To call out a man for barging into me?

[Giraffe007]

Walking in to a supermarket, wide entrance, plenty of room, a man clearly in a hurry, walking fast, barged into me, knocking my shoulder hard.

Was I being unreasonable to shout after him "what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you? I was with my teenage son, who was mortified, not a the man's rudeness, but at me calling him out for it. BTW, the man ignored me, but a a middle aged woman, I'm used to being ignored.

Oh I call this out all the time! If you ever hear 'I'm short, not invisible, you great doylem' being bellowed at a lump of a bloke, that'll be me.

I started playing Patriarchy Chicken a few years ago, it's fascinating. I've had blokes stop dead in front of me and look at me like I'm mad for not moving, and in all fairness I have had men that politely move out of the way with an embarrassed smile too, but they are few and far between.

You think he did not feel anything when the OPs body blocked his path?

Sadly his type won't care. He's probably an entitled narcissist and you were having the audacity to occupy his space. Which was an inconvenience to Mr important.

Good for you for calling the obnoxious prick out ! Your son is probably at that age where you're totally 'embarassing'. Don't take it personally. But do use it as an opportunity that men don't treat women like that. (Or anyone for that matter )

Doubt he even registered
no doubt an inconsiderate twat and just used to bumping people, probably parked in the parent and child space

You think he did not feel his body move at the point of impact?

It is absolutely true. Over time I have developed a way of not moving out of their way but also not colliding with them. It’s kind of a pause, but I don’t step aside, sort of just stay grounded 😅 It works with men and teenagers (who are not necessarily being rude but are sometimes oblivious).

Sorry, this was to the person who commented that men take up all the space

I was going to post the link to the other thread as well

i had 2 blokes nearly blocking the aisle in supermarket talking so I went round them and saw a man starting to run right at right at me to slam his trolley into me

i blocked him and he started screaming and jumping up and down due to him being annoyed at not being able to slam into me

i told security and continued with my shopping

Oh sure

but no doubt happens all the time and he just charged on oblivious and in a hurry and didnt think for a nano second that a woman shouting behind him had anything to do with him or if it did he no doubt thought “oh I bet the silly woman is in her period”

So you think the woman he hit is the only woman near him and he hears her shouting and his brain (not even the crocodile part) did not go " am I in danger of being hit over the back of the head by the woman or the young male who was beside her" rather his brain ignored the event or his brain when "nothing to see here silly woman" ?

Honestly I don’t think you were rude. I wouldn’t have been able to contain my anger. If he knew he did it and didn’t say sorry I would have made sure he felt shit about himself for the rest of the day. Ugly? Thanks for barging me you ugly twat. Fat - thanks for barging me you fat cunt! Not joking, don’t bother commenting on my comment if you’re not the OP I won’t read it and don’t care. Men are shit heads that think we can be barged into without as much as a sorry, no fucking thank you. And my teenage son would have stuck up for me if the man had a problem with my shouting / calling him out.

Nope

I think that he goes through life barging. Whether in person or in his car.

And if he heard a woman, any woman, shouting - if his tiny brain registered it… he’d think “typical silly woman on her period / going through the change”

am I in danger of being hit over the back of the head by the woman or the young male who was beside her

I would wager this wouldn’t have even remotely entered his thought process.

Why do you think of the 2 people he could have hit he picked the middle aged woman and not the male teen?

OP, I did this once too. The man barged me out of the way, whacking me with his large backpack and I saw red. I went after him and asked him why he thought that was acceptable and the wanker saidI was in the way and 'there was no space'. There was definitely space. I asked him why he couldn't use his words an say 'excuse me please' and just he huffed and puffed and insinuated I were a harridon.

Would the tosser have done that to a 6'3 man? I bloody well doubt it!

No idea. It was a 50/50 of either.

My 13 year old daughter was barged out the way by a middle aged woman the other day. We looked at one another and said “Rude!”
in unison and laughed!

For sure- my young adult daughters say the same thing. They are now not moving out of the way. A good thing is to slightly angle the shoulder forwards- it makes it more uncomfortable for the person slamming into you having a pointy shoulder pushed into them and also means that you are not taking the impact full on.
i tend to move out of the way just because i don’t want to be touched by strangers!

You need pre-printed sticky notes that read "I am a massive twat". You catch up to him, give him a friendly tap on the back to apply sticker and then tell him you think he dropped something. Point randomly towards pavement. Then walk away knowing the massive twat (now labelled) is grovelling around on the floor.

Ooo good idea. Could have many stickers. I have a tiny penis. Etc

when I was leaving the oasis concert a couple of weeks ago, I was shoved over going up the stairs at the end. Obviously it was v crowded but it was a proper shove - hands on my shoulder blades from behind. I sort of sprawled on my hands and knees but as we were going up the stairs just got up again - it wasn’t a big fall. But I turned round to see it was the man who’d been in front of us during the gig. He’d been with his teenage boys and we’d been interacting during the concert - he took a photo for us etc. I said “oh my god” because I was genuinely shocked and he was really apologetic. But it definitely wasn’t accidental. I found it so weird that he was a nice dad who thought it was okay to shove an unfamiliar woman, but not a familiar one.

Sure… registered briefly in the same way as if he’d bumped into an inanimate object of no importance.

Absolutely

I was shoved by a large man with a belly going into the school hall for an event. I am slow because I have mobility issues but for some reason he thought the answer was to make bodily contact with his belly and shove me along to make me faster. Unbelievable.

So choice between

Middle aged woman or
Teen age girl

And
Middle age woman or
Teen age boy

And you cant work out any common risk factor which an individual may have taken account of before engaging physical assault ?

Bizarre