Baby - MIL - XL Bully

[Koala98]

MIL has an XL Bully at her house, AIBU to say baby can never visit while the dog is on the property even if shut in a different room or garden?

I would not take any child there , wouldn’t go there myself ..absolutely not .
And my own little dog I’d closely supervise him with children too in case they tease him , pull at him etc or if he gets over excited and maybe jumps if they have a ball .
( My own dog isn’t a large breed or a dangerous breed )

What a misogynistic comment. Not to mention naive.

The exceptionalism of XL bully owners is what strikes me.

"I'm special because I find these dogs cute when everyone else thinks they look scary."

"I'm special because I can control my XL bully when others couldn't control theirs."

"My XL bully is special as he's a gentle giant, who wouldn't hurt a fly."

And yes, they are special, just up to the point when they're not.

My mil had a collie cross who grabbed my toddlers arm out of nowhere (genuinely out of nowhere, dog lunges from sofa to grab him and only stopped a disaster because my 1 yr old was arms distance from me and the dog was arms distance from my bil who is 6 foot 5 and strong. Dog still got teeth on him. We never went to their house with my son again because they refused to close the dog away and he was really scared of my son (who was genuinely presenting no risk, we have a dog, he knows how to be with a dog, he wasn't even looking in the dogs direction) we couldn't risk him lunging again. The dog died last year and we visit again now. I don't think they believed we'd never visit again but they did realize after a year or 2. My son is 7.5 and we started going back just before he turned 7.

Indeed, or teenager, or adult!

I wouldn’t be going anywhere near that house or let my child go there at any age. No way. Dog lover here but no no no.

Not a chance would I be in the house and not a chance would any of my kids, whether it was locked in a room or not.

What does your DH think about you saying you will never visit his mother?

@toomanydicksonthedancefloor1 and @Sausagescanfly
Usernames are funny 😄

Go with your gut. These dogs can be, and I’m not saying always, bred terribly by people who shouldn’t be breeding dogs. I’m sure some of them are genuinely lovely but they’re too dangerous when it goes wrong.

Why on earth your MIL decided out of the hundreds of dog breeds that she wanted to get one with an atrocious attack history when she has at least one grandchild beggars belief.

I would say she has to have the dogs muzzle on at all times when the children are visiting. She will already have a muzzle as it is a requirement for any class bully to be muzzled when out of the house anyway

@Sausagescanfly its true, XL bully owners/ cheerleaders seem to think they are special and can see beyond the packaging to the beautiful dog inside whereas other shallow people can’t.

I witnessed an xl bully attack another dog last year when it accidentally escaped from its house. It was absolutely horrific, I was in shock for hours. I would not let my child anywhere near one, and would discourage adults from being around them too.

Thank fuck all you knowledgeable lot are here to state facts.

Noooo nope nope nope.

yes - particularly considering the subject matter - a MIL with an XL bully - how to get people frothing with one thread title!

I wouldn’t go near one and I would assume they the owner was thick especially when spout “oh, but DangerousDog is just big softie” (but strong enough to kill everyone in the room).

No way, not ever... a ticking time bomb as prev poster said.
I d be tempted to keep my distance from MIL wjo is so neglectful of safety and boundaries.

Thanks all, DH is completely on the same page as me although i seem to be getting blamed by others for the decision. We have had quite a bit of push back and as much as i knew we weren’t being PFB about it i just wanted external validation i suppose. They have owned the dog for years and i believe have a certificate but they don’t take the dog out so not sure on the muzzle. We will be stick to our guns on this

Good on you. This post makes the situation slightly worse in my opinion. A dog that doesn’t go out will become bored. They simply cannot stimulate it enough and boredom in any animal is dangerous.

That's good to hear, OP. Just remember: the more they push back, the less safe that house is

My point being that without the certificate she shouldn't even own one.

Obviously the OP shouldn't take her DC around there.

So they have a large powerful dog that doesn't even get exercised?

So it's going to be full of pent-up energy?

They shouldn't be allowed to own animals

Absolutely not, i wouldnt be at the house either with one of those dogs

The dog isn’t taken out?!?! FFS what’s wrong with people!!! The dog isn’t exercised, mentally and socially stimulated, has no world outside of their own front door … honestly they shouldn’t be allowed to have a dog of any kind let alone an XL bully

if its a bulldog/ Staffy rotweiler any of the breeds known for significant and serious attacks (All hell is about to break loose, how dare you, I have had a vvbmvbiuytdoiudv all my life etc. etc. ) I would be there, dog locked out, and ME in control. After my comments expect a backlash but don't worry your ONLY responsibility is obvious. Regards. Greg