Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

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my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

Id expect a cup to be filled to .5/1cm from the top. My family would absolutely comment if they were less than that. And the fact your husband agrees with her means you must be under filling.

That said, neither of them should have treated you the way they did.

I have a bean to cup coffee machine and even a 'long' coffee only 3/4 fills a mug. I would rather have that than a completely full mug of instant. It's not rocket science to have a refill if I need it.
Your sister and husband sound extremely unpleasant.

Her behaviour was obviously way out of order, but my in-laws and husband do this with drinks too - they leave literally an inch or more to the top of the cup/glass. Wicks me off.

What? Weighing water? Ummm... no.

Mind you I was bought up thinking Nescafe was posh and now get called a snob because I only drink instant if I really have to. But I but ground coffee, chuck some in the cafetiere and eyeball the amount.

I think the coffee is the least of your problems here. The behaviour however is absolutely bonkers, now that would worry me, Definitely don't make her anymore coffee

Me too, but a surprising number of people seem to be under the impression that if you go round someone’s house you should expect five-star service and every whim anticipated and catered to.
OP, your sister sounds like my friend’s 10-year-old child with suspected ADHD and some trauma and boundary issues. She wouldn’t be welcome in my home again after shouting in my face and lunging at me.
My DP would also have some explaining to do if he joined in with childish bullying.

I’d love to hear the other side of this.

I never fil to top as I spill it everywhere. She was extremely rude

Are you sure this is just about coffee?! Sounds like this was just an opportunity for your sister to lose it with you and your husband to join in!
Text your sister not to come over anymore and have firm words with your husbands about his behaviour…

I agree with this.

You're being bullied and it's awful your 'd'h joined in.

I don’t think it’s insanity, think she’s a see you next Tuesday 😅 (lighthearted response - I agree, it sounds unhinged!)

This is really weird. Surely if she’d drank her “half-cup” and wanted some more you’d make her another one? It wasn’t rationed? She sounds unhinged.

She screamed at you and shouted in your face?
is she suffering some sort of personality disorder?

On the surface, this sounds like a ridiculous reaction (the sister).

But I've been around the block enough times to know that people can retell stories like this that sound utterly unhinged until you hear the rest of it.

Basically because, most people tend to make drinks how other people prefer them rather than doggedly insist on doing it one way - so what if she wants more coffee? It's easy enough to accommodate. But also because it would be unusual for someone's sister and husband to over react so spectacularly over something so trivial.

It was a ridiculous reaction but to an already ridiculous scenario.

I suspect there's a bigger picture here.

See, that’s what happens when someone you love makes you a drink - you like it anyway.

Yes, I suspect there is a great deal of hyperbole in the description of her behaviour. If she actually did exactly as described I’d have been straight on the phone requesting emergency assessment for a sudden psychiatric episode. It’s so unhinged that there’s no way you’d just carry on as if it hadn’t happened.

Tell her and your DH to fuck off

Well clearly this isn't actually about coffee. It's exactly the kind of deranged, ridiculous, escalated displacement insanity that would happen in my family though.

Solidarity OP. My FIL is the same. Fills to the brim then sloshes coffee all over my new carpets as he walks up the stairs. Although he’s been told countless times. It’s unbearable. He’s the same with a pint in the pub, holds the glass at an angle that the beer is teetering on its way out and down the person next to him.

With the coffee it’s like he deliberately does it to goad me now, saying ‘see, I didn’t spill it’ as I watch him doing exactly that!

Yep!
How bloody rude of the pair of them

she's unhinged. I hope she doesn't have any children.

Your sister’s behaviour is the main issue here regardless of how much coffee is in the cup. If someone made a coffee for me, it could literally be half full and I wouldn’t act like that. And your husband joining in with her is odd, they both sound like a pair of tw@ts.

Also, why is she in your house that much? Imagine doing that and then taking the piss out of you. Put some boundaries down.

I fill mine to the top as if I do it in the machine and froth the milk, the milk is thick and doesn't spill. For some reason I don't register that non-frothy milk isn't so well-behaved so overfill when I make instant, and spill it a lot. If good friend / family underfilled it I might top it up myself, but I wouldn't start yelling at them and trying to make them spill it. That's very weird.

I would not be making either her or your DH a hot drink again. Your sister sounds like a fucking lunatic.

Why is she around your house three times a week? I think bad behaviour should not be rewarded so I’d be out/too busy to see her for a while. I bet she will kick off about that as well but that’s her prerogative.

BTW my DP often leave a bigger gap at the top of a hot drink than I do. No has died so far!