To think the sonographer could be wrong?

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I’ve been told girl but I just feel like it’s protruding too much? AIBU to question this or do I just trust what the trained sonographer says? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any parents with girls out here who had similar potty shots? I don’t know whether to book another scan somewhere else

It wasn't that she didn't know the sex, it was that she thought she did know but was wrong.

I'm sure there was more to it but it was definitely a factor. She described feeling as if she was mourning the girl who never existed which made it hard to accept the boy who did. Yes there was probably some gender disappointment in there too, heightened by her thinking she was having a girl when she wasn't. I'm not sure why it's hard to believe that this could contribute to PND.

Where has anyone said you need to know the sex to bond?

I made sure they checked baby’s heartbeat/wellbeing before my partner brought him in. I’ve had enough losses to know what I’m doing. So sorry for your loss.

I did the same with my DD when I had a gender scan for my DS. I wanted the happy moment of the gender scan to be separate from any news at the anomaly scan. I am glad you had a lovely scan experience this time ❤️

@AnnoyedddAs I’ve said, this was a scan to find out the sex early at a private clinic. Funnily enough, I know exactly what the anomaly scan is for - considering I received the most devastating news at one back in 2020 which subsequently left me with an amazing son who has a lifelong disability. Don’t patronise me, you have no clue what I’ve been through - some women just like to find out! Just because you don’t want to, that’s fine, everyone’s different 🥱

Anyway, I think I’m done with this thread. I have enough anxiety in this pregnancy anyway and truly don’t need nasty people just making snarky comments to bring me down - all because, god forbid, I was excited to see if I was having another son or a daughter. Someone really lovely people on this thread though, thank you. Hope everyone has the day that they deserve 💕🥰

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It is actually one of the biggest causes of PND. I don’t see why everyone has beef on here about finding out gender. If I have another I’ll be doing another 6 week blood test and having multiple scans to confirm. I like to be organised and have their room done and all their clothes bought

I think some posters are being right men’s on the OP. It’s her pregnancy which has progressed and she’e happy to share with her son and enjoy this! Don’t be a hater.

also I can see why you would question this babies gender with this image. However after having a scan at the same point it would be more clearer if it was boy as my baby is a boy, also I took my daughter to the scan!

congratulations on your pregnancy and wishing you all the best xx

I see these gender scan pictures on MN every now and then and I have absolutely no idea what im looking at. can someone please be so kind as to put pointers on this pic and and explain what is what in this pic for those of us who haven't got a clue please.

Essentially it’s baby with legs open in the air to determine boy/girl genitalia. It was very obvious with my son but just a bit confusing with this one but I will trust the sonographer got a better look (and maybe it’s just the picture that’s just a bit blurry/unclear) ☺️

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

ah I see it now thank you. i thought the larger outer shadowed areas were the legs, thought they were a bit of an unusual shape!
still no idea how you could be confident to say boy or girl though. I would be leaning towards girl though as there appears to be nothing obvious between the legs.

OP l have no clue why you’re getting such a hard time on here. You made it clear in your updates you’ve had a very difficult time and still people are being snarky. In the dim distant past MN was supportive. Now, unfortunately on seemingly every thread there are the keyboard warriors waiting to pounce and pick apart every word, saying things they wouldn’t dream of saying to an actual person face to face. I think sometimes people forget that they are not just responding to a paragraph or two of words - there’s an actual person behind the post. Not sure when women decided it was fine and dandy to be fucking awful to other women posting for support or advice, but one thing I am sure of, is that it says more about them than the OP they’re aiming their bile at.

The point l was making was that OP found out about her sons’ disability at a twenty week scan, so wanted to keep finding out the sex of this child separate from any potential bad news.

@RosscameasdoodyThis is exaclty it. I just wanted a scan that was surrounded by excitement and happiness (I’d be happy with either a daughter or another son) not overshadowed by the stress of the upcoming anomaly scan. I’m glad you understand

@cc99xo The more I look at it the more I agree girl! With my boys there was no denying it 🤣
Good luck at the anomaly scan; I’ve been there, had three losses and I remember the anxiety before the scans. 🩷

Your son will be delighted with anything he'll get.

We have 1 boy and 2 girls.

I'm currently pregnant with my 4th and final child. When we we told our son that the 4th baby will be a girl as well, he was disappointed for 2 minutes for not getting a "boy baby".

We explained to him the advantages of having 3 sisters and he then moved on quickly and doesn't mention it anymore.

He now just talks positively about the new baby.

OK, I’m sorry about your losses too and wasn’t trying to suggest I know more about it than you. I think it’s understandable that you want to have your son there. I only wanted to share my experience to be helpful to you or anyone else who might read my post.

I can’t imagine my son being there in the immediate aftermath either. Both emotionally and practically. I was sent straight to hospital for confirmatory scans, further testing and preparation for miscarriage. In my case, having my son in the waiting room wouldn’t have been much better than having him there in the consultation room.

Again, not saying I’m right and you’re wrong at all, everyone is different. Just sharing my experience.

I couldn’t have said that better myself ! Some really bitter,screwed up people on MN these days !

This makes sense. There's no way I would be able to compartmentalise like that though! I was thinking that, assuming all is well at the anomaly scan, you would then be able to let go of some of (hopefully most of) the stress and then you have that excitement and happiness to take away from the scan.

Anyway, whatever you chose to do I wish you an uneventful rest of pregnancy and every happiness with your new baby.

We found out with DD as if she was a girl then I wanted time to get my head around it before she was born. I enjoyed in the end getting to know her and was over it and thrilled when she was born. She is the light of my life and wouldn't change her for the world. I am still glad I found out as after two previous consecutive losses l (she was my third pregnancy) it gave me time to bond. We were meant to be one and done but during covid decided someone was missing. Whilst pregnant with DS we didn't find out. Couldn't have cared less what he was to be honest, would have been equally happy with another girl. He was an emergency in the end so his announcement was a bit rushed. It took me a few weeks to actually bond with him because of the shock of the labour.

My point being that it doesn't necessarily put disappointment on the pregnancy but there are a magnitude of reasons to why people find out.