separates those of us who’d easily drop our values and morals for money and those who say absolutely not.

For me it all goes back to what has value in society. I think we've gone very far down the wrong path and should be valuing care and community over objectifying/marketing/sales. It's a very male based economy and it isn't working.

I can only answer for myself, but I can tell you that for me it’s not actually really morals and values as such. It’s that I really think the reality of it - and the reality of what you’d actually have to do to get ‘rich’ - would be utterly traumatic. You wouldn’t get rich enough to retire early snapping a few anonymous pictures of your feet. A LOT of men are absolutely revolting, and loathe women, with serious suppressed violent, misogynistic tendencies - a quick look at an average mainstream porn streaming site will tell you that.

Bonnie Blue has got ‘rich’ from OnlyFans. Would I let 1000 men shag me in 12 hours (or whatever it was) to get rich? No. Definitely not. Yes, I would take an anonymous picture of my toes if that would get me a million quid. But it wouldn’t, would it?

You most certainly it wouldn’t make a million quid from a few feet pics.

But would you shag say 30 men, if it earned you 500k? Would you do the feet pics and message the men, indulge them, if it earned you a few thousand?

You're really asking how desperate women are for a few thousand then.

We get paid less than men
We do more care work than men
We get killed by men
We get abused by men
Shall we sell our souls for them too? The last bit of respect we have for our bodies?
I know, a man has made a business model based on just that - how low will women go for £? ...bravo!

Maybe I'm wired wrong because honestly, I'd fuck 30 men for £500k. That's life changing amounts of money for me. Over 15 grand for something I've done many a time after one too many drinks on a night out for free?!

I think I must be wired wrong too because that’s how I feel.

Even though I absolutely agree with what other posters are saying about sex work being all kinds of wrong.

No. Only to save my children (now adult, but hypothetically speaking) from starvation or death or something.

Being rich wouldn't compensate me for the humiliation and having to have sex with the sort of men who pay women to pleasure them. It would be traumatic for me and I'd never be the same.

Those of you who say it would be humiliating/traumatic, why humiliating and traumatic?

I get that people would find it gross, risky, awkward. But I don’t quite get the humiliating aspect.

Have you never had sex with men after nights out or dates because you were a bit horny or were wearing beer goggles only to think afterwards no way.

Have a think about how men who are paying for sex might behave. Why they pay. What they pay for. What their attitudes to women might be.

So glad it's not just me!

I understand their angle too and absolutely agree with a lot of it. However, I have woken up from many a night after and been utterly mortified, 98% of the time I've gotten over myself quickly and it's become a thing of the past and an amusing story by the same afternoon.

I've got a fairly relaxed attitude to sex when I'm single to be honest and on a personal level (for me and my life) hypothetically wouldn't mind being large amounts for something I do for free anyway.

I did wonder about this when I heard (decades ago now) about an air stewardess on a regular stopover in a Middle Eastern country, who was propositioned by a member of their royal family, at one of the parties they regularly threw for aircrew.

She went to bed with him, just IIRC for the one night, and was given £30k, enough at the time to buy a very nice house in the SE UK.

At the time I had a close friend, also aircrew, who had been propositioned by the same royal, had politely declined, and had felt the need to ask crewing not to send her there again, since it could have been Very Awkward.

But I did ask myself whether I’d have done it, at the time, for £30k!

No, I'd rather work a minimum wage job and keep my dignity and self respect.

Just out of interest - what is your view of men who pay for sex ? If you would be happy to provide that service.

When I was younger I certainly did have ONSs with men after a few too many drinks or whatever (in fact I’m now married to a man I intended to be a ONS!)

But I think it’s beyond naive to think that the reality of most sex work would be the same as a couple of consenting adults having a shag after a night out without cash changing hands. It’s not the same. It’s transactional. It’s with a man who feels ok about paying for sex and wants to pay for sex. Why does he want and need to pay for sex? Why does he feel ok about it? What might he want or expect in return for his money? What will his attitude to women be?

Not that I want to direct traffic to it, but to get an insight you could look at the comments on that horrific site UK Punting - it’s a site where men rate prostitutes they’ve visited, like Tripadvisor.

And with all that said, I actually have several friends who had some pretty horrific and scary experiences with ONSs even where money didn’t change hands - being choked without consent and so on.

I couldn't consider it unless all my family were dead. Actually, same re being a politician. There are lots of things I wouldn't do because it would have an impact on my family and it's not fair when your personal choices impact negatively on those around you, who you know wouldn't make those same choices and negatively impact you.

I'm not sure if I would do it even if all my family were wiped out, as I don't think my confidence and/or mental resilience could cope with it. I think I'd always struggle to divorce the commercial from the personal.

And if everyone around me was dead... and I did something like that without a support network... yeah, that probably wouldn't end well.

I think part of me admires anyone who could do it, as I do think you need quite a high baseline of self-esteem and fearlessness.

Nope.
The thought make me want to puke.

I think this is where the opposing views are coming from. You're (quite rightly) looking at the larger picture and societal implications - I'm taking a lighthearted approach from my own experiences and the thought experiment.

It might be beyond naïve in terms of real life, and I completely agree with you there, but for imaginary, ridiculously large sums of money, I'm happy with saying, yeah, I'd fuck strangers for financial security that is out of reach for me in my real life.

That's so different though...you must have WANTED to shag them at the time, but you'd only be shagging dirty old men cos you're getting paid. Imagine shagging a smelly old man for money. I'm damned sure it's not like Pretty Woman 🤔

Yes I guess so. I think - in the realms of the complete imagination - I can say yes, I would be willing to shag men I am attracted to in a safe scenario in return for large sums of money from a mystery benefactor. I would also happily accept big fat cheques for one night stands I had 20 years ago 😂

OP did use the phrase ‘sex work’ though which is why I’ve considered the reality. And what I’ve just described isn’t ‘sex work’, it’s complete fantasy.

Honest answer?

No, I haven’t. I’m interested only in romance (never been fussed much by sex). I have always really loved the wooing, getting to know each other part of a relationship, and I’ve only had 2 serious relationships in my life. I couldn’t countenance sex without the long preliminaries of what used the called wooing. Its absolutely heavenly and if you go straight to the sex, you don’t know what you’re missing!

I do not give a single f that people will think I’m a Victorian weirdo - this is what works for me and I’ve had a happy emotional life because of it.

I most definitely would be traumatised and humiliated by sex without a disgusting stranger. They would be disgusting be definition - buying a woman’s body for their pleasure.