Would you be angry at this? Someone calm me down

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So I have some concerns about my DS’s health, I have done an e-consult to the GP awaiting a reply. So over the holidays i’ve been noticing frequent urination, thirst during the night, getting up to pee during the night which he never used to, verrucas on his feet that wont budge and nausea. I am concerned about diabetes. I have been working alot over the summer and have told relevant babysitters of my concerns. I informed MIL to cut back on sweets/cakes/no fizzy drinks etc, which in all fairness she seemed very concerned and said “yes well youll have to watch his diet” I went to pick DS up after work yesterday, to see a bottle of fanta in front of him, 2 large slabs of cake on his plate, and MIL forcing another one down him! I reminded her of our conversation and her response was “he will have what he likes here!” I have had a number of conversations with her before this about the amount of cakes/pop etc she gives them, she agrees to my face, but I always turn up to find fizzy drinks/ sweets in excess in front of DS! I am fairly laid back about this sort of thing, fizzy drinks is a treat only and sweet stuff all in moderation. I feel so angry at mil for disregarding DS’s health. Luckily DS is back in school so no need to be in MIL’s care.

At the moment you don't know if he has diabetes or not. Your absolute priority is to get him seen today. If he has got diabetes then you will have a diagnosis and I'm sure she will learn about his dietary requirements.

Your MIL sounds thick as shit. Your DH needs to tell her that she won't be looking after your child again until she addresses that.

True. But there are many children developing Type 2 because of diet, lack of exercise and a genetic predisposition.

The OP said in her opening post that she has concerns about her child's health and done an e-health with their doctor and is waiting for a reply.

Many of us mothers knew when something wasn't right with our kids. Often was something not serious but in some cases, it was.

Until medical tests are run, the OP only has her instincts to guide her.

Good luck OP. As a mum of a T1, I really it’s not diabetes but even if it is, you’ve got this.

As to your MiL, she’s shown her colours and that she is happy to risk your child’s health just to prove a point. She can’t be trusted to look after him unsupervised.

If you think your kid has diabetes you don’t cut down on crap! You take the straight to the doctors or A&E.

If your MiL is forcing a slice of cake on your child with another 2 'huge slabs' on his plate presumably awaiting further forcing, then she is clearly unwell herself, and shouldn't be caring for a child, regardless of whether the child has a medical condition.

Fizzy drinks is absolutely not the "Fastest way to develop child diabetes" stop being thick

I hope your DS is fine and it’s just a false alarm. I mean imo that sounds like a lot of sugar for anyone, let alone a child with possible diabetes. I’d tread carefully with the MIL though, especially until you have a diagnosis…if you bring it up with her again I’d focus on discussing your concerns about your DS’s health rather than criticising the food she’s given him, so she doesn’t take it personally or get defensive. It might help her appreciate how serious it is and see it’s for his benefit.

Your husband needs to pull his mother up sharply on her behaviour and her complete and utter disregard for your instructions re your son's health!

That's good that they're acting quickly.

Good luck.

A thread on MN not so long ago ripped into a young mother for taking her child to A&E because she suspected diabetes. The consensus was that because the symptoms were inconsistent and mood there was no emergency and she should have seen her GP instead. OP has also indicated in her updates that the symptoms are inconsistent, not severe, and could well be something else. And she was awaiting a GP call back even before posting. MN is an interesting place sometimes.

If. It’s type 1 l wouldn’t be trusting MiL with it at all because it may well include calculating and injecting insulin before eating. Even if type 2 I’d be wary because it sounds as though she’s in denial.

As a Mum of a type 1 diabetic, I wish people knew the difference between Type 1 and Type 2. 🙄

Hope your DS is ok, either way your MIL need to stop feeding him so much rubbish.

One finger prick test doesn’t diagnose diabetes. The test is an HbA1c blood test which measures blood glucose levels over the previous three months. If you meet the threshold diabetes id diagnosed and the same test is used to monitor it.

I had the exact same with my DD who is 4 - increased urination ect - the DR's did the finger prick test and it was all clear - she did have a urine infection and needed antibiotics.

Yabu for implying in your op that he'd been weeing at night over the summer.

Then admitting it only started 2 days ago.

🤞🤞🤞 you’ll get a quick answer and it’s not diabetes!

I missed the bit where it only started two nights ago.

You might not have meant it this way, but as a T1, statements like this irritate me so much! It’s absolute scaremongering. Type 1 diabetes is an autoimmune condition, it’s not related to sugar/lifestyle/diet. Even if someone with type 1 would avoid all sugar and carbs they would still die without insulin. A slice of cake isn’t going to kill a child as long as insulin is given consistently…

OP, well done for getting him tested today. If it’s diabetes, please don’t worry. It would be a steep learning curve, but your son will be able to eat pretty much everything as long as insulin is given.

You are not wrong to be annoyed with your mil. Even if this isn’t diabetes, this much sugar is not good for a growing child. If it is diabetes, it won’t make his diabetes ‘worse’. In the absence of sugar and carbs a T1 will still need insulin.

Glad he’s being seen OP. Sounds like you contacted the doctor as soon as you needed to. Your MIL is a fucking sick to give him that when you’re awaiting the doctor and to give it anyway when you said no

Is your dp going to speak to your mil? She was trying to give him 3 slices of cake?!

i know exactly the thread you mean

She contacted the GP?

Diabetes or not I'd be irritated to see him being fed so poorly there. Why do grandparents think it's loving to feed grandchildren junk?