To ban DP from “trying” my takeaway leftovers?

[Cassy5]

DP and I get a takeaway every few weeks. We alternate paying for these. We each order a main, a rice/chips/naan and some kind of side.

He doesn’t like foods touching so we tend to share the sides but not the mains or carbs. He is twice my size and eats all of his (then complains of being too full); I usually eat half mine and save the rest for a lazy lunch the next day.

Whenever he wants to “taste” mine later, he picks out the meat and leaves the veg, sauce and rice. This makes for a far less appealing lunch.

AIBU to tell him he eats all of it like a grown up or to keep off?

Lighthearted, but also not at all, because I was looking forward to my lunch and he’s ruined it 😂

You’re not being unreasonable and he’s been told so is just doing what suits him and fuck you. As he doesn’t like food types touching I would cover the meat curry with leftover rice so he can’t get his greedy hands on the meat without getting rice on it.

Some people will say you shouldn’t mind him spoiling your lunch, it’s only lunch. But why would he want to?

Tub of Sadness 😀

He is showing you who he is, a selfish pig who doesn't care that you have asked him not to do this.

Currys don't have much of anything. You have a lot of water swimming around a few bits of meat. I feel robbed whenever I used to buy a curry. I prefer cooking my own no more long water.

This isn’t lighthearted at all - tell him to piss off.

Yes its selfish to pick the meat out, he is happy to pick the best bit out for himself with no thought for you. The food itself perhaps not a huge deal, but the principle shows how little he is arsed about you.

"it’s the cherry-picking that gets me"

tbh, cherries in a curry would probably put me off it 🍒🤔🍛😉😂

Lace the leftovers with laxatives. The greedy bastard won’t do it again.

Lol!

This is awful behaviour, it's like those greedy bastard husband threads. I am sorry but I am raging thinking about this, unbelievably selfish. I let DH eat all my leftover Chinese takeaway, meat and all, as I don't think batter, noodles or sticky sauces sits well overnight. Indian is absolutely 100% off limits, any of it - rice, naan, curry, starters.

He's greedy, selfish and doesn't care that you saved some of your food for your lunch.
I'll bet if he ever saved some of his curry, (unlikely) and you forked up the best bits, he'd go mad.

Everyone knows when you're trying someone else's food you don't touch the meat - unless specifically offered.

You take a bit of the sauce, some rice and maybe some vegetables if there's plenty.

He went into your leftovers and ate all the meat? That is SO unbelievably selfish - I really hate selfishness, because it rarely just shows up once and it's such an unattractive quality.

I just can't imagine ever thinking it's okay to go into my partners lunch and ruin it.

Once I lived with a friend who ate all my leftover pizza she knew I was saving for dinner after a late shift on a Sunday when no shops would be open. When I came home to find the pizza gone, that was the end of our friendship.

maybe you could find a vegetarian dish that you could eat? maybe even try a few, once DP thinks he can’t find anything he likes in your leftovers he might be able to give up stealing?

Or remove the meat from yours & pop in freezer, it’s going to be such a small amount it’ll easily defrost for your next days meal?

Take out the meat and put it in a small tub and hide it somewhere in the fridge.

Can you mix it all on a plate, cover and leave in the fridge for the next day?

OR he could just not pick at it i can't imagine altering my ordering and eating of food to facilitate a greedy man.

I think you're going to have to tell him hands off completely. Is he a bit dim?

Then why don't you ask him to leave them alone every time?

My husband is big and eats all his. He is well aware that if he wants my leftovers he has to ask and the answer is nearly always no. Your husband doesn’t understand your wish washy boundary so be strict… Please don’t taste my leftovers. No ambiguity.

Selfish and greedy ! taking the best bits !!!

Get yourself a syringe & some extra extra hot chilli sauce. Inject into pieces of meat and wait ...😈

Put all the food into 4 serving dishes. This means you can try your DP's choice and he can try yours - no double dipping (my particular obsession) and so separate spoons/cutlery for each of four dishes and separate cutlery and plates for each person. There should be enough left for your lunch - and tell him not to take all the bloody meat or put aside a dish for your lunch when serving the rest if that works better.

So that needs to become a new, blanket injunction

You lost me at 'doesn't like foods touching' to be honest.

Men are simple mammals, you have to spell things out clearly and precisely. Tell him you don't like him sabotaging your lunch by picking out all the best bits. I don't understand why this is complicated.

It's substandard without the meat because that's the centrepiece of the curry here. If OP had ordered a paneer curry and he ate all the cheese leaving her with a bit of sauce and onion it would be the same. Or fish, or aubergines.

And the difference is that he's eating the leftovers as a snack, whereas OP uses them for a meal which is more substantial. They aren't comparable. If he eats the meat he's leaving her without the main protein component of her planned meal.

If he wants meat leftover snacks he should order and pay for extra, not hoover up someone else's protein.