To be slightly loving hearing my kids misbehave?

[Houghers]

I’m a SAHM. Dh appreciates what I do in the home but every now I will get an annoying comment like “well I’m the one getting up at 3 am tomorrow” (dh is a pilot). These comments are rare but they can sting when I perceive them to mean DH’s role/routine is of more importance than mine.

Anyway, dh has today off. He has said I can have the day to myself. I spent the morning out with my sister and am now in my robe ready to get in the bath and just deep condition EVERYTHING ahead of a meal out with friends.

Our bedroom has a Juliet balcony. I can hear the kids being absolute terrors for dh in the garden. They are normally quite easy going but it’s one of those days. And the dog is randomly being a bit of a handful as well. I can hear dh is stressed in his voice. He went out to the garden with his laptop and a coffee and neither have been touched.

He just asked my son “what’s going on with you today, mate?” 😂

Im in bed. Secretly loving the kids giving him a hard time

Two of the kids go to school/nursery (part time for one). But I always love when he gets an insight into what my life looks like.

Op being him for a bit? Unless I've missed an update nowhere does op say he does nothing and doesn't help out. Only thing mentioned is that he brings up having to start at 3am

OP you forgot to put 'lighthearted' clearly in your title as some people are taking this waaay too seriously.

Goodness me there’s some killjoys in this thread.

He’ll be ok. It’s only a day’s solo parenting. Hope he brings you a cuppa OP or glass of wine!

My first thoughts as well.

This.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Agreed

When did I say his job wasn’t hard? 😳
Both parents are entitled to lazy days as you put it.
OPs just happened to be today, while he looked after his own crotch goblins ( such a perfect name for their behaviour today 😂)
Parenting is a partnership, and you forget he offered.

you sound horrible

Exactly. Anyone would think he sits on his backside watching TV all day from some of the replies.
I wonder at the OP having a third child if it’s such hard work with the existing two.

they're having a different opinion you mean?

But he clearly doesn't consider himself absolved of parenting his children......he's home and looking after them. He can't when he's not there working, but that salary does enable op to be a sahm.

Wouldn't putting ‘lighthearted’ in the title be the equivalent of when someone makes a joke to put someone down or say a shitty thing to someone and they say “joking” or “only kidding”?

For both of them too. SAHM would have to work! Then she'd see who has it easiest.......

Or OP being a SAHM enables him to do a job with irregular hours.

No wonder people don't post!

Same here. “Parents” are supposed to help each other. He helps by being the dickhead who brings the money in to allow OP to manage the apparently unbearable levels of stress associated with being a SAHM

Honestly, MN is so po-faced these days.

Time was, you could post a little moan about parenting or your husband, and you'd get back witchy cackles and offers of virtual gin.

Now it's so weirdly earnest.

Also there is no indication the husband thinks OP has an easy job. He just moaned about 3am starts. Well they're hard and he's human! I used to get up at 430 for work and that was bad enough.

I'm a SAHM. We have 5DC, 3x ASD, the school holidays absolutely wreck me and my mental health takes a total battering. My DH took a week AL and after doing the week together he has a whole new appreciation of how hard my life is and why my entire personality changes in the school holidays! 😂

Blimey the responses!

I am sure the OPs husband also has downtime it just happens to be ops today, I would be doing exactly the same as you and I also love it when my husband (who I love dearly and appreciate before anyone jumps to conclusions, gets to see the harder side of SAHM life)

i hope all the unkind comments don’t spoil your much deserved break

Well hopefully your husband leaves you sooner rather than later, and finds a proper teammate. The kids aren't even home full-time, so you're a part-time sahm at best. Hope that you've got a prenup, for your sake.

other parents manage, nannies, nurseries .

No one is doing the other a "favour" by being a SAH parent. It's supposed to be in the best interest of the kids.

The difference is that no-one is stopping a SAH parent from finding a job, but if the working parent decides to quit, things get a bit tricky.

Wow,
arnt you a little ray of sunshine.

Good for you OP and I hope you enjoy every single minute of your lovely day, you deserve it.
It's not often us mums get time to ourselves, and even when we do, we tend to cut ourselves short and end up mucking in anyway - but absolutely do not! Make sure you switch off to the noise of the kids playing up and do not allow yourself to be sucked in and start rallying the kids and dog to behave. It's clear they're simply playing up at the novelty of having dad home. It'll soon wear off and they'll settle down for him. He knows what his kids are like. And he sees what you do, hence your much needed day off.
Enjoy it!

Ooh what a horrible scrote. Jealousy is a nasty thing.