Asked friend to dog sit and she said 'it was a bit inconvenient'

[Terracottafarmers]

I've asked my good friend, who’s really good with our dog, if she’d be able to look after her while we’re away for a couple of nights in December. Normally I’d ask my parents, but since they’ll be away with us, we don’t have anyone else to help.

When I asked her, she said she’d let me know, but this is already the second time I’ve had to bring it up (even though she’s looked after our dog a handful of times before). This time she made a comment I found a bit odd 'Well, you haven’t chosen dates Diana that are exactly easy'. .

I just find the comment a little strange, you either can or you can’t. To be honest, it’s made me feel like I’m being a bit of an inconvenience even asking her. The only thing is, I know if I go back and say we’ve found someone else, she’ll probably get annoyed that we chose another option.

AIBU to feel a bit taken aback?

That's called a hint OP. Take it or lose a friend.

It sounds like she is hinting these are dates which you should know are inconvenient. When’s her birthday? Or her wedding anniversary?

Aside from that I would hate to spends 4 days in someone else’s house, looking after their dog. Even if it was bigger than mine.

Did you choose Christmas or NEw Year?

Editing your OP to take out the sections people thought were most rude, then not replying to any actual comments is really Not Cool.

I hope this is some crappy reverse, but on the off-chance it has any veracity, please stop acting like you're doing anyone a favour by uprooting them for four days to live in your superior home to pick up dog shit. I say that as the owner of two dogs that are my world. Pay an in-home dog sitter. She stumbled out a rubbish response (there's no need for the microscopic analysis), but clearly doesn't want to take you up on your amazing offer, take the hint.

Yabu. Use a kennel or a dog sitting service. She clearly doesnt want too.

Has OP edited her OP to remove some of this detail? How annoying.

I’d assume she doesn’t want to do it and sort something else.

P.s. you do realise we can see your edits...

Who the fuck do you think you are that someone having to stay in your house Friday to Monday should be such a treat 🤔 😂

Of course it's inconvenient. I can't imagine anyone falling over themselves to give up a long weekend in December to look after your dog. Book boarding and perhaps next time sort your dog before you book a weekend away?

Guys, the OP has left the building after 1 post.

A friend once asked if I could look after her dog for a weekend the following month. Although I didn’t yet have plans I didn’t want to commit because it meant I couldn’t make plans - if there was a last minute family get together or friends asked us to dinner or the weather was gorgeous and we wanted to take off somewhere - I’d have to stay home.

Dogs need a lot of attention and can’t be left alone for more than a few hours. It’s December and there’s likely to be lots of things your friend would rather be doing than dog sitting!

But who's looking after the dog!!?

I think you are totally unreasonable. Of course December is inconvenient! There’s Xmas shopping, catch ups, Xmas parties etc. She won’t know any of those dates yet more than likely but is supposed to commit to dog sitting for you. With a dog you can’t just stay out after work for drinks or randomly stay overnight with a friend. It’s a massive commitment at a time of year that is very inconvenient.
Pay for a dog sitter and stop being so tight!

I don’t like letting friends down, but I detest dogs and you couldn’t pay me enough to look after one, so I would probably answer awkwardly too.

Just take the hint and sort something else out.

YABVU.

This thread is very confusing as the OP has edited out anything referencing most of the comments to make herself appear less snobby and entitled. 🤷🏻‍♀️

My thoughts exactly. I think it is very inconsiderate of you to expect someone to be at your home looking after your dog in December which can be a very busy month for most people.

Your friend obviously doesn’t want to dog sit for you……..but clearly is unable to form the words ‘sorry, I can’t help this time’ and thinks if she leaves you hanging on long enough you’ll make alternative arrangements.

Do your research now to determine the safest and best option for boarding kennels for your dog….leaving it too late might result in having to use some dubious enterprise with little knowledge of canine care because the better ones are full…..your priorities should be for the welfare of the dog who cannot speak, not someone who cannot communicate effectively despite being able to speak!

If you click on ‘edited’ below the OP’s post you can read the unedited/initial post.

You've made it very difficult for her by not giving dates. She can't do what most of us would do in this situation and tell you that she's busy on that date. She's already told you that December is inconvenient. That is actually her saying no.

Posters need to read this OP’s past threads and posts

the “friend” tradesmen who she’s pissed with

the “friend” who pisses her off because Terracottafarmers · Yesterday 22:04

Friend who always goes for completely shit men. Loves male attention, it's all she talks about and it drives me nuts.

pissed off about a cleaner not getting back to her when the OP cancelled her at eith very short notice

this op isn’t pleasant

Yep, she doesn't want to do it. It is inconvenient isn't even a hint! Stop asking her - I think your dog sitting credits have all been used up here.

I never once asked a friend to look after our dog(s). PIL used to do it but started giving out subtle hints that they didn't really want to (which was a swap from saying they love having him/them to 'we don't mind') - so we stopped asking them, and they never queried it - which confirmed it to us. We either took dog with us/didn't go/paid for a dog-sitter.

Book the kennels or homestay. Find professional dog sitter (and pay them). This is not hard. Why should your friend want to look after your dog?

@Terracottafarmers December is a busy month for everyone. you dont say if it included christmas or not.