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To ask if you'll be attending the anti fascism protest on 13 September

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Whatafustercluck · 26/08/2025 18:44

I'd like to go in solidarity with like minded people, but worry about it turning violent. I won't be taking my children and will likely be going alone. Lots of people I know detest Tommy Robinson but will stay away due to the likelihood of trouble, but I really want to help send a message that racism and hatred won't win. Is anyone here considering going, or decided to stay away?

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Teanbiscuits33 · 01/09/2025 01:55

llizzie · 01/09/2025 00:42

Having all the links at your fingertips ready to send them to anyone who has a different opinion of you endears you to no-one. Life is too short to spend it attempting to humiliate other posters.

You insult my intelligence by suggesting I am an imbecile who doesn't know what links are and how to open them. You have the right of free speech only up to the point of giving an opinion on an issue in the news etc. You do not have the right to say publicly that someone is not educated enough to understand something as simple as a link. You have discovered links make you feel more intelligent if you use them. If that what makes you roll, good for you.

I have neither time nor inclination to read anything you suggest, because I do not like the way you suggest them..

Anyone who thinks knowing all those links makes them better than anyone else is fooling themselves.

I’m not interested in having a long debate or arguing or insulting you, but what I will say is this. Throughout this thread people have provided you with facts and sensible, logical counter arguments, and every single time you have been totally dismissive and called it ‘outdated’ ‘tired’ etc.

History repeats the same patterns, always, by virtue of the human condition! It just does. You can dismiss things all you like, it doesn’t make them not true. It seems you just don’t want to face them because you have built a narrative in your head and to challenge that would be too much for you to handle.

It takes a certain strength and humility for someone to admit they are wrong, because for a lot of people, having to admit they are wrong triggers shame. Admitting you are wrong about your beliefs equates, to some people, to admitting they are fundamentally flawed because they’ve been fooled and by extension, must be an idiot. That’s why people double down on things and will not allow themselves to challenged. It really dents their sense of self worth, which these people who punch down on others don’t tend to have much of to start with.

If people like you were genuinely concerned and not just hateful, you would be interested in learning about the other side of the debate, you would want to know what was what, you would really consider things, you would challenge your beliefs of your own volition so that you could become more informed. The fact you are doubling down on your stance and dismissing everything else says that you’re not concerned, you are miserable and want any excuse to be hateful and angry towards people less fortunate than yourself. You are choosing to regurgitate things that are so easy to prove untrue or exaggerated.

This is further proved when people on the other side of the debate call people stupid, gammons, whatever other insult, and people respond with, ‘’well calling people stupid is the reason why people vote reform, you push us to it!’’ - that is nothing but spite and tantrums. People would vote to remove their own human rights and to suffer themselves just because they want people who called them stupid to suffer more. Cutting your nose off to spite your face. Silly, eh? and kind of proves the stupidity in and of itself!

It’s okay to be wrong, it’s human and it makes us more respectable when we’re able to admit we fucked up! Nobody is perfect.

llizzie · 01/09/2025 05:03

Teanbiscuits33 · 01/09/2025 01:55

I’m not interested in having a long debate or arguing or insulting you, but what I will say is this. Throughout this thread people have provided you with facts and sensible, logical counter arguments, and every single time you have been totally dismissive and called it ‘outdated’ ‘tired’ etc.

History repeats the same patterns, always, by virtue of the human condition! It just does. You can dismiss things all you like, it doesn’t make them not true. It seems you just don’t want to face them because you have built a narrative in your head and to challenge that would be too much for you to handle.

It takes a certain strength and humility for someone to admit they are wrong, because for a lot of people, having to admit they are wrong triggers shame. Admitting you are wrong about your beliefs equates, to some people, to admitting they are fundamentally flawed because they’ve been fooled and by extension, must be an idiot. That’s why people double down on things and will not allow themselves to challenged. It really dents their sense of self worth, which these people who punch down on others don’t tend to have much of to start with.

If people like you were genuinely concerned and not just hateful, you would be interested in learning about the other side of the debate, you would want to know what was what, you would really consider things, you would challenge your beliefs of your own volition so that you could become more informed. The fact you are doubling down on your stance and dismissing everything else says that you’re not concerned, you are miserable and want any excuse to be hateful and angry towards people less fortunate than yourself. You are choosing to regurgitate things that are so easy to prove untrue or exaggerated.

This is further proved when people on the other side of the debate call people stupid, gammons, whatever other insult, and people respond with, ‘’well calling people stupid is the reason why people vote reform, you push us to it!’’ - that is nothing but spite and tantrums. People would vote to remove their own human rights and to suffer themselves just because they want people who called them stupid to suffer more. Cutting your nose off to spite your face. Silly, eh? and kind of proves the stupidity in and of itself!

It’s okay to be wrong, it’s human and it makes us more respectable when we’re able to admit we fucked up! Nobody is perfect.

The OP is asking if it would be wise to go to the demonstration and side with the illegal migrants, and demonstrate against the fascists?

I AM RIGHT ABOUT THE USE OF THE WORD FASCIST. I will not apologies for saying so. I believe that implicitly. There is no one like Hitler in the world today, nor does anyone want to be associated which what that monster did.

Hitler killed people who did not match up to his Aryan race ideology. It was not just Jews either. In the 20th century there was no one his equal. He was cruel and sadistic. He invaded the countries of Europe, took captives to work as slaves in his factories to build up his military and to help the economy.

There is no one in Britain today who is doing that, or thinking of doing anything that Hitler did that can be proven.except Hamas, Hezbollah et al who have vowed to 'kill all Jews wherever they are until there are none left'.

As soon as anyone says the word 'fascist' it puts fear into the minds of children and adults alike, who know what it means in history, but who cannot understand it is just an insult. They think it is happening all over again.

It might well happen again. It depends on who wants desperately to be the only like minded people on the planet. Just saying the word makes people fear for their lives, because they know what the men did who coined it.

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 05:56

IneedAniffler · 31/08/2025 21:08

You can’t have it both ways. On one hand, you paint immigrants as a “problem” destroying the country. On the other, you happily rely on immigrant carers to look after you — carers whose skills, culture, and work you openly benefit from.

And the police officer “warning” you that your African carer “cannot be trusted”? That doesn’t prove your point — it proves theirs. It shows exactly how deep prejudice runs, even against British citizens who’ve been here for years and are vetted professionals.

You say you’ll “never support illegal immigrants,” yet the ones you’re railing against in hotels aren’t illegal — they’re in the asylum system, which the government itself runs. You know who really fuels the black economy? Employers who exploit undocumented workers. The very people you’re scapegoating are usually its victims, not its drivers.

So let’s be clear: you don’t mind immigrants when they’re keeping your life comfortable. You just mind when they’re framed as an abstract threat by the same politicians who gutted public services.

Absolutely nailed it. The playbook of ultra nationalists is not to argue by logic or reasoned argument. It's to gaslight, name call and make vague, generic put-downs such as "clutching at straws". They also try to shut down discussions by saying "shut up" .

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:14

IneedAniffler · 31/08/2025 21:04

Yes, the UK has seen high net migration — around 685,000 in 2023, down from a post-Brexit peak of 764,000 in 2022. But without migration, the UK population would already be shrinking — births no longer outpace deaths. This isn’t chaos; it’s demographic necessity.
Migrants aren’t “destroying the economy.” In fact, they contribute roughly £2.5 billion annually in taxes, and their work, study, and living costs added £37.4 billion to the UK economy. They aren’t draining the system; they are part of keeping it afloat.
Refugees and asylum seekers are just 0.54% of the UK population. Many live in poverty and are banned from working, yet if allowed to work, they could contribute £333 million per year to the economy. The “burden” narrative doesn’t hold up against the evidence.
On housing: migrants are less likely than UK-born citizens to access social housing due to strict “no recourse to public funds” rules and local residency requirements. The idea that they’re “jumping the queue” is a myth.
Division isn’t caused by their presence — it’s caused by misinformation, scapegoating, and populist rhetoric. Refugees didn’t bankrupt councils or slash budgets. Politicians did.

From what I've seen of you you are not keen on information, but just in case you ahve changed your mind:

The Guardian – Labour must debunk Farage’s migrant myths
Migration Observatory – The impact of migration on UK population growth
Refugee Action – Facts about refugees
International Rescue Committee – 11 myths about refugees debunked
Chartered Institute of Housing – Dispelling myths about migrants and housing
DavidsonMorris – Migrants’ economic contributions
IAS Services – Effect of immigration on the UK economy
Refugees didn’t break Britain. Lies about them did.

Furthermore:

The provisional net migration estimate for the UK in the year ending December 2024 was 431,000, which is almost half the level of the previous year. This decrease was mainly due to fewer people arriving on work and study visas.

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:28

IneedAniffler · 31/08/2025 21:26

yep it's easy. sorry if you can't keep up but from what we have seen so far, you don't know basic history. so with kindness, I suggest you do a bit of learnin'.

Well I appreciate your blatant gaslighting, as it just shows everyone watching this post exactly what playbook is used by Reform supporters. They suspected it of course, but it's lovely to get proof in writing. So, to coin a phrase you like, keep up the gaslighting.

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:32

FrippEnos · 31/08/2025 21:23

If we are going to do some history on it

Karen also came about as a middle aged white woman that would use her race to call the police against POC/BAME/Black people to get them in trouble.
But that is no longer how it is used or who it is used by.

I can't make head nor tail of what you are saying. The grammar seems all wrong. But nobody cares about the chronology of a term. They want to know its current usage.

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:38

Hedgehogged · 31/08/2025 21:31

Not provably the most fiddling but it's fairly safe to say they're firmly in the Premier League, with no danger of relegation.

You are misinformed.

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/childsexualabuseinenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2019

Please note these extracts from the report

The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) estimated that 7.5% of adults aged 18 to 74 years experienced sexual abuse before the age of 16 years (3.1 million people); this includes both adult and child perpetrators.
The abuse was most likely to have been perpetrated by a friend or acquaintance (37%); around a third (30%) were sexually abused by a stranger.

This doesn't make the crimes any less heinous but gives some perspective.

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Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:45

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:38

You are misinformed.

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/childsexualabuseinenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2019

Please note these extracts from the report

The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) estimated that 7.5% of adults aged 18 to 74 years experienced sexual abuse before the age of 16 years (3.1 million people); this includes both adult and child perpetrators.
The abuse was most likely to have been perpetrated by a friend or acquaintance (37%); around a third (30%) were sexually abused by a stranger.

This doesn't make the crimes any less heinous but gives some perspective.

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I thought the question being asked was which religion is responsible for most paedophilia. I can't see why it would be asked in any other way. Clearly it must have been.

What you mention is very common knowledge, or it should be. Indeed any form of abuse, including murder, is usually by a perpetrator known the victim, typically in a domestic environment. Be careful to whom you fall in love.

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:48

@IneedAniffler From Full Fact

There is no single "correct" answer to the question of how much immigrants contribute to public finances
The net fiscal impact of immigration is the difference between the taxes and other contributions migrants make to public finances, and the costs of the benefits and public services they receive.
Establishing the fiscal impact of immigration is a challenge both in theory and in practice. Not everyone agrees on how to calculate it, which makes it difficult to make strong claims about the exact size of the fiscal impact of immigration. In particular, assumptions need to be made about:

  • How immigration affects the costs of providing public services.
  • Conceptual matters include things like what costs to attribute to immigrants, such as the costs of educating the UK-born children of immigrants, or the cost of things like defence spending that do not necessarily depend on the size of the immigrant population.
  • Practical matters include things like data limitations – for example estimates of taxes paid depend on earnings, but there are no statistics on what immigrants earn if they are self-employed, nor on the number or earnings of seasonal workers.
  • Whether to take a snapshot of the fiscal impact in a given year or period based on historical data (the "static approach"), or attempt to consider impacts over immigrants' entire lifetimes (the “dynamic” approach).
misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:54

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:45

I thought the question being asked was which religion is responsible for most paedophilia. I can't see why it would be asked in any other way. Clearly it must have been.

What you mention is very common knowledge, or it should be. Indeed any form of abuse, including murder, is usually by a perpetrator known the victim, typically in a domestic environment. Be careful to whom you fall in love.

Edited

These stats are from USA.

I have no reason to believe they wouldn't be similar in UK

  • *A 2018 study by three criminologists revealed that hundreds of claims of sexual abuse are made every year against pastors and other Protestant church leaders (despite the fact that most Protestant pastors are married). According to the study’s authors:
    Three faith-based insurance companies that provide coverage for 165,500 churches—mostly Protestant Christian churches and 5500 other religious-oriented organizations—reported 7,095 claims of alleged sexual abuse by clergy, church staff, congregation members, or volunteers between 1987 and 2007. This is an average of 260 claims of alleged sexual abuse per year, which resulted in $87.8 million in total claims being paid.

  • I would argue that s*ex abuse isn't a distinctly religious problem.
    A 2004 report from the U.S. Department of Education indicated that one out of ten public school students experience some kind of unwanted sexual advance from an educator. Two-thirds of those students say the advance involved some kind of physical contact. According to the report’s author, “more than 4.5 million students are subject to sexual misconduct by an employee of a school sometime between kindergarten and twelfth grade.”

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 06:59

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:54

These stats are from USA.

I have no reason to believe they wouldn't be similar in UK

  • *A 2018 study by three criminologists revealed that hundreds of claims of sexual abuse are made every year against pastors and other Protestant church leaders (despite the fact that most Protestant pastors are married). According to the study’s authors:
    Three faith-based insurance companies that provide coverage for 165,500 churches—mostly Protestant Christian churches and 5500 other religious-oriented organizations—reported 7,095 claims of alleged sexual abuse by clergy, church staff, congregation members, or volunteers between 1987 and 2007. This is an average of 260 claims of alleged sexual abuse per year, which resulted in $87.8 million in total claims being paid.

  • I would argue that s*ex abuse isn't a distinctly religious problem.
    A 2004 report from the U.S. Department of Education indicated that one out of ten public school students experience some kind of unwanted sexual advance from an educator. Two-thirds of those students say the advance involved some kind of physical contact. According to the report’s author, “more than 4.5 million students are subject to sexual misconduct by an employee of a school sometime between kindergarten and twelfth grade.”

Like most people in the UK, I am not religious and don't distinguish between different factions of Christianity. Most people are simply shocked that a person preaching good versus evil should do anything so vile.

Rhirhi874 · 01/09/2025 07:16

DreamyBalonz I was thinking the exact same thing. I am not racist in the slightest, it's about our children's future.

Sausagenbacon · 01/09/2025 07:34

It’s fine to have concerns, but go about asking those questions in the right way.
Aha, now the tone policing.
So like women being criticised for expressing concern on Gender Issues - be nice, be kind. And, whatever you do, don't be angry.

Sausagenbacon · 01/09/2025 07:36

The abuse was most likely to have been perpetrated by a friend or acquaintance (37%); around a third (30%) were sexually abused by a stranger.
This doesn't make the crimes any less heinous but gives some perspective.

Yet again. This conveniently ignores the proportion of each group that commits sexual crimes. I.e. is a distortion of the truth

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 07:50

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 06:44

@IneedAniffler https://facts4eu.org/news/2024_jan_money_for_migrants

shows how much money we lose via migrants ^

Yes it's a depressing figure and very few people disagree about the need to take control of our borders.
The gist of what and I others dislike is blaming the migrants for this. They did what one would expect from all humans, staying alive after fleeing danger such as civil war in Syria. The UK governments has to step up on reducing irregular migration. And what's also unreasonable is suggesting that one bad apple in 137 means the whole barrel is condemned as "terrifying". I suggest THEY are are the terrified ones, with people protesting metres from their accommodation.

Hedgehogged · 01/09/2025 08:03

Sausagenbacon · 01/09/2025 07:36

The abuse was most likely to have been perpetrated by a friend or acquaintance (37%); around a third (30%) were sexually abused by a stranger.
This doesn't make the crimes any less heinous but gives some perspective.

Yet again. This conveniently ignores the proportion of each group that commits sexual crimes. I.e. is a distortion of the truth

Dead end if you want that.
Official government crime statistics in the United States, such as those from the FBI or the Bureau of Justice Statistics, do not typically collect or publish data on sexual convictions broken down by the religion of the offender.
Same situation when I asked about UK.

misoandchips · 01/09/2025 08:25

Sausagenbacon · 01/09/2025 07:36

The abuse was most likely to have been perpetrated by a friend or acquaintance (37%); around a third (30%) were sexually abused by a stranger.
This doesn't make the crimes any less heinous but gives some perspective.

Yet again. This conveniently ignores the proportion of each group that commits sexual crimes. I.e. is a distortion of the truth

It is incredibly difficult to collect accurate statistics for this for many reasons.

Both myself and a childhood friend were sexually abused as children. Myself by a stranger and my friend by her stepfather.

In both cases our mothers didn't believe us.

My abuser was caught when he abused another girl who was believed. My friend's relationship with her mother became none-existent and she married early to get away from home.

BundleBoogie · 01/09/2025 08:44

llizzie · 31/08/2025 20:50

I remember in covid Starmer accusing the conservative government of giving out contract to ''friends'' who were profiting from them.

Now the tables have turned, and government 'friends' who own hotels and boarding houses, rental properties are absolutely rolling in the profits of having their places filled all the time and guaranteed payment.

Who is the owner of the Bell Hotel, who shared the cost of the appeal with the government? How long has he been here? Is he legal? How many of the owners of migrant hotels are British citizens? We should know, because they are being given our income tax to make them millionaires, while British nationals are homeless and living on benefits.

They have also significantly influenced the British nationals (who are all colours, creeds) to campaign on their side, thus increasing their income even more.

Think of the many single families chucked out of their homes because the government is giving them more money to house migrants.

Don't posters on here who are all for letting everyone in think the landlords should not be given more than the normal rent? What are hotel owners getting from housing migrants? The usual B&B price or a premium?

Those are the sort of questions posters should be asking, not using expletives and dragging down the UK.

Exactly. Not to mention the government fuelling the trade of the people traffickers transporting would be asylum seekers across the Channel.

While the marketing blurb they can use can publicise free hotel accommodation, free food, games room, new clothes and phone if needed - that’s going to attract plenty of non asylum seekers trying their luck. Why wouldn’t it?

IneedAniffler · 01/09/2025 08:47

llizzie · 01/09/2025 00:42

Having all the links at your fingertips ready to send them to anyone who has a different opinion of you endears you to no-one. Life is too short to spend it attempting to humiliate other posters.

You insult my intelligence by suggesting I am an imbecile who doesn't know what links are and how to open them. You have the right of free speech only up to the point of giving an opinion on an issue in the news etc. You do not have the right to say publicly that someone is not educated enough to understand something as simple as a link. You have discovered links make you feel more intelligent if you use them. If that what makes you roll, good for you.

I have neither time nor inclination to read anything you suggest, because I do not like the way you suggest them..

Anyone who thinks knowing all those links makes them better than anyone else is fooling themselves.

Guess what? I'm not here to endear myself to anyone. It's a forum, not a debutante ball.

So let me get this straight: you don’t like links, you won’t read evidence, you admit you’ve no inclination to look at sources but somehow I’m the problem for having them. That isn’t a debate position, that’s just announcing you prefer ignorance.
Nobody said you were incapable of opening a link I said you refuse to engage with information. And you’ve just confirmed that yourself in black and white.
Free speech isn’t “only up to the point” where it flatters you. If you’re going to throw opinions into a discussion, expect people to test them against facts. If you can’t handle that, maybe stick to echo chambers where “feelings over facts” is the standard.
The truth is, evidence doesn’t make me “better” it just makes me right. What makes you worse off is proudly rejecting it.

BundleBoogie · 01/09/2025 08:48

FrippEnos · 31/08/2025 21:03

"They're" an interesting term that in this case others people.

You still haven't made your case for being nuanced.

Gosh, is that poster still excusing racism when its against white people?

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BundleBoogie · 01/09/2025 08:54

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 31/08/2025 21:14

I don’t quite get your point. Mine is:

  • ‘gammon’ is not a racist term (it may be offensive, rude etc, but it’s not racist)
  • the people who throw the term around are half-wits who devote their lives to Labour or other left-wing politics
  • these left-wing people are too stupid and out of touch to take seriously
  • therefore, anyone who is called a gammon should take heart from the fact that the person using the term is a dribbling idiot

I agree either way your final bullet point but I am interested in how you conclude that gammon is not racist when it is a word specifically based on the appearance of a white person.

Are there any equivalent pejorative words used specifically to refer to the looks of a brown or black person that are not deemed to be racist?

MyLimeGuide · 01/09/2025 08:55

llizzie · 01/09/2025 00:52

You can pay management a fee and access all the posts anyone has ever posted. Why anyone would want to do that, taking up their time, is obvious, and it must be worth it otherwise they wouldn't charge for it.

I believe all of my genius posts to be worth paying for!! 😂Thankyou llizzie x

IneedAniffler · 01/09/2025 08:56

llizzie · 01/09/2025 00:46

Are you always so patronising?.

I think you find everything patronising because you argue from a point of refusing to engage with real information, preferring your fictitious narrative.

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