To call out a man for barging into me?

[Giraffe007]

Walking in to a supermarket, wide entrance, plenty of room, a man clearly in a hurry, walking fast, barged into me, knocking my shoulder hard.

Was I being unreasonable to shout after him "what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you? I was with my teenage son, who was mortified, not a the man's rudeness, but at me calling him out for it. BTW, the man ignored me, but a a middle aged woman, I'm used to being ignored.

Trying a different tack now? 🤣

Oh you want the response to fact you left your son with your mother when you went abroad

but you’re now denying

but it is telling he didn’t think to tell his mother he’d been violently assaulted

You name changed immediately after your posting on this thread

I would have done too in your shoes

What??

Your mum (presumably no spring chicken ) was being barged repeatedly and had no where to go is she was in a train aisle, and so she just asked him to stop. And you think she was in the wrong for the fact that the violent loon punched your son???! Unbelievable

He should have apologised!

This isn't something that should be normalised.

I always apologise if I bump into someone. Which isn't something I make a habit of but it shouldn't just be okay to barge into someone and not be be apologetic.

Except that’s not what happened, nor what I said, so god knows why you’re exaggerating the details for your own purpose 🙄

No need for anything more than just a requote

😮

A few years ago, when I was having chemo and my hands, feet and legs were sore, a male pig saw me trying to push a trolley to the car in a supermarket in Ferndown, Dorset. He deliberately walked in my path so I had to try and move the trolley to avoid him. On passing him he said to me "that wasn't so difficult was it"? It was perfectly obvious I wasn't well and was having difficulty moving.

Oh, so you didn’t get it quite correct in your re-telling.

I’m with all the other posters

just 😮

Lucky I don’t give a tinker’s what you think then 😄

She was absolutely and completely in the wrong.

I don’t imagine you care what anyone thinks of you. Your poor mum. But good on her for asking the man barging in to her, to stop.

Not sure I’d be littering my posts about my son being punched in the face with laughing emojis. Each to their own. Although I suppose I understand now why he didn’t tell his mother about the assault until days later. Probably worried she’d dissolve in to giggles

Just let it go, this is tiresome now.

She was in the wrong, and I don’t feel sorry for her. All my sympathy is with my son who she put in the firing line. She should have kept quiet instead of mouthing off and creating a scene as she always does. She’s embarrassing to be around and frankly a liability to herself and others. Good for her you say, for putting herself and others in danger of physical harm? 🙄

All my sympathy is with your son
but zero blame on your poor mum for simply asking a man to stop barging in to her

I hope you kept the fact that you think she was absolutely and completely wrong to yourself. Sadly, I suspect not

So now she was mouthing off and creating a scene? In your post you said literally all she did was to ask him to stop barging in to her!

My mother was stupid and reckless. Why are you trying so hard to defend her?

You carry on ‘speaking up’ if you want to. Others have a better sense of self-preservation and don’t particularly care for the barrage of swearing or threats of violence that can result. There’s no way of knowing how people will respond. It’s better not to find out.

you said she asked a man to stop barging her in your initial post. Only now did she create drama

But even if she did…. A man punched your son in the face.

So fucked up how you view your mum as “completely” to blame

No, they really won’t be looking at him. They won’t have seen the barge. If you are going to call him out, shouting out in public is not really the way to do it.

She did ask him, and it all went south, as these things usually do.

You carry on - ask people to stop playing their loud music, ask them to stop pushing you, whatever it may be - go ahead and do it, as long as you’re aware that there are antisocial, violent people out there who won’t want to hear it.

I don’t think it says much for your sense of self-preservation, but you do you.

Maybe you should have said that

but even then

absolutely nothing warrants you blaming your
mother for fact that a lunatic punched your son in the face. Nothing

Good for you OP. I've had a bloke do the same thing when I've been walking my dog; he's done it a couple of times ( the same bloke!) Barrelling along the pavement as if I was invisible, I had no where to go on the pavement, and my dog lunged at him ( didn't bite him, but he got too close to us). Serve the knob right.

He swore after we'd gone past ( "F*ing dogs!!") So I turned and shouted "How about you give us some space, you knob!"

He must be a bit thick, as he's also parked his car as we were walking past, then ran up the path behind us to get past, with the same results. He acts like we're invisible.

He had to learn the hard way that we weren't! It seems to be a middle aged men thing where they either don't see you, or they do and just expect you to get out of their way. I make a point of not moving fir them. I will move for elderly, other women with prams/toddlers, people with dogs or the disabled. I'm just sick of male entitlement.

Well, we’re back where we started. I disagree. She had the ability to prevent this, and she didn’t. She’s incapable of understanding that people are often nasty and abusive, and she can’t ask people not to do things, or to do things differently - they won’t, they don’t care, and she’s asking for trouble, but she has to say something.

One of my favourite acts of micro-feminism is to not move out of the way for men aged between about 18 and 60.

I once called out a man in Tesco carpark who went out of his way to park his finished-with trolley in an empty parking space, as opposed to the trolley collection area the same distance away in the opposite direction.
"You know, trolleys don't go there."
I got a lot of spluttering and "mind your own business!" Idiot.

You weren’t there
you were in another country
your son didn’t even tell you for a few days

Man punches son in face. He is to blame. 100%.