To think the sonographer could be wrong?

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I’ve been told girl but I just feel like it’s protruding too much? AIBU to question this or do I just trust what the trained sonographer says? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any parents with girls out here who had similar potty shots? I don’t know whether to book another scan somewhere else

I don't understand why you would pay for a private scan two weeks earlier than your anomaly scan just to find out the sex if you're not even going to believe what the professional tells you.

For what it's worth, in all my scans I lay there listening to the consultant saying, "these are the two kidneys" and "these are the four chambers of the heart" and all I could see was blobs.

What is there to worry about?

if you have read OP and the updates as to the trauma she has been through, the worries centred around the anomaly scan should be obvious.

It wasn’t a twenty week scan, it was private.

I think it was just a passing reference to the fact that her son is desperate for a baby sister. Not sure why the OP is getting such a rough time on here, given what she’s been through.

Term potty shot makes me feel a bit sick

So, what ? No-one else is allowed to want to know ?

Was it a professional sonographer? we went to a similar place with our first baby and none of the staff were actually trained sonographer, they just knew how to use the machine. The sonographer at the hospital then told us that they actually don’t like those private scan places as they can miss anomalies which then have to be disclosed at 20 weeks. With our second we went to an IVF / fertility clinic for reassurance scan instead.

Either way, both places accurately predicted the gender of both our babies and both were born healthy.

All the best to you, I don’t think it’s abnormal to get early scans done at all especially if you’ve experienced multiple losses. I’m surprised you’re not getting more through the NHS?

I also suffered with hyperemesis with both my babies and findi my out their sex was the only thing that got me through it, as I felt I had a connection to them & they were a real person vs an unknown. It’s different for everyone, but I understand wanting to find out the sex. Especially if there is an older sibling.

They got the sex of my baby wrong. I found out during a scan after a fall that I was expecting a girl and not a boy! Of course it matters, because in our case we had started buying clothes, named him, and started bonding with our non existent son!

Of course they are, I'm not sure why you think otherwise.

Good luck OP 🤞at least you’ve not got long till your next scan and think that other poster gave a good explanation to give to your son as it’s never 100%.
I’ve never wanted to find out the sex but I know lots of people do! So many unnecessary snarky comments here.

I never understand the point in people booking a private scan purely to find out the gender at a very early stage, only to not believe it anyway. If you'd waited just a few weeks it would probably have been clearer but even then you know deep down there's always a risk of them getting it wrong.

You'll find out for sure when it's born. Personally I love the surprise. I'm all for people finding out, if that's what they want, but then you need to try and trust their judgement, otherwise it makes the whole exercise utterly pointless.

Looks like a girl. On my ds ultrasounds, there was a clear ball and penis both times on the potty shot. In the country I used to live in, they would confirm sex at 14 weeks. You could always wait until the anomaly scan to buy anything.

Ignore all these do-gooders questioning why you want to know the sex or worried they're mistaken🙄Umm, maybe because you don’t want to buy a tonne of girl clothes for a boy.

Also, in many countries, you have ultrasounds every month of pregnancy. I had 9 with my first which was a normal and healthy pregnancy. Wish you all the best OP with the rest of the pregnancy. 😊

I’ve had one of each. The boy bits were obviously protruding and you could see the baby balls and penis very clearly. The girl bits were in the same position and looked similar to your scan.

Exactly, what a bunch of vultures!

15/16 weeks is early to check for a baby’s sex. Boys can hide. I don’t think it’s a good idea to take children to pregnancy scans in case it isn’t good news so don’t take your son to the 20 week scan.

The sonographer should have made it clear that they can never be 100% sure. I went along to a friend's 3d scan. It was quite late on in the pregnancy and we got a view that left no doubt she was having a boy but, even then, the sonographer said they never confirm the sex. I found out the sex in both my pregnancies but always had in the back of mind that they might have been wrong because mistakes aren't that uncommon.

I remember years before having my babies a colleague chose not to find out because one of her friends had been told the wrong sex. She struggled to bond with her baby and developed post natal depression because she was mourning the baby she didn't have. That story has always stayed with me.

She has already explained why she took her son and stated that he won't go to any NHS scans.

I can’t believe she developed PND because she didn’t know the sec or bond before birth.

You bond with your baby surely not because it’s a certain sex, unless you’ve got a high preference for a particular one, in which case you’ve got “gender disappointment” a whole other topic.

She can’t
She won’t
She isn’t

all explained throughout OPs posts.

Of course they can be wrong but it's uncommon and that definitely looks like a girl to me. I asked them to check at every scan (I had lots) as I couldn't quite bring myself to believe I was having a girl for some reason, whereas with my son there was such an obvious willy that I could see it on the screen before they even pointed it out! I think it's just girls are a bit less apparent as you're looking for the absence of something, so you'll always doubt yourself a bit, especially if you're hoping for a girl and don't want to be mistaken.

Why do people need to know the sex to bond? Did people not bond before scans were around? Of course they cant be 100% it is not an exact science people do have to take some responsibility for their own thinking sometimes

Ignore OP. Seems like from this thread, mumsnet isn’t keen on private gender scans. You crack on my love, sorry for your losses and hope the rest of your pregnancy runs smoothly.

Good luck for your scan at 18 weeks!

When I was pregnant I wanted to keep the gender a surprise and at my 20 week scan baby moved suddenly and we got a clear view of babys bum. We thought we accidentally found out the gender and were convinced it was a boy because it looked like a "bulge". The sonographer knew it was meant to be a surprise so moved away quickly but didn't say anything, we tried to pretend we didn't see it.

I had a girl. I'm not a sonographer but I think yours looks like a girl.

Exactly. Just wait and find out. No big deal.