To call out a man for barging into me?

[Giraffe007]

Walking in to a supermarket, wide entrance, plenty of room, a man clearly in a hurry, walking fast, barged into me, knocking my shoulder hard.

Was I being unreasonable to shout after him "what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you? I was with my teenage son, who was mortified, not a the man's rudeness, but at me calling him out for it. BTW, the man ignored me, but a a middle aged woman, I'm used to being ignored.

Absolutely the right thing to do.

For years now I’ve been aware of the men expecting women to move issue. I stopped doing it. Once you see it you can’t unsee it. And no, of course not all men, but enough that it’s ‘a thing.’

That’s not what I’m saying, as you very well know. My mum could have moved away from this crazy fool, but choose to ‘call him out’ instead, whose reaction was to scream all kinds of abuse and start punching my child.

If it had been me - I would have meekly accepted being hurt, yes, gladly, if it means my child isn’t in the firing line of a lunatic like that. I’m not taking the risk. It’s obvious that these antisocial types have no care or consideration for those around them - why anyone thinks ‘calling them out’ is going to suddenly motivate them to do better, or be better, I don’t know.

I wasn’t in the country at the time and didn’t find out until several days later, at which point I did. Any other ways you can think of to pick fault with me?

How should she have phrased it then?

Your teen son didn’t tell you he had been punched In the face by a stranger?

So you did report. Odd not to have said in your original response. Anyhoo… what was the outcome? In terms of cctv footage… could t get a better place that a train station for this to have happened

Your mother “asked him to stop” repeatedly banging her in the back
He responded by punching your son

Unfathomable that you’d think to blame your mother for one single thing in this scenario

especially as she was responsible for your son given you weren’t even in the country

I can’t be bothered going into any more detail than I already have. Be careful; there are some seriously unpleasant people out there, engage brain before you engage mouth and decide whether it’s worth the risk of verbal abuse or physical assault. That’s all I’m saying.

You’ve made a number of assumptions there that are incorrect, but never mind.

ok

because on the basis of what you did choose to share

Your mother had sole responsibility for your child because you were in another country
a man was barging her
She asked him to stop
he punched your son

you blame your mother

Another rude cunt. Well done for standing up and embarrass him in front of all and sundry.

It's worrying that your son is more embarrassed by a woman standing up for herself than angry that a man barged into his mum.

My teenage nieces were angry when a man barged into me and told him to watch himself.

It seems like males still don't get it.

Again, incorrect assumptions.

Will we all be basking in the warming glow of self-satisfaction having called out idiots for their behaviour, or will we be asking whether it was really worth it when we’ve been punched in the face… that’s the question. If that’s the risk you’re willing to take - you carry on.

If you reported it to police, you would know if there was CCTV, but you didn't say that when the posters asked you.
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It’s because they know perfectly well they’ll be the target of this other man’s aggression, that’s why! Isn’t that obvious?

His mum’s starting something, the son will end up suffering for it.

No, that's not obvious. Stop victim blaming and urging women to be doormats. You have an agenda, that's for sure.

No agenda at all, just more common sense than you. If women don’t want to be ‘doormats’ and want to call men out on bad behaviour - fine - are you happy dealing with the consequences of it? If the man turns violent, you won’t be expecting the teenage son to get involved, right?

I’ve confronted entitled men all my adult life and will continue to do so.

The OP didn’t expect her teenage son to take the consequences so not sure what you’re on about.

Great, carry on then.

Not a legal trial but in the grand scheme nothing major either wherther her teen spoke on not.
We might have to agree to disagree but for my part it's done with.

How utterly bizarre

Because quite patently @VaseofViolets didnt report to police

YABU. You should have chased after him and knocked him out with a courgette. Cunt.

As I very well know?! Are you a professional mind reader too then?

So women should move away, keep themselves meek and quiet so as not to further 'provoke' violent men with their existance? No thanks, you have no right to tell women to behave like that, you should be putting the blame for male violence firmly on men however.

OP was neither passive nor aggressive so I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion.

Thats never happened to me and I’m 47. What the hell. No YANBU what a prick.