To ban DP from “trying” my takeaway leftovers?

[Cassy5]

DP and I get a takeaway every few weeks. We alternate paying for these. We each order a main, a rice/chips/naan and some kind of side.

He doesn’t like foods touching so we tend to share the sides but not the mains or carbs. He is twice my size and eats all of his (then complains of being too full); I usually eat half mine and save the rest for a lazy lunch the next day.

Whenever he wants to “taste” mine later, he picks out the meat and leaves the veg, sauce and rice. This makes for a far less appealing lunch.

AIBU to tell him he eats all of it like a grown up or to keep off?

Lighthearted, but also not at all, because I was looking forward to my lunch and he’s ruined it 😂

Can you hide it? If not put a big sticker on it - this is my lunch do not touch

Yes, I came on to say this.
I mean, if you have to spell it out – 'When I say don't pick the meat out and leave me the rest, I mean with any any all takeaway leftovers' – then so be it.

Sorry, he’s a dick. i would counter this by making sure all foods in the house are always touching, and bombard him with close-up photos of different foods touching each other.

But then, I’m a sociopath 🫢

This is something I’d never even thought of, but is absolutely true.

I speak as someone who’s home made soup “went missing” from the fridge once. I’ve never got over it.

Massive red flag....joking.

I believe you did say he keeps off if you say so put cling film over and tell him this means keep off!

Really bad manners and completely selfish behaviour from him. And how hungry is he if he only picks out the few pieces of meat in your leftovers and leaves the rest. Isn’t there a packet of ham he can snack on?

Put a sign on it in the fridge - DO NOT EAT MY FOOD, YOU 🐷!

My takeaway from this is he has an addiction to this sort of food. Maybe take him to a local slimming group for support?

Exactly. A greedy guts pretending to have sensory issues

If you've told him before to leave certain leftovers before and he does, just tell him to do that always. Why is he 'tasting' your food the next day anyway?! When you are eating, have a 'taste' of each others then, whilst it's hot if you both want to. Your leftovers are yours.

Use your words...'X, you have eaten all of your takeaway, I'm leaving half of mine for my lunch tomorrow. It's a really shit disappointing lunch for me if you have decided to eat all the meat out of it!'

I presume he doesn't have any additional needs and can understand that...

he knows its her lunch now!

Put it in a box and then tape a note on top with words of your choice!

This...heading home to enjoy the last pork pie or a nice bit of leftovers to find it gone - is bad enough but when it's clearly 'yours' - that is bad form.

Set a boundary and mean it. My DH used to hoover up any sweet treats if I didn't eat my share within a day or so of their arrival in the house. Until I told him categorically to leave my share the fuck alone. He now leaves it alone. I have chocolate in the cupboard that's been there for ages while I nibble away at it at my leisure. He knows it's out of bounds.

Tell him not to touch it at all because you want to have it for lunch the next day.
If he wants more food he should order more and not take yours and especially not pick out the best bits.

I agree with others, whilst on the surface it's 'light hearted' in reality he's saying 'F U' whether he's aware of it or not.

I also agree that it SHOULD be easy to solve. When you put it in the fridge just say please don't eat any of this , it's for my lunch tomorrow'.

If he ignores you you've got far bigger problems.

I actually thought this was a much nicer way of asking:

'And what did he say when you demanded that he not do that?', 😆which is a question that pisses me off more than I can say.

😂😂

My vegetarian niece still harbours a grudge at her mother, 10 years on, for eating her leftover veggie pizza from the fridge, leaving her own leftover meat pizza because the veggie one looked great. In my sister’s defence, she was fed up of months of waste, throwing out leftover veggie pizza that my niece “was going to eat but forgot.”

Leftover takeaway can be very emotive 😂

I'd tell him not to touch my leftovers at all!

I would just tell him "can you not eat all the meat out of the curry please"

far too passive: Don't eat my leftovers, that is my lunch. Greedy fucker.

Serve him the remains of your leftovers after he’s picked at them for lunch the next day while organising something much nicer for yourself. If he thinks it’s okay for you to have it for lunch then he can have it for lunch. I bet he’ll stop doing it pretty quickly.

I'm a carnivore. I eat meat, tolerate veges. If someone picked the meat out of my takeaway I'd be stabby.

It might be weird to you but it's normal to some people. Maybe they have breakfast at different times? Don't bother get up together? Like different things? I often ate breakfast earlier because I had to leave for work first. Or DH skipped breakfast, which I'd never dream of doing.