Husband has got extreme views

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Name change on this to protect myself and family.
So my DH has over the past few years got more and more what I would call extreme views. He is into conspiracy theories, it started off by watching a few videos and being curious and now he full thinks that the illuminati are out to enslave us and talks about the earth being flat, which he is not sure about but goes on about it.
He is also fearful of immigration and is saying he will go on the marches and that we are being take over and that we need to be prepared.
I am an easy going educated person who leans slightly left and believes in science.
This is really getting me down as I am not sure I can be with him anymore if this is who he is now.
Aibu to leave him for having these different views. Or is it managable to continue on.
One part of me thinks it is similar to two people of different faiths being married, is this possible? Has anyone had a good relationship with someone with opposite political or religious views to them?
Any ideas as to what to do here.
Everything else is fine in our relationship

One thing to watch out for nowadays is "AI psychosis"

A stern lesson to me, I bloody love AI (but do not rely on it for investments advice or as a romantic "relationship" 🤔😆🤡)

What on earth makes you think one can't be an atheist RE teacher? I have a masters in religion. We had openly atheist lecturers. Openly atheist students like myself.

It absolutely baffles me that people think religion is the one area of human life and experience that one cannot study unless you are an adherent. No one thinks you have to be a Nazi to study Nazi Germany. No one thinks you need to be Chinese to study China. No one thinks you need to be an integer to study maths.

So why this weird blind spot that you need to be religious to study religion?

That doesn't make any sense. If the teacher is Hindu are they saying don't believe the crap they put into lessons for all the other religions, or if they are Christian are they saying the others are all crap. The teachers aren't there to promote their own religious brand, it is educate about the others.

Somebody deciding to have faith in something absent hard evidence is one thing. Somebody stridently ignoring actual visual evidence to me is quite another.

^^This.

Hence why I have less tolerance for flat earthers than religious folk.

Ok. Not relevant to my point.

Er no the whole point of organised religion was a way to keep people in line in a world where communication was harder. It is easier to be king when you get the world to believe that you are there because its "Gods" will. They're just an outdated power systems. Before the Christian God was invented it was Zeus or Ra.

I was commenting on a PP asking another PP (an "atheist RS teacher") whether their colleagues knew s/he was atheist.

You have no point. Both believe in fiction. There is no evidence for a flat earth, there is no evidence for any gods. We can see the world is round, we can see there is not "god". Both are at least the same. But I think one is worse because it uses that fiction to drive hatred and war.

Almost no GC people are joining baying mobs against trans people!

For heavens sake. It doesn't follow that because some of them 'are prepared to set fire to buildings that have people inside', everyone on the march does. I'd be there saying 'stop that', phoning 999 on them, and/or avoiding them. The others ARE there for a political opinion.

Sounds like he’s reached the, “Detached from reality” section of the Conspiracy Pyramid, sadly. I’m not sure even a psychiatrist could get through to people who are that far gone. I couldn’t live with it.

Ha, that's brilliant!

It was a bit hard to read your image so I looked it up

https://conspiracychart.com/

Life is too short to live like this.

Leave him.

It depends on how you define God. As an atheist, I acknowledge i can't prove there isn't a God(depending how 'god' is defined). You can't prove a negative. So of course i may be wrong.

On the other hand, you can.prove the earth is round. And the Bible is not the literal truth - though if it is an allegory then literal truth isn't relevant.

I don't agree with this at all. It's not really the views that are the problem it is the accompanying obsession and the 'no debate' attitude that is the real issue. It's like two people of different political persuasions discussing the relative merits of the parties they support. Each knows that they won't change the other's mind, but once the discussion is over, they can think, talk about and engage in other things together without rancour, because at the end of it, politics only plays a small part in their daily lives. However, with the conspiracy theorists, their ideas engulf them and colour every aspect of their lives, the way they live and how they communicate with others.

My friend's adult son has gone down this path and conspiracies are the only thing he can think about or talk about and he is always coming up with new and outlandish theories in relation to things that are happening nationally and internationally. He won't brook any argument and becomes angry when people don't agree with him. I think he has obvious mental health issues that are exacerbated by the fact that he lives alone and WFH and is thus quite isolated. His views and attitudes also make it difficult for him to make friends with anyone who doesn't share his obsessions.

I certainly couldn't live with someone like this OP - it's impossible to have a proper relationship with someone who prioritises their crazy theories over everyone and everything else. I would suggest to him that he must see a doctor and try to unpick what's really behind all of this. If he won't, or can't, then I really would consider leaving him as soon as is viable, because without some sort of intervention this really won't get any better.

Then why are they outside the buildings where migrants are housed rather than outside parliament?

Of course I realise that the majority of demonstrators are not set on homicidal arson, but gathering and chanting outside the accommodation targets the migrants awaiting assessment and must obviously be intimidating.

That is turning a political opinion into intimidating behaviour.

Do you march on hotels and stand outside chanting at the occupants?

And sometimes there are marched on Parliament. A couple of years ago I was in Central London when R Wing groups were ‘defending the Cenotaph’. Against what I’m not sure, but all the stations were full of men in aggressive groups, blocking roads, grunting chants at non white families. Didn’t make me feel they were defending or protecting my country.

Some of us find it easier to get to the buildings rather than Parliament as they are local to us: that is the whole point.

No one wants to scare the individuals inside. I'd prefer anything to be elsewhere for that reason. But many people there - or their kids - have found the immigrants to be intimidating previously. And the protests started at the hotels because locals were protesting at a resident at the Bell attacking a teenage girl.

So you are there to intimidate, or you don’t care, or you believe in tit for tat, intimidating all the residents because of individuals…

You could write to your MP. Demonstrate outside yourTown Hall.

Why do you think these events are planned outside the hotels rather than outside the agencies in control?

@RhaenysRocks My experience growing up in a religious family/society exposed me to quite rigid factual thinking around Christianity. I saw very little of the nuanced, intellectually humble approach you describe. People I knew believed as literal fact that Jesus existed, that God existed, that Jesus was the son of God, that the Bible was a factual historical account. They were presented and believed as absolute facts - not up for debate. And I saw the consequences of this approach to religion. Admittedly I think the approach in the UK is more nuanced.

I have already written to my MP and got nowhere.
Happy to be outside town hall/council though.

You're bang on the money. He should have informed himself of what life was really like in days before we had a police force as we've known it in our lifetime. Your comment reminded me of a book, 'The Maul and the Pear Tree', about a series of murders in 1811, which gives a vivid sense of conditions then. Scary times indeed.

Ok.

Yep. We have many an interesting debate.

I can't speak for all adherents to every religion. Of course there are many who are rigid and uncompromising. That doesn't mean "the religion" is such or that the holy book IS one thing or another. It's a very interesting area of study ...to what extent is a personal faith ones own interpretation of a particular set of ideas and how far can you go from the approved doctrine before tipping into "error".