To ban DP from “trying” my takeaway leftovers?

[Cassy5]

DP and I get a takeaway every few weeks. We alternate paying for these. We each order a main, a rice/chips/naan and some kind of side.

He doesn’t like foods touching so we tend to share the sides but not the mains or carbs. He is twice my size and eats all of his (then complains of being too full); I usually eat half mine and save the rest for a lazy lunch the next day.

Whenever he wants to “taste” mine later, he picks out the meat and leaves the veg, sauce and rice. This makes for a far less appealing lunch.

AIBU to tell him he eats all of it like a grown up or to keep off?

Lighthearted, but also not at all, because I was looking forward to my lunch and he’s ruined it 😂

If you don’t care then let him eat it, but he sounds like a greedy, selfish pig 🤷🏻‍♀️

Order veggie fish next time and the greedy pig prob won’t touch your left overs.

I have a terrible image of you to eating your meal together.

When they takeaway is dished up and he serves himself, does he do one huge plate then go back for seconds? If so, before he serves himself seconds, go pick out all his meat. Eat it. See howo he likes it.

Leftovers are serious business, be petty. Just once.

I'd cut his hands off if he did that to my -MY! - food.

He can taste it by having a forkful

not eating most of the dish

be like joey in friends 😂

Id be fuming!

Thanks everyone, lots of posts made me laugh!

To answer some questions:

We eat lunch separately because I sometimes work from home and he doesn’t.

Yes he is quite greedy generally when it comes to food.

He’s got some quite deep-seated issues with over-eating then starving himself - was an obese child and is the kind of person who can’t have snacks left around whereas I’m the kind of person who can have one chocolate from the box and leave the rest.

Won’t be LTB but might be firmer with my boundaries!

If my partner snaffled my leftover takeaway...they'd never find the body.

I get you, bit annoying.
i think make a joke of it and say “okay you can try a bit of a sauce but I want the rest for tomorrow”

Greedy and selfish - and he's lucky that he hasn't had a steak knife straight through the hand.

Greed is one thing. Greed which deprives someone else is on a whole different level. Ex husband of many many years ago was like that. Eventually I fucking hated and despised him for it.
He’d hog a whole cake when I hadn’t had one slice, wolf all the chocolates I’d been given as a present, he’d eat half a jar of jam from the jar with a spoon and - the worst thing - at meals with friends he’d dive into dishes on the table and scoop more than HALF onto is plate. God it makes me so mad now even remembering it!

i would have said “if I wanted a vegetarian curry I would have ordered one. Don’t touch my fucking food”

but then that’s probably why I’m single

@Bleachedlevis "at meals with friends he’d dive into dishes on the table and scoop more than HALF onto is plate"

Mine is not quite that bad (most of the time） but I get the impression that whereas I automatically look at a dish of food and calculate how many people it has to feed and so what portion I can decently take, this is not something that the average man ever considers.

I think you’re right 😀. I still see Ex on social occasions (we share DS and StepDS) and I still notice him piling his plate high with food and shovelling it in 🐷
My DH always says ‘Can I get you something from the buffet?’ before helping himself to a modest plateful. What a difference!

I’d be “ leave it ! “ like I do when my dog goes to get something he shouldn’t have 🤣 and point him in the direction of the other snack items in the fridge .
He can just taste the sauce if he’s interested in what the actual dish tastes like !
That’d really annoy me because if I’m looking forward to eating something and some greedy so and so has had it all I’d be so disappointed

Not lighthearted, he’s a greedy pig and he’s stealing your food.

Rice OR naan?

This is your problem right here

I'm just as happy with the rice and sauce for the flavour as I am with the meat and will happily share whatever I have.

However, I cannot tell you how much I abhor greed and selfishness. And that's what this is, his cherry picking out your best bits for himself.

I'm sorry to say this, but I would fall out of love very quickly with that sort of behaviour.

For some reason I’ve not explored I enjoy the leftovers more than the initial meal (I think it’s the anticipation- I love to eat) so if he ‘tried’ my leftovers after stuffing himself he would very quickly find himself repurposed into patio foundations

He’s just a selfish glutton . Put ur foot down , get some dog food & cover it in curry sauce ,let him ‘ taste ‘ that & it should sort him out 🐷😂