To call out a man for barging into me?

[Giraffe007]

Walking in to a supermarket, wide entrance, plenty of room, a man clearly in a hurry, walking fast, barged into me, knocking my shoulder hard.

Was I being unreasonable to shout after him "what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you? I was with my teenage son, who was mortified, not a the man's rudeness, but at me calling him out for it. BTW, the man ignored me, but a a middle aged woman, I'm used to being ignored.

You don’t honestly think there’s the least possibility that you’re being unreasonable. I mean, the experience is worth sharing, but AIBU is not really the question, is it? It’s more WTF.

How do we account for men rarely bumping into one another?

You’re just a bit of a twat aren’t you 😂

It’s so depressing that a minority of posters are taking the op to task for not complying with social niceties. It smacks of second hand embarrassment at a woman not doing the socially ordained thing and keeping quiet and small and refraining from impacting anyone else.

I think op performed a minor public service in drawing attention to this, actually. And it may well have made her feel just a little bit more in control, which is important in its own right. Not all women would be drowning in embarrassment at hearing another refusing to meekly accept being shoved about!

Ah yes, resorting to name-calling. How predictable and boring 🥱

In the time taken
you could have just told us what happened when you supposedly reported this violent assault on your son to the police.

If you don’t like how your mother conducts herself, then maybe don’t leave her teenager with her whilst you head off abroad?

You're not being unreasonable. If someone were to bump into my mum's shoulder it would cause her serious pain / injury and could even knock her over.

He barged in to in a hurry and didn’t give a backward glance it would seem when you shouted after him.

im not seeing how you “called him out” OP. Instead those around you would have just probably thought…. “Oooh bit of drama, I wonder what’s got her agitated!”

@VaseofViolets i reread your post twice and I’m still WTF that you’re pissed with your mother.

Your mother who was caring for YOUR teen whilst you were abroad
Your mother who was being repeatedly barged in the bag by a twat
Your mother who faced up to him
and the twat punches your son in the face
Your mother had to deal with the aftermath as your son didn’t even think to mention you, his mum, until days afterwards (probably because gran was dealing with it all!)

unbelievable

That’s not actually what happened. But never mind.

Exactly what happened according to your first post

and anyone can just go back and read that

It is according to your own posts on this thread @VaseofViolets

They actually have a word/term for men barging into women in Japan - how sad is that?! But shows you that it is common, I don't think it's bad you said something.

I was outside Sainsburys last week, just about to pop my trolley token in when I was barged out of the way by a man who clearly couldn't wait the seconds it would have taken for me to release the trolley. My bag was on the handle and fell into the trolley bed meaning I had to snatch it back as he marched off.

Once I'd gotten over the incredulity of the man and gone inside, there he was with his wife. As I walked past I looked him straight in the eye and said 'well you are a rude twat aren't you?' and then walked off. Wife looked most confused, would love to know what he told her the reason was to a random woman berating him.

It really isn’t.

A few weeks ago I was waiting to cross at a busy junction in my city centre, and a tourist (lady in her 60s) made a dash across the road. A cyclist yelled atrocious abuse at her and exaggeratedly made to swerve around her. I saw red and shouted at him ‘don’t shout at her, you rude man!’ so of course he proceeded to tell me to mind my own fucking business, because I was a fat cunt apparently. Did I care that everyone stared at me? Nope. And it was a red light for cyclists. Street bully.

I have just read the thread @VaseofViolets

and yes it is!

Your poor mother, reasonably sticks up for herself against a rude man and you blame her for his response being to punch your son.

Yawn. Not what happened. Whatever.

here we go

yep

as I (and every other poster who picked up your post too) knew

unbelievable. And you weren’t in the country, your mother was looking after your boy!!

I really can’t be arsed to go into all the detail. She wasn’t looking after him, and she was in the wrong.

You said you were out the country and you’d left him in her care??!!!

You said this, you! 😆

No, I didn’t. I didn’t want him in her care at all. Turns out I was correct, he’d have been better on his own.

‘She didn’t like the idea of him travelling alone to London on the train as she didn’t think he’d be safe, so insisted on going with him’ - that’s what I said.

No need to reply as this is just tedious.

You didn’t want your mother to look after your teen son

Yet somehow you left your teen son with her when you went abroad

okay

I didn’t leave him with her 🙄

You’re extrapolating from what I said to suit yourself.

Can’t believe your teen son was punched in the face and you didn’t find out until days later.

He kept it from you?