Do people not like me cos of my weight?

[Sozsoz]

I am 10 stone overweight
and although I have friends I’m never really included in the group stuff and I just feel like I’m no one’s favourite person, I’m liked but overlooked and left out
I don’t know if it’s because of how I look or is it the person I am? I try my best to get on with people I try and be a good friend and there for them.
this weekend iv had a downward spiral as I can see lots of people iv been friends with over the years all together and it’s just never me invited or included. I’m 44, is it too late to change the narrative

👏🏻👏🏻 hahaha brilliant!!! Looks like you have been caught out lying @forthistimeonly Just as I suspected! Completely disingenuous poster!

Thanks I just worry it’s too late and I’ll just stay really lonely

also a few years ago I fell out with a friend as I had an outburst. I then blocked everything and couldn’t see a way out. I was very hurt at the time and now we are back friends again I can’t stop feeling like it’s all my fault and we may not be true friends again. I just feel like iv lost everyone and it’s a big mess

Kindly, I have no time for outbursts, blocking and that kind of drama. Life is hard enough already.
It's not the weight in itself. It's all the rest.

True. I def didn’t smell at bmi 38

friends or dh would have told me

Send her a message. Sure she would love to hear from you and maybe she’s missed you

I’m sorry you are so down /sad

contact those who you did see and arrange a meet up

I know it scary but taking the first step is the hardest.

I have some amazing friends who have got me through a shit time recently and I hope you can find some too

I just feel like iv driven everyone away

Probably, I'm ugly, people don't generally like me. TBF I am also a bit odd haha, is what it is.

We go away with a group of friends, they are all quite active, if I was 10 stone overweight I just wouldn’t be able to go away with them. We walked 10 miles on Saturday as a group. It would be quite awkward if one person was left struggling or left back at the camp. Easier to just not put anyone through that. Is it a case that they are much more active?

So you have actively chosen to not make friends with anyone obese and therefore you don't know anyone obese. It's like a racist saying "I don't know any black people"🙄

So you need therapy to help you love yourself and deal with your moodswings. And good for you to have started taking the jabs. It's really helpful for people who have food noise to the extent that you do (you said you cancel sometimes because you think about food all the time- It's like any addiction and the jabs will put a stop to that.)

It won't necessarily be your weight but your attitude in general.
You keep mentioning you look and feel shit, you cancel regularly and you are admittedly a 'bit moany'.
At 10st overweight you are excluded from many activities just because walking around much won't be possible, even afternoon drinks in the local city involves plenty of walking between bars.
Theatre, cinema, theme parks, nature walks etc are all out of the question - realistically you are limited to coffee at home or at a friend's house I would guess? Lovely but not very exciting if that's all you do together.
I don't think your friends are deliberately leaving you out but if say, 4 of them wanted to go for an afternoon walk finishing at the pub would you go?
I say this and am currently 5 st overweight!!!

Not what you asked
But I've lost 8 stone on monjroro in 10 months ,by tracking calories and exercising every day .
You could try the same ,

Cancelling and moaning would be my guess too.

Lol. I don’t believe you.

Its not because of your weight. Its because you complain and cancel plans - nobody loves unreliable or flaky behaviour.

I think that your weight is part of it too, overweight people face harsh discrimination, there is things that you can't do, people worry about the extra weight on their furniture, they worry about people staring.
I work with a really overweight lady, she is lovely, staff treat her differently and make jokes when she's not around.
She fell getting into her car, when news spread, countless people asked was the pavement cracked, before asking if she was okay.
I see pp's are denying that this could be part of the reason.

I have 2 very obese friends. Perhaps size 24-26. No idea. They are still my friends because they never cancel and are interested in books, art and the theatre ( my primary interests). Can't hike with them but that's ok.

I have 2 very slim friends who I have dropped as they are never interested in doing anything and keep cancelling. They never make the first move and always expect me to chase

You may well fall in the 2nd category.

I have reported your messages. Shame on you for being so nasty to OP who came on here as they are having a hard time and wanted some support/ help.
Keep your unpleasant comments to yourself

I said earlier in the thread, but looking into rejection sensitivity dysphoria and doing some work with a therapist or an adhd coach would probably do you the world of good.

you said about first jab - have you started Mounjaro? If so find the August / September 2025 starters thread and you’ll find lots of community.

Hear hear 👏 well done OP all the very best to you, a very positive step :)