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to think people who say they cant live without there car are stupid ?

345 replies

lins1uk · 31/05/2008 00:37

havent got a car yet, my dp is taking lessons and will be getting a car when he passes but people who say they cant live without there car are surely stupid ?
havent they heard of the bus or tram etc ?
i have two kids and one on the way and i will still use public transport when we have a car!
plus i walk 25 mins to school and 25 mins back twice a day i just think people who rely on there car for everything are just plain lazy,
i agree it is nice to have a car but its not everything!
sorry if you feel diffrent but thats how i feel!

OP posts:
Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 15:19

1, I hate the word stupid, ot is belittling to use it to call people names.

2, please revise your use of 'there' and work it out. It is THEIR!!! their their their

this is a silly thread and you will never win.......people need their cars every day if they wish to get on with earning money and simply living their lives.

some people are not so lucky to live near to good public transport, and of those of us that are, some of us would be plain mad to use it with the types of people who use it around me at times!!!

Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 15:19

1, I hate the word stupid, ot is belittling to use it to call people names.

2, please revise your use of 'there' and work it out. It is THEIR!!! their their their

this is a silly thread and you will never win.......people need their cars every day if they wish to get on with earning money and simply living their lives.

some people are not so lucky to live near to good public transport, and of those of us that are, some of us would be plain mad to use it with the types of people who use it around me at times!!!

bellavita · 31/05/2008 15:20

We also grow our own fruit and veg, recycle and freecycle, so I think we do our own bit for the environment!

By the way - we have two cars -

BouncingTurtle · 31/05/2008 15:32

Riven - I just pmsl at your spelling of government!

I noticed the OP hasn't been back, perhaps she has gone to brush up her grammar!

tiredemma · 31/05/2008 15:38

Most likely standing waiting for a bus somewhere BouncingTurtle.

hatrick · 31/05/2008 15:48

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Poohbah · 31/05/2008 15:52

Her silence speaks volumes!

mosschops30 · 31/05/2008 15:55

I imagine that if you walk to school and back twice a day that u dont work away from home.
I couldnt get ds to his childminder and then to work for 7.30am if I didnt have a car and I live in the city.
IMHO ur a bit of an idiot!

ephrinedaily · 31/05/2008 16:13

I lived in a small village where the bus came every wednesday I walked to work in a village 7 miles away every day for a 7.30 start. There was a shop (and other human beings!) there too. Had to get up very early though. However, if you can't walk very well, have a child that's too old for a buggy but not old enough to walk that far or something, would have been impossible to work. Wouldn't slag anyone for having a car (though I hate the things myself). Up to you if you think you need one.

LolaTheShowgirl · 31/05/2008 16:14

Stupid and learn how to spell OP...it's their not there, so there!!!

nametaken · 31/05/2008 16:17

YANBU

Quattrocento · 31/05/2008 16:24

I hate this thread title

Why don't you (OP) expend your energy learning to spell, rather than deriding other people's lifestyles? What about people who commute 50+ miles to work on a daily basis? What about people who don't live next door to a train station? Why can't you begin to imagine what other people's lives are like?

Oh and YABU

ephrinedaily · 31/05/2008 16:25

By the way, I think slagging off OP's spelling is a bit silly. If your arguments are good enough you shouldn't need to make other people feel stupid for not being able to spell as well as you.

harleyd · 31/05/2008 16:26

she is stupid though

sarah293 · 31/05/2008 16:26

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expatinscotland · 31/05/2008 17:11

141 posts and the OP still hasn't learned how to use the pronoun their properly.

Hopeless.

Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 17:13

expat, she has yet to return.

she may be signing up for a 'grammer' course as we type...

blueshoes · 31/05/2008 17:19

OP, you only say this because you don't have a car yet. Of course, at this point, you think you are doing fine. It is like wearing blinkers. Until you take them off, how do you know what you are missing?

IMO having a car opens up your horizons and gives you options to do lots more things. It is not just 'nice'.

Ask yourself this question one year from your dp getting a car ...

HonoriaGlossop · 31/05/2008 17:22

I drop my son at school at nine and have to be at work 5 miles away by 9.30. When I'm there, I have to visit clients in their homes/hospital/attend various meetings for them at various locations. If I used public transport I would get about one third of my current workload done in a day. I leave work (on a short day when I pick ds up) at 2.30 and zoom those miles to his school and arrive there usually in the nick of time. Just not possible if I took public transport.

public transport for me would mean changing job and putting my son in morning and afternoon club. In other words, losing alot of our current 'quality' of life

So no, in the current situation, I can't do without a car

I could if I was at home, of course; walk ds to school and back, go to high street for bits and bobs, and shop on-line. Great. But that's not all I have to do in life, unfortunately.

HonoriaGlossop · 31/05/2008 17:25

I would just like to point out that I am not trying to start a WOHM/SAHM debate, on re-reading that last sentence of mine! I am NOT saying that taking your kids to school and running a home is 'not enough' to do, just that I have stuff to do as well as that, in other places, with deadlines attached so that if the home stuff was 'all' I had it would actually be alot easier without a car

BouncingTurtle · 31/05/2008 17:26

Can't believe I didn't notice before - there is no apostrophe in cant.

BouncingTurtle · 31/05/2008 17:30

In the thread title I mean, sorry pressed the Post Message button a bit too quickly.

blueshoes · 31/05/2008 17:31

Good point, honoria. If the OP comes back, perhaps she could clarify whether she works.

My dd's school run is also 25 mins there and 25 mins back. I could do that on foot when on maternity leave. But not after I returned to work where the school run takes just 15 mins in the car. A saving of 35 mins, a windfall to a time starved WOHM who has to catch a train and commute.

Those 35X2 minutes could be all the difference between a viable job and not.

Janni · 31/05/2008 17:51

We've never owned a car and have always set up our lives in a way that precludes the need for one.

Acivities, schools, work are within walking distance to our home or a short journey on the very good public transport available.

We are lucky to have this choice.

HonoriaGlossop · 31/05/2008 17:52

phew. Thought I was going to get jumped on then for being a snooty WOHM.

I think in many jobs like mine where you're out on appointments as well as in the office, the car has been a curse really. Instead of seeing one or two clients a day and doing some in-depth quality work with them I am expected to see way more than that and just 'fit everyone in' and do the resulting work in non-existent time! I do try to stop this happening by marking out time in the diary but it's just today's climate really. It's what makes many jobs stressful

But that's by the by really.

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