Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

WTF so a man dose his child’s drop offs and pick ups he must be single 🙄

Im a SAHM and my DH did all nursery drop offs and pick ups as it was easier for him to do them on his way to and from work. I only did them if a child was sick and I’d go pick them up while DH was at work. DH would also take time to attend events if there were any, with multiple children I maybe attended a couple of events for each child, usually nativities and plays and DH and I would split them so we wouldn’t have been seen together.

It still begs the question why you quoted me in the first place if you’re claiming that whatever you’re calling “predatory” actually isn’t the behaviour that I, the OP, or others were taking about?

I imagine we will never know 🙃

So that's a yes then?

Good luck OP. Don't forget to shave your legs.

Just ask him out op, you have nothing to loose.

My husband always did the nursery run as it was on his way to work.

What’s a yes?

Yes I would be very interested to know how all the partnered up judgey people on here managed it. Seems like such a narrow window for what's "socially acceptable" nowadays. So I hope they have a clear record of only dating in socially acceptable ways 😆 I can't be arsed with online dating either, wouldn't work for me. I stayed long-term single and never go out of my way to talk to any men. Very glad I took that approach now as wouldn't want to incur the wrath of some of these posters for daring to talk to a man who may or may not be single!

@Firefly1987 , the man OP is interested in has a young child, and he does all the drop offs and pick ups.
That child will have, or will have had, a mother.
A man is unlikely to have full custody if separated from the mother.

I think it is more likely that the father and mother are still together and that it is easier for him to do.

The school/nursery run is probably not the ideal place to pick up a partner.
A few discreet enquiries might establish whether Dada is single or not.

That you think he'll be single.

All to be revealed next week?

What will happen is one of:

• Dada will tell OP where to go because Mrs Dada is alive and well but has 1-yr old triplets with him and it is easier for him to do the nursery runs.
• OP makes an idiot of herself and none of the other parents speak to her again.
• Dada will say he's separated but isn't and OP becomes the OW.

I’d bet any money that you like that he’s either single, or in a gay relationship with a higher earning partner.

In our school of roughly 300 kids, there are only 4 dads who do all drop offs, pickups, and most of the daytime stuff.

Of those two are full time single dads, one is gay and is the main parent, and one is with a female partner.

Plenty of other dads do a good share of pickup and drop off but not so much that you didn’t know who the kids mum was.

Wow, how do you know/keep tabs of 300 sets of parents - their comings and goings, marital statuses and sexual orientations? I

🙏

Or, he will say "I thought you'd never ask" then they embrace, all the other parents cheer and they go off into the sunset together...

My kids have been there for 6 years and I do all the drop offs/ pick ups.

I think it’s pretty common to know all of the other parents at a small school and whilst I don’t know all of the details of all of their lives, most talk to me so I know them. Plus I’ll see them at clubs, scouts, birthday parties, school events, Christmas dos etc etc.

@MyLimeGuide

Or, he will say "I thought you'd never ask" then they embrace, all the other parents cheer and they go off into the sunset together...

Then the end credits of the romcom will come up. 😆

@PendantScorner · Today 08:22

, ...the man OP is interested in has a young child, and he does all the drop offs and pick ups. That child will have, or will have had, a mother.
A man is unlikely to have full custody if separated from the mother.
I think it is more likely that the father and mother are still together and that it is easier for him to do.

The school/nursery run is probably not the ideal place to pick up a partner.
A few discreet enquiries might establish whether Dada is single or not.

@TalkToTheHand123 · Today 09:50

All to be revealed next week?

Oh yeah, I'm sure we'll be treated to a second thread. 🙄

Why is it not an ideal place? Parents often waiting for class door to open so many parents chatting. No harm in saying hello and checking their status discretely while passing the time.

Presuming OP and target will be in the same vicinity next week so hopefully she can find out and provide an update soon. Fingers crossed for you OP.

What a strange question… do you assume women who always do the school runs are single??
There are many reasons for a man doing the school runs other than being a single
dad…..
My dear SIL is a nurse, does long shifts and starts early. So my brother does the school drop off on his way to work…. He has managed to tweak his hours so he can do this & instead works through lunch.
Often nowadays the mum is the higher earner, or in a more high powered role.
Roles are equalling out in some marriages. My brother and SIL are awesome at sharing all the roles.

@TalkToTheHand123 , if you think it's an ideal place to pick up a man or woman, who am I to argue.

A friend of mine was a stay at home dad (early mid 90's) do did all the school runs - he was the only one.
He's a really gregarious, chat to anyone type - he did say that he'd never felt so 'other' and excluded than by the school mums. He wasn't looking to date any of them - but just a friendly greeting/being invited when they all trooped off for coffee rather than being ignored.

Maybe she has an important job?? Surgeons, barristers, teachers can’t just leave their job for sports day etc…
infact I’m betting she’s a teacher and can’t get time off during term for obvious reasons… my friend is a teacher & it’s impossible for her to get time off.

It is predatory! I’d be totally freaked out if a man was commenting about me doing all drop offs and attending sports days and events for my child…
of all the school events I’ve attended I’ve never taken note about whether kids have one or both parents attend or which parent.
its slightly creepy actually!
His wife likely works in a high powered role, and maybe he does a WFH role so can attend all these things and make up his hours else where…
mor as someone said maybe he’s gay, his wife is poorly or maybe he’s widowed!…
Whatever the reason the poor man should be able to do nursery drops without wild assumptions.

Says the one stalking a man at nursery 😂😂

She said he was fit and likely standing waiting for his child out classroom door. Although if it's not the same classroom or nearby, it may not be so discrete.

Does he wear uniform? Maybe follow him?