Husband has extreme right wing views

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Not sure if this is the right place to post as it's not an AIBU but more of I think my husband is being and I'm not sure what to do about it.

He's getting caught up in some quite extreme right wing views in regards to migrants. Complains about how they're coming in, being housed in hotels, paid allowances etc. with no checks and how crime rates such as rape are now ten fold etc. He thinks Trump is great 😪 He's very intelligent so I'm not sure how he's managed to get caught up in this extremist view point.

WWYD?

Sucked into what, having an opinion? Better not, can’t risk having any.

They might not be fine having a right wing FIL tho 😬😬

Have you ever considered even for a millisecond that you might be the one who is wrong, intolerant and bigoted?

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There is a huge turn in the tide when it comes to Joe Public’s political leaning. Look at the protest yesterday in Liverpool. Violent, noisy, hostile. What started as a few people at a few hotels is taking over city centres now. People want Starmer gone, the border under lock and key and mass deportation. If things continue to move at this pace, I think we’ll have a Reform government with Farage at the helm.

I have not moved goalposts.

Learn to read the names of those writing posts.

No, they’re demonstrating the freedom of choice over who to share a bed/their life with.

Sorry, but calling somebody that you don’t know ‘a truly horrible person and saying ‘He will never change ’ for holding these views is ridiculous and also quite offensive. Aside from his awful views, you have no idea what he is like otherwise:
Of course people can sometimes change, if calmly and convincingly presented with the facts. He might not, but crazy to tell someone to leave a marriage without even trying to address the issues. What about the children involved?
Many people, myself included, would find his views abhorrent. They are however views being expressed and whipped up by a great deal of people in the UK. There are genuinely held concerns about lots of elements of immigration/asylum seeking in this country.

Why not just give her a slap? Perhaps you would be agreeable to that. Plenty on MN have lived that dream. Ask them how it turned out

Leave. He’s not intelligent. He’s a moron.

No one is saying that there isn’t a problem with male sexual violence.

What I am saying is, how stupid can we be to make a bad problem EVEN WORSE by allowing young males from grossly misogynistic cultures into your country?

Or to put it another way, why do you care about the safety of refugee men more than the safety of local women?

It’s not “controlling” to decide who you will and will not be in romantic partnerships with.

People often ask, how did normal German families allow the Nazis to happen.

We know, we can see. It's because when it comes to real people it is hard to intervene or walk away.

He needs help being deradicalized. Have you asked for advice and support. Prevent have good resources on spotting radicalization, and how to motivate it. You need help and support.

But, if that does not work. Then he will likely only get more extreme. Are you happy with your children bring around that?

Those are not “extreme right wing views”.

To add: me and my DH have different views on some subjects. We debate now and then. I'm centre, he's a little more right leaning. I just avoid too much political talk or just Google on my phone going "mmmn" whilst he's getting his opinions out (although he doesn't say anything extreme, just things I don't necessarily agree with ) but I accept people are allowed to hold different views. I'd leave if he was going out with a balaclava and a pitchfork or calling people names in the street. But , if it's just words and opinions in his own home , I don't think it's fair to be the thought police.

As I said earlier though, people who are centric/right of centre/right wing don't seem to have such have an issue with left wing people and their left wing views. And they certainly never spew out bile and vitriol and hateful shit like they are 'thick as mince' and 'uneducated' and 'low class.'

But 'the left' are full of hate and bile for ANYone who thinks differently to them. It's a bit George Orwell isn't it? 😬

Not sure what you think it will happen if she divorces him? he is their father, they will still grow up listening to his views...

To have freedom in who to share a bed and life with - that’s great.

But the freedom to think and to have opinions is bad?

They’re demonstrating freedom of the internet to spout bollocks more like. Not a single one of them would up and “LTB” in reality over this, assuming a single one of them was in a relationship to begin with.

Of course but there is no way to apply for asylum from outside UK as things stand now.

Deliberate tangent

Grown ups can tolerate opinions that are not the same as theirs

So many people on here embarrassing themselves with their childish controlling views

I don’t know what the fuck has happened to middle class women.

Saying there is now a chasm where shared values used to be implies that you no longer share values.

I have already said OP is in a far more difficult position. It’s not a concern I would ever have because a man inclined this way would never be interested in me nor I him.

But kids make it harder and with kids I cannot imagine physically separating even if I became married in name only.

Is that you Greg Wallace?

It's a national security concern for so many undocumented illegal immigrants to be entering the country. The Home Office are concerned, so I don't see why it's wrong for your husband to also be concerned.

The uproar is over undocumented illegal immigrants, not genuine asylum seekers.

He claims to really care about the rate at which women are abused but thinks Trump is great despite his “grab em by the pussy” comment and history of dozens of accusations of sexual assault?

Is he only bothered when the perpetrators aren’t white (or orange) then?

Knew we’d get round to the Nazis soon enough 🙄 If all else fails…

De-radicalised? You can’t be serious.