Since when?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

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My DD starts year 7 next week. Local secondary. Nothing fancy.

She and we are respectful of uniform policy and have purchased everything we need to. She looks bloody smart and we (and she) can't wait for her to start.

As 11 year old girls will do, they have tried their whole set up in front of their friends and all of them said the same thing:

"You will get sent home with those shoes"

They throw detentions out for the most minor of uniform infractions and DD is now having a massive anxiety spiral that she's going to get a detention or worse sent home 1st day because of her shoes.

I spoke to a friend who works in the school office and showed her a picture and her response was "oooh, I'm not sure. Air Force 1s are the best way to go"

Since when have trainers been a smarter, more acceptable form of shoe than a patent loafer??!!!

For full disclosure she has chosen the Kickers Edie loafer as in the link

https://www.kickers.co.uk/adult-women-edie-loafer-patent-leather-black/14913640.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=UK+-+Kickers+-+Search+-+Brand+-+Core+-+Broad&utm_term=kickers&utm_content=brand+-+Kickers&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20162340688&gbraid=0AAAAADiNwZXHWpJ1LFmAfTE2drVjkEy8k&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwsrFBhD6ARIsAPnUFD1w_j6Ufhx1cfFv1a1fF0Ageht-fZYRGu_xo9ofOilAOdjE7KgGjEgaAoLrEALw_wcb

This school stipulates that hair past chin lemgth needs to be in a ponytail with a hair band that is the closest colour to the individuals hair colour, yet believes that a trainer is smarter/more acceptable than the loafer.

AIBU here?! I know trainers are more acceptable these days but are they really considered smarter considering how rigid they are on the smaller items?!

The schools I've worked in definitely wouldn't allow heels at that age.

While I agree AF1s are awful, neither would've been allowed in the school my DC attended. Did you really think those heels were suitable for an 11 year old?

The looks the looks...... I have literally just said I care about whether she is "smart".

If I wanted her to "look" fashionable I would have already purchased the £120 trainers.

Jesus Christ!

Of course they are high heels.

Are you serious? Why on earth did you think high heels would be acceptable in the first place. How daft

They are too high, that's the issue. I'd take them.back and get flatter loafers. Parent are great as easy to keep clean? But there is not much 'give' in them

School shoes rules are a minefield!

that said I’ve never dealt with a school whose uniform rules allowed anything patent. I would check the policy carefully.

if Air Force Ones are permitted I would DEFINITELY go with those. They are so much more comfortable and practical than almost any other “girl” options we’ve found. At the school my children attended in Canada I would say nearly 100% of the secondary age students of both genders wore these.

best of luck 🙂

No-one's putting the aesthetics of a hair bobble above the safety of a child though.

Whereas the OP is way more concerned about how her child's feet look.

I can't remember the last time a hair bobble broke a kid's ankle.

Came here to say this 😂

Yeah my childrens school wouldnt allow those heels! My dd who is going into y10 wears an amazon version of the vivienne westwood ones along with most other girls? Basically a ballet pump style 🤷‍♀️

Literally states in policy that THEY will decide which boys hair cuts are acceptable.

Almost smacks of well if a straight 9/A* student comes into school with a no 1 they will be sent home.

I don't get it.

Ok this thread has just got weirder.

You don't seem to think those huge shoes are 'heels'.

And now you're saying that smart isn't a look?

If it isn't, then what exactly is it in the context of this thread?

Same, my kids school wouldn’t accept either those high heels or trainers. Those are not what I would describe as loafers and not school shoes.

I was thinking how 90s they were!

But yes, not that heel.

The amount of pearl clutching on here tonight seriously! They are the EXACT ones we all wore in the early 00s and yet somehow we survived without falling down the stairs, deforming our feet or facing the wrath of teachers (who apparently have nothing better to do then monitor girls feet). Honestly people need to get a grip!

LOL at someone buying high heels for an 11yo to wear for school

Nope. This hasn’t been the case for years. Schools provide a logo version of some items and then alternatives that are cheaper. It’s even legislation now to offer cheaper alternatives, offer a range of second hand and also help with paying for uniform for parents who struggle financially.
Op has bought a £76 pair of (wrong) shoes - this isn’t anything to do with money or the school trying to profit from it as you imply?!
Uniform policies these days are there for a reason.
She has also immediately coughed up for a pair of Air Force 1s - pretty sure there’s a happy medium between these and the heels that op is refusing to look at!

I would like to say I don't care about how DD looks as in how she walks out the front door.....I find it odd that the school though thinks trainers are "smarter" than what she has.

Unacceptable (since my OP) clearly which I have 100% taken on board as per my PP.

Batshit isn't it?!

But you clearly do care how she looks because you keep repeating that the ridiculously high heels look smarter than the trainers.

Why do you keep saying this and then pretending you don't care about looks? 😳

The heel is waaaaaay to high. It's obvious, no?

When did the school say they think that trainers look smarter than heeled loafers? That seems to be something you've made up.

Oooff bit much for an 11 year old!

It’s about practicality and comfort as well though. Stairs, walking on busy corridors, science labs, D&T tools and equipment. Platform shoes with heels are just not appropriate.

These shoes would look completely inappropriate for a year 7 and not great for walking around lots. Very chavy with that heel, lowers the tone. It's high school, not Little Britain camp.