To ban DP from “trying” my takeaway leftovers?

[Cassy5]

DP and I get a takeaway every few weeks. We alternate paying for these. We each order a main, a rice/chips/naan and some kind of side.

He doesn’t like foods touching so we tend to share the sides but not the mains or carbs. He is twice my size and eats all of his (then complains of being too full); I usually eat half mine and save the rest for a lazy lunch the next day.

Whenever he wants to “taste” mine later, he picks out the meat and leaves the veg, sauce and rice. This makes for a far less appealing lunch.

AIBU to tell him he eats all of it like a grown up or to keep off?

Lighthearted, but also not at all, because I was looking forward to my lunch and he’s ruined it 😂

I’d tell him to get a duplicate of whatever you’re having so he can have it for lunch the next day.

Alternatively, if he doesn’t like mixed goods touching , mix up all your leftovers in a Tupperware.

Ugh that’s so selfish. That would piss me off

Greed is big ick for me, Id put washing up liquid in it one time to teach him a lesson 😂

dont tell hinm he can have it just sya can you not im saving it for lunch

Surely the most obvious thing to do is to ensure that all of your foods are touching one another in one container so he'll turn his nose up at them leave them alone?

Selfish pig. Anyone who picks all the meat out of someone else's meals deserves a bloody slap! Then to act all innocent and gaslighty by calling it 'trying'. Gobbling down every viable piece of protein?! It certainly is fucking trying!!

And he doesn't need to 'taste' it, he knows full well what it's like as he's stolen it dozens of times before!

Literally LTB territory is growing close! 🤣

That would infuriate me. It's like taking the ham out of leftover ham salad sandwiches.

I love love love left over takeaway for breakfast. This would be a massive red line for me. I am furious on your behalf eating all the good stuff is arsehole behaviour.

The take aways are rubbish around here. The last decent Indian I had was in 2005 at Bombay Bicycle.

Give him a taste of yours while you're eating it and don't let him touch your left overs. What he's doing would piss me right off, selfish bastard.

I thought the same - his selfishness would turn me right off him!

haha yes!

Yes let’s do everything apart from tell him he’s a greedy cunt and to leave her food alone. Let’s tip toe round the Man so his widdle feelings won’t get hurty.

This.

If he will leave stuff alone when you ask him, then surely just asking him to leave it alone will suffice?

YANBU but it seems an easy fix.

And if he won’t leave it alone when asked it’s a bigger issue.

Not least because you’re paying half by taking it in turns so should be allowed to do as you want with your half of the food!

The use of “trying” would also give me the rage. Trying is having a spoonful, taken at random, not cherry picking all the good bits.

I am vegetarian but obviously the protein element of the meal is generally the sought- after bit - whether it’s meat or something like paneer or the nicer vegetables - not just onions and sauce!

I don’t view it as light hearted. I find it really selfish.

He’s a CF. Honestly, why are your standards so low? I couldn’t put up with someone that greedy and selfish, let alone date them. This is not ok.

They aren't leftovers and he is wrecking them and being unpleasant and inconsiderate.

A meat curry without meat is a bolognaise without mince. A chicken sandwich without chicken. Fish and chips without the fish. Curry sauce is not a meal, it has no nutrition. Very selfish human. I would get quite pissed off and express that anger to him - some people only respond to anger as they think quiet frustration or polite requests means they get away with it. Is he selfish in other areas too or does he just think his hunger trumps yours?

I’d be doing what a PP has said and mix up the main with rice seeing as he’s apparently picky about them not touching.
I chuck sweet and sour sauce over any spare chicken balls to stop myself from grazing later as I don’t like it.

@Cassy5 I have a slightly different but similar problem with my DH, so what I have learned to do is to take what I want to reserve for my lunch out of the containers and put it into my designated lunch box in the fridge before we eat. If he doesn't see it, he doesn't attempt to eat it, which is better for him (because he was hoovering up 2/3 of a generous meal for 3.... no wonder he's got a fat belly）and for me - because my lunch is there for me to eat and I don't get annoyed at him for eating whatever I'd intended to take for my lunch. I do this even when it's home cooked food - if I cook a four portion meal then I take two portions out before I serve it up so there is enough for both of us another day. I had to start doing this because he'd have seconds, then thirds and I'd end up saying - "look you haven't left enough for another meal, even for one person, so just finish it up properly. " which was a lose-lose scenario - he ate too much and I had to cook another meal to replace it.

I baked some pies earlier, popped out for only a few minutes, but when I returned there was no pies left, so I shouted, "Who ate all the pies?"

Stick it straight in the freezer then heat from frozen

That is truly shocking (the disappearance of the pies, not your reaction）.
How many suspects do you have?
Did you bake them for a particular meal, and would you have expected them to leave you at last one for you to enjoy?
As a PP suggested, I might feel inclined to lace a batch with laxative if this were a regular occurrence.