Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

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my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

Molehills and mountains come to mind.

Your sister and husband are both very rude and I wouldn't be keen on having her round to my house again in a hurry.

In answer to your other question though, yes, it is normal to fill cups and mugs up close to the top. I get annoyed if presented with half a cup of tea or coffee. I like it filled to half to 1 cm below the rim of the cup/mug. I wouldn't be so rude as to say anything to the person hosting me who had made it though. I'd keep it to myself because it really doesn't matter that much as a one-off.

Yeah but do you dance around yelling and shouting "oooh don't spill it" in their face?!
She sounds deranged.

I don't drink coffee but also don't particularly like a cup of tea where there's too little in it. Don't ask me why, but it's wrong.

I think we need the OP to give us an honest photo of her coffee based offerings.

Surely you’re weighing the coffee beans and water anyway so the brewing ratio is correct? You wouldn’t be able to just fill the cup up after the coffee has brewed because you’d need to grind more coffee

Not yet, but if it meant I got a proper cup of coffee the next time I'd give it a go.

Almost to the top yes
Half a cup full no

let Her pour the water herself

That looks like murky water, not tea or coffee.

In a restaurant a lot of coffees do come filled right to the brim but agree in a home people usually leave a small gap so as not to spill. It depends how much of a gap you’re leaving though. I have a friend who we jokingly say only fills half cups of tea/ coffee; in reality she is probably filling the cup up to between 2/3 and 3/4 but is still leaving far more of a cup than necessary. Assuming you have a steady hand then you only need to leave half a cm to a cm or so, that’s more than enough space for unless you are running with the coffee!

Exactly! I have no idea why people are chiming in in defence of the sil.

So this sounds like frustration boiling over after years of asking several times a week for a fuller cup.

Obviously she shouldn’t have behaved badly. But why can’t she have a decent size cup of coffee?

DM makes me use ridiculously small cups at her house. I want an actual drink because I’m thirsty, not a ration.

I would probably have filled the cup about 85% full, but if I'd received a cup of coffee that was less volume than I wanted I might have asked for more up front or, if I was unsatisfied after finishing it, asked for a refill. Given how upset she became, it sounds like your sister was perhaps at the breaking point over something else, and I wouldn't call it "hysterics".

I would worry more about your husband as he performed over something that had absolutely nothing to do with him.

Thank you for being the one to say that 😂. I was trying to work out what sort of tea it is because it’s certainly not a cup of “tea.”

Sounds like a storm in a teacup

Last time she would be near my home.
Sister is unhinged and your husband a twat.

Never fill a cup beyond 3/4 way up.
Basic cop on not to over fill.

Text her that you need space.

She sounds like the kind of person who thinks a big portion is a good portion.

I only really drink espresso so she'd it hate my house.

What a ridiculous over reaction in the first place, and then to literally make a song and dance about it is insane.

It is also ridiculous that your DH joined in with her, why didn't he just stay out of it.

I am trying to picture the scene and honestly it's absolutely batshit behaviour from both of them.

Mil fills hers to the top, I fill mine to about a cm from the top depending on the cup or mug.

No song and dance ever ensues.

Going against the grain here but I think you are pretty odd for repeatedly ignoring her requests for a full cup. Why not just give her the coffee she asked for or at least tell her to make her own? Seems bizarrely stubborn on your part.

That looks grim

She actually ‘screamed’? Screamed in your face about coffee? Really?

I have a full cup & don't like a tide out cup, but I certainly wouldn't behave as your sister did. Is your relationship like this generally?

DH got a bid carried away, didn't he. Does he act the dick regularly?

I am struggling to make sense of this. None of it seems real!

Assuming it did happen, then DH is as bad as your sister.

I wouldn't be inviting her again, and if she has a habit of turning up at about the same time on set days, then I would be out at that time. Let DH make her coffee.

That "tea" is a crime.

It's not the coffee.
Your sister and husband are bullying you.
Put a stop to it.

In our house we are jokingly petty with each other... passive aggressive humour. (But we all do it.) so she'd have a full cup next time... a cup, not a mug, in fact as smaaaaaall a cup as I could find, full to the brim with hot coffee. "Watch, it's hot", "don't spill it now", "hope it is full enough for you", "I know you like a full cup"... etc.. give as good as you get.