Help solve an “discussion” between DH and the DC and I.
I (and the DC - 16 and 18) think that if you add please to a request that is adds optionality. So the person can say no. But if it is just a crack on and do it you shouldn’t say please. For example I would say to either DC. “DC pass me the salt” I wouldn’t say please but I would say thank you when they passed it.
DH thinks that is rude and you should always say please. We think that saying please is rude if the person shouldn’t say no.
what do you think?