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Husband has got extreme views

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UnsureDifferences · 24/08/2025 01:29

Name change on this to protect myself and family.
So my DH has over the past few years got more and more what I would call extreme views. He is into conspiracy theories, it started off by watching a few videos and being curious and now he full thinks that the illuminati are out to enslave us and talks about the earth being flat, which he is not sure about but goes on about it.
He is also fearful of immigration and is saying he will go on the marches and that we are being take over and that we need to be prepared.
I am an easy going educated person who leans slightly left and believes in science.
This is really getting me down as I am not sure I can be with him anymore if this is who he is now.
Aibu to leave him for having these different views. Or is it managable to continue on.
One part of me thinks it is similar to two people of different faiths being married, is this possible? Has anyone had a good relationship with someone with opposite political or religious views to them?
Any ideas as to what to do here.
Everything else is fine in our relationship

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Phobiaphobic · 26/08/2025 10:10

MiloMinderbinder925 · 26/08/2025 10:02

The UN are giving credence to the Great Replacement theory?

If you'd actually bothered to read through the thread instead of leaping in with the snark, you'd have seen the link to the report.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 26/08/2025 10:17

Phobiaphobic · 26/08/2025 10:10

If you'd actually bothered to read through the thread instead of leaping in with the snark, you'd have seen the link to the report.

UN Rights Chief Warns 'Great Replacement' Theory Inspiring Violence
By
AFP - Agence France Presse
March 04, 2024, 7:26 am EST

The pernicious "'great replacement' conspiracy theories" spreading in many countries are "delusional" and racist and are directly spurring violence, the United Nations rights chief warned on Monday.

United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights Volker Turk also took aim at the "war on woke", which he stressed was "really a war on inclusion".

Speaking before the UN Human Rights Council in Geneva, Turk insisted that racially mixed and multicultural societies were not something to fear but should be seen as a benefit to people everywhere.

"In many countries including in Europe and North America I am concerned by the apparently growing influence of so-called 'great replacement' conspiracy theories, based on the false notion that Jews, Muslims, non-white people and migrants seek to 'replace' or suppress countries' cultures and peoples," he said.

"These delusional and deeply racist ideas have directly influenced many perpetrators of violence."

That's not an endorsement.

Solo · 27/08/2025 07:27

glassesandbeer · 24/08/2025 12:29

What on earth makes you think one can't be an atheist RE teacher? I have a masters in religion. We had openly atheist lecturers. Openly atheist students like myself.

It absolutely baffles me that people think religion is the one area of human life and experience that one cannot study unless you are an adherent. No one thinks you have to be a Nazi to study Nazi Germany. No one thinks you need to be Chinese to study China. No one thinks you need to be an integer to study maths.

So why this weird blind spot that you need to be religious to study religion?

Did I ask you? And did i say it wasn't possible?
I asked a simple question and was answered civilly. Stop seeing an issue where there isn't one.

Phobiaphobic · 27/08/2025 10:27

MiloMinderbinder925 · 26/08/2025 10:17

UN Rights Chief Warns 'Great Replacement' Theory Inspiring Violence
By
AFP - Agence France Presse
March 04, 2024, 7:26 am EST

The pernicious "'great replacement' conspiracy theories" spreading in many countries are "delusional" and racist and are directly spurring violence, the United Nations rights chief warned on Monday.

United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights Volker Turk also took aim at the "war on woke", which he stressed was "really a war on inclusion".

Speaking before the UN Human Rights Council in Geneva, Turk insisted that racially mixed and multicultural societies were not something to fear but should be seen as a benefit to people everywhere.

"In many countries including in Europe and North America I am concerned by the apparently growing influence of so-called 'great replacement' conspiracy theories, based on the false notion that Jews, Muslims, non-white people and migrants seek to 'replace' or suppress countries' cultures and peoples," he said.

"These delusional and deeply racist ideas have directly influenced many perpetrators of violence."

That's not an endorsement.

I never said it was an endorsement. But the fact is that the United Nations published a paper in 2000 called Replacement Migration which examined how it might be achieved in countries with low birth rates. My point was given even the United Nations was discussing it, the great replacement theory was not pure conspiracy theory.

RhaenysRocks · 27/08/2025 10:39

Phobiaphobic · 27/08/2025 10:27

I never said it was an endorsement. But the fact is that the United Nations published a paper in 2000 called Replacement Migration which examined how it might be achieved in countries with low birth rates. My point was given even the United Nations was discussing it, the great replacement theory was not pure conspiracy theory.

It absolutely is in the sense that it is being used by the tin foil brigade. Nuance is everything.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 27/08/2025 12:46

Phobiaphobic · 27/08/2025 10:27

I never said it was an endorsement. But the fact is that the United Nations published a paper in 2000 called Replacement Migration which examined how it might be achieved in countries with low birth rates. My point was given even the United Nations was discussing it, the great replacement theory was not pure conspiracy theory.

I can only imagine that this stems from a fundamental misunderstanding of what the GRT is.

There is absolutely no way that the UN believes that white Europeans are purposefully being replaced by non white people due to some kind of elitist collusion.

It's a racist conspiracy theory which has been condemed by them in no uncertain terms, as I demonstrated above.

Phobiaphobic · 27/08/2025 23:02

MiloMinderbinder925 · 27/08/2025 12:46

I can only imagine that this stems from a fundamental misunderstanding of what the GRT is.

There is absolutely no way that the UN believes that white Europeans are purposefully being replaced by non white people due to some kind of elitist collusion.

It's a racist conspiracy theory which has been condemed by them in no uncertain terms, as I demonstrated above.

God almighty. I never said the UN believes the conspiracy theory, I said that the theory that mass immigration is a planned is in part based on the existence of that March 2000 UN report, which Renaud Camus, who is credited as the author of the great replacement theory, had certainly read when he wrote his book Le Grand Remplacement in 2011.

The UN literally explored the possibility that European countries take in large numbers of migrants to offset the falling birth rate, but of course anyone referring to that report, an actual real thing that the UN actually wrote, is labelled a conspiracy theorist. Here is an article about this very phenomenon: gript.ie/the-forgotten-un-report-on-replacement-migration/

But thank you for providing the opportunity yet again to throw some sunlight on the origins of the conspiracy theory and UN's exploration of Replacement Migration through its report of that name.

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