To think the sonographer could be wrong?

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I’ve been told girl but I just feel like it’s protruding too much? AIBU to question this or do I just trust what the trained sonographer says? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any parents with girls out here who had similar potty shots? I don’t know whether to book another scan somewhere else

What is it supposed to be? Ultrasounds are black magick.

Well it's either male or female.

Since it's never completely accurate I don't know why people bother trying to find out.

Why does it matter? Had you considered not knowing btw? Much more fun!

Same! Never have been able to ‘read them’!

Why is it more fun? You find out in the end either way.

I have to agree with a PP. At 15 weeks their penis is generally very visible. I had 2 boys and a girl and didn’t want to know the sex but it was so clear they were boys. Our girls we thought maybe it’s a girl because we didn’t see anything but we weren’t sure!

My DD referred to my bump exclusively as “my brother” despite us telling her repeatedly it could be either. She was so insistent we started to believe her. Out came DD2. DD1 forgot all about her brother and was just so happy to hold her little sister’s hand.

Scans can be wrong. It’s rare. By a few white bits just in case :)

So sorry for your losses.
Ex midwife sonographer here. Remember the picture you have is just one frame whereas the sonographer will have looked at the anatomy through several slices in real time. Think of it a bit like choosing the one frame that is in focus from the several that make up a “live” picture on your phone.
So it is not really possible to give an accurate opinion from that one frame but the sonographer had the benefit of the overall image.
It looks like the sonographer will have had very good views from that image so I would be surprised if they are wrong.
Personally I would never say unless I was sure and was never wrong. However I do know sometimes they are wrong for whatever reason.
But my advice would be to focus on the joy of a viable pregnancy and try to play down sex predictions with your son. The reality is that young children build up an image of a sibling who will be a fellow toddler playmate and soon get bored of a crying baby that doesn’t do much, the sex will be immaterial at that point (for your son).

I had a private scan at 17 weeks and they put the gender in an envelope as I wasnt sure I wanted to find out. They were 100% right as it was 4d. Then I had to have a lot of late scans at hospital and they asked if I knew gender as was blindingly obvious by then and I said I did as id checked by them and nhs said yes definitely a girl.

Your son will be happy regardless. I feel you. My girl is 13 and wanted a sister. She's a singleton not by choice, and now she wants Charlotte Tilbury contour. Try to enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy your family.

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The sonographer at my 20 week scan said probably a girl, but wasn't completely sure. I got a private scan to check and they confirmed (as much as possible) it was a girl. I wanted to be able to prepare my DS for what was coming (he'd have preferred a brother!) And i didn't want to have to try and find everything in neutral colours etc. It's OK to want to know.

The waiting and not knowing build expectation but do not put expectation on the child, who arrives as they are - a boy or a girl. It's a joyous surprise. Knowing the sex throughout pregnancy means there is no excitement in the arrival and if the sex is a disappointment that can affect the pregnancy.

Yes because children's emotional engagement with a given event is absolutely predicted on whether it's funded by the NHS or not 🙄

Can't believe all the people who are rudely saying you're unreasonable wanting to find out. Most people want to find out. I found out early with all of mine because I wanted to be able to project and bond, and wanted a lot of time to think of a name. And I didn't want to think of two names as I'd then be disappointed to not get to use one of them.

Not that any of this matters, wanting to find out is enough of a reason to find out - why on earth not ?!!

Anyway OP, my 12-wk nub theory sonographer got them all wrong, but early scans at 16-wk got them all correct. Mistakes can happen but are unusual. If you want to be totally sure and can afford it there's nipt. I did it (though purely for genetic reassurance as the country where I was didn't allow gender reveal on nipt).

I have 3 dc and I have no idea what I'm looking at on that scan photo but generally they should know what they're looking at

I paid for a NIPT at 10 weeks which gave me a fetal sex result with 99% accuracy as it uses a blood test. Definitely get one if you need to know the sex for sure. Scans are never going to be as accurate.

@laclochette
Clearly that’s not what I meant. I wouldn’t take him to an NHS scan as, firstly children aren’t allowed, and secondly they look for very important things - I should know, considering I found out about my son’s severe disability at one! There’s nothing wrong with taking my son to a harmless, enjoyable 10 minute gender scan that encourages you to bring family members and gives cute little 4D images and teddy bears :)

It doesn't even look like a baby to me.

@RampantIvyit’s just a picture of open legs on this ultrasound

My apologies. Scans have come a long way since I had DD 25 years ago. Good luck with this pregnancy.

I think it must be lovely to wait and not know.
It's also lovely to know and meet your new baby! Surely there isn't a 'right' way to do things.

"Knowing the sex throughout pregnancy means there is no excitement in the arrival" - I can assure you I was extremely excited to meet both of my children.

Of course there's excitement in the arrival. Knowing the sex doesn't take away how exciting and happy the arrival is.

I'm with you on that. We found out with our first (my preference, im not grrat wuth surprises), we didn't with 2nd (DH's preference - we each took a turn) and actually much preferred the not knowing. It was fun trying to guess from the pictures and 'ooh, the sonographer called them a he, do you think that means that are a boy or just always say he was default'. But everyone is different abd no harm either way.

Why would there be worry?