So my DD (autistic) is turning 16 and plans to go to local bowling/arcade place and then a meal..
She's now decided she only want friends to go to the first part (and me, her bro/sis, as I'll be paying for everything) and decided she doesn't want her nan there.
Her nan does so much for her, gives her lifts to and from whenever and wherever, comes with us on holidays, every birthday, let's her use her house to hang out with friends, sends her money when she needs it etc.
I've said I feel it's unfair for her to tell her not to come as we are all going to be there and it's a big birthday, obvs her nan would be upset. Also on the other hand, she is 16 and I don't want to insist her nan comes along if that's unreasonable of me to do so? (by nan coming along I mean we will probably all sit at a table with a drink and do something with her 13/8 year old siblings, while she goes off with her mates)
I am new to the whole teenage independence thing so any advice will be greatly welcomed