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Shitty text from friend about new boyfriend

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123Bree · 25/08/2025 16:00

One of my friends has a new Boyfriend who we met for the first time yesterday (myself and DP).

We went to a local pub where they had a bank holiday event on, a DJ and BBQ etc.

Her Bf seemed a nice guy to begin with, but got progressively drunk as the afternoon progressed. He started making a few comments, mainly commenting on other people in the bar where we were sat and also outside as we were looking over the garden where the DJ was.

A woman was stood up from her table and dancing. The Bf said that he bets she will be on all fours tonight. I asked what he meant. He said her partner will be in for a good night. I said that’s a strange thing to assume from someone dancing and he mumbled a reply.

We left soon after (it was reaching the time we said we’d go anyway).

My friend messaged me last night asking why I created an atmosphere and that I was being uptight(!) to have said that to him when he was just having a laugh. I replied to say I found the comment offensive and I’m not going to pretend otherwise. She read the message and hasn’t replied.

Was I OTT to say something?!

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Recoveringpeoplepleaser · 10/11/2025 11:25

Both this man and your friend sound ick. you called him out, i wouldn't have because i cant deal with confrontation but i definitely wouldnt see her again in his presence.

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