Would you be angry at this? Someone calm me down

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So I have some concerns about my DS’s health, I have done an e-consult to the GP awaiting a reply. So over the holidays i’ve been noticing frequent urination, thirst during the night, getting up to pee during the night which he never used to, verrucas on his feet that wont budge and nausea. I am concerned about diabetes. I have been working alot over the summer and have told relevant babysitters of my concerns. I informed MIL to cut back on sweets/cakes/no fizzy drinks etc, which in all fairness she seemed very concerned and said “yes well youll have to watch his diet” I went to pick DS up after work yesterday, to see a bottle of fanta in front of him, 2 large slabs of cake on his plate, and MIL forcing another one down him! I reminded her of our conversation and her response was “he will have what he likes here!” I have had a number of conversations with her before this about the amount of cakes/pop etc she gives them, she agrees to my face, but I always turn up to find fizzy drinks/ sweets in excess in front of DS! I am fairly laid back about this sort of thing, fizzy drinks is a treat only and sweet stuff all in moderation. I feel so angry at mil for disregarding DS’s health. Luckily DS is back in school so no need to be in MIL’s care.

If he has T1 diabetes, the statement to MiL needs to be blunt: "here's his diet sheet. If you give him ANY sugar/too much carb, you're risking his life. Is that what you want?"

Good luck at the appointment - I'd see what they say and then discuss with your DP/DH what he should say to MIL about this. I would be very tempted to make sure she doesn't have unsupervised contact given her attitude.

Even without diabetes, that is atrocious for his teeth and general health.

Until she packs it in, she should not be allowed unsupervised time with him. If he does have diabetes and she does this, with that, knowledge, then it's straight-up child abuse in my eyes.

I hope you get the answer to your concern about your DS’s health soon.

Your MIL has proven that she is not suitable for childcare and as such, she wouldn’t be looking after my child again. There is annual leave and holiday clubs for cover the time that school is closed.

Even if he doesn't have diabetes, your MIL shouldn't be feeding him fizzy drinks and cakes like that. I hope he is OK and you are doing the right thing by getting him checked.

Do people not read the thread? OP said quite clearly that she had contacted her Dr, and was waiting for a call back. People accusing her of prioritising a post about her MIL instead of taking her child to the Dr were completely out of order.

Sort of off point, but very very few fizzy drinks contain full sugar these days (in fact I think red coke if the only one to do so) So aside from the horrible sweeteners in them, they shouldn't affect blood sugars too much (not that she should be giving him them anyway, obvs)

No? If he has T1 he'll be on insulin and once everyone knows what they are doing he can eat what he wants with his carb to insulin ratios.

Good luck with GP 🤞for child. ( diabetes isn’t the only endocrine prob which has similar symptoms to those you’ve mentioned).

The GP has refused to test my youngest granddaughter. She has every symptom and constantly smells 'sweet', but we've been refused and even when going through A&E (she has a ridiculously low immune system) they haven't/won't test her.

This is shocking, it's a simple finger prick test why on earth would it be refused?

I'd be ordering a meter and sticks of amazon for under 20 if that was the case.

Don’t let her look after him any more, sadly

Op u are doing the right thing and getting him checked. Doesn’t matter when u did it u are doing it now so that’s all that matters, you have been right to be suspicious and if something comes of it then at least it’s now been diagnosed and u take it from there. If not and it’s something easily explained then good for u for checking, but then I have to deal with the MIL. I absolutely do not think she should have ur child alone. Not only is she putting all sorts of rubbish into your child she is blatantly disrespecting and ignoring your requests as a Mother which is then showing your child how to disrespect you too. She is a total cow and as for saying child will
eat what they want here, well that will be the last time the child will be in her home, end of, no matter what dp says either.

Your MIL thinks she knows better than you. She's shown she's going to do what she wants with your kid even if it harms him.

Time to stop any childcare for her. She's a big potential danger.

Someone who knows a child is showing symptoms of diabetes and goes against parental instructions to feed them crap that could put their glucose into orbit is abusive. She would harm a kid to prove a point.

Best of luck OP, I hope everything is ok

Within reason, like anyone else.

I would be furious OP.

Hope all is well with your DS.

Oh I see the twats are out in force today. Can you nasty cows not read? Op literally said she was waiting for the doctor to get back to her, how is that doing nothing?

You need to find alternative childcare for holidays. Yes, I'd be furious, but I'd also be channeling that fury into having him investigated for diabetes, and finding other childcare.

OP read like she'd been worried all summer and was annoyed at mil and only just contacting GP.

Sit her down and tell her exactly what Type 1 diabetes is and how it can lead to amputation and death if not controlled. Show her pictures if needs be. Then ask her if she still thinks 3 huge slices of cake is a good idea for the grandson she professes to love.

Your priority is to get your DS tested for diabetes with the GP. Not just a standard urine but a blood test. It could be that he's drinking more because of the warm weather (and weeing more as a result) or a health concern. Until the GP runs the tests, you won't know. As a mother of 3 children, I always trusted my instincts and 90% of the time, I was right.

Regarding your MIL, I wouldn't leave my child with her if she keeps giving him Fanta and as much cake as he wants to because it's "what he wants to here". It's the fastest way to develop child diabetes, teeth issues and weight problems in the future.

Hmm YANBU but I do think if you’re getting free childcare there’s an element of having to suck up that it may not be to your standards. What a stupid woman though. Hope your son is OK

Just to clarify majority of children who have diabetes, have Type 1. Type 1 is an autoimmune disease, and is not related to diet and lifestyle.

And fizzy drinks I just didn’t tolerate at all. I remember a conversation with my dentist years ago even before I had my own kids where he said he allowed his own kids everything in moderation except fizzy drinks. So mine never had them. Even now at 16 and 19 they would very rarely choose them. I’d have gone nuts if my parents had given mine fizzy drinks