I only voted YABU because i think it depends on the dog and owner. Is she responsible? What have your interactions with the dog been like?. how long has she had it? Was it post ban? if so why did she get a banned breed because that feels a bit red flag. Does she understand how powerful those dogs are? Does she minimise that? Most importantly, if shut the dog out would you trust her to keep the dog shut out? End of the day she can always come to yours to see the baby without the dog if she wants to see the baby and if she wont the she is being unreasonable.
Personally, i never had any dogs in the room if i was visiting with my baby because any dog can just “switch”. any dog around a small child can lead to all sorts. I also still have a mild fear of all dogs though and I get nervy around any dog i dont “know”. Also i have never owned dogs.
a good friend has an XL bully (since before the ban) goes out muzzled kept on a short lead all that. Honestly one of the best dogs Ive met hes so gentle and gets scared of the hoover and butterflies, he doesn’t even bark at the door. Great recall, goes to their crate when just told to, stays in one room when friend is getting the door and so calm. Wont get on the sofa with out a command etc. wed go to hers (even now my sons older she still gets it) and said she will put him on a lead, in the kitchen or crate him however best i felt comfortable visiting when with my kid so shes put him in the kitchen back door open and kitchen door still shut with a baby gate (she had the gate so if the dog got too muddy in the garden he wouldn’t traipse it through the house) dog just chilled out wouldn’t even know she had the dog when we were there. Id go into the kitchen stepping over the gate, dog would barely react if at all.
another friend, lab cross type, very “scatty”. Always running round the house barking jumping up on anyone, all over the furnitures, runs out the door any given chance, shed have to bolt out trying to get the dog back, no recall or following basic commands. Shed had the dog 5 years by then and still just says “oh hes being friendly! Hes excited!” We went for a walk once, her dog ran to a leashed dog, other dog owner said “call your dog back mine’s reactive” she had to grab her dog away. Went over once just to get some stuff asked her “oh im bringing my son can you put the dog away for the 10mins we will be there” and she said its not necessary hes friendly. Dog bounded out knocked my son over and was all over him, and “i was over reacting” pulling the dog off. He was 3. Long before covid so there was no reason for poor socialisation.
can name more way more incidents of other dogs like that. Like when my son got bit when he was in his buggy by an off lead terrier owner just “oh he just wanted your sons ball”
based on that for me, id rather the baby in my friends house with the xl and the controls in place, despite the breed (crated or whatever because like i said for me dogs and small children visiting dont go, unless the dogs socialised with children and if its that families dog even then never leave a kid alone with the dog etc).
but yeh only voted yabu because care needs to be taken with all dogs and babies/children. If youd be the same with any larger breed / bully breed (cane corsos being in the news recently, when i was growing up it was Rottweilers) then id get it purely because any attack could be more severe in a shorter amount of time with stronger breeds. that reply was very long but the post lacked context and wanted to provide clarity for my vote.
Aware im probably being bias because the one of (if not the best) behaved dogs
ive ever known was an xl bully.
but if you feel shes irresponsible, wont respect your boundaries, minimises the understood impact a dog like that could have, or pulls the “hes friendly never an issue”card, or the dog is a danger / would cause issue then trust your instinct and say no:)💖