Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

[Jahavagayxn]

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

My friend INVITED me to stay with her.

in the meantime she got with some bloke who never left her side the whole time and totally dominated her time. Ruined my holiday. he was also extremely weird around her youngest and displayed some VERY disturbing behaviour

i kept my son well away from him. I think he knew I’d rumbled him,

sadly she stuck with him and I never got the chance to tell her that her boyfriend was probably dodgy.

I run an Airbnb. There is a max occupancy and my insurance needs just the slightest excuse not to pay out, as unlikely an accident is I’d not risk it.
If adding the extra bloke was within the occupancy I’d say no problem

Ask them, if they say no stick him in a room nearby and you all hang out at the BNB.

I certainly wouldn’t ask the hosts about a day guest.

What are the conditions for cancellation? Could you cancel and rebook somewhere bigger?

Just ask and be prepared to pay the extra cost, because you really should for their insurance etc. They might not want someone sleeping on their sofa or cramming an extra person into one of their single beds.... but they may possibly have a sofa bed that they would be willing to put in for you instead.

My sister has an Airbnb. Guests have pulled this trick on her before and it infuriates her. Guests have been banned for it. You have a contract with the host, which you agreed to. Abide by it. Could your friend not stay nearby, in alternative accommodation,. If he doesn't know your friends yet, he might prefer that.

I think I'd book somewhere locally for the 2 of you to sleep but socialise at their place.
And get another date in the diary for the 8 of you to go away.
Have fun whatever you do x

You could ask. I have family at the other end of the country & we go to each others town a few times a year & I always ask the AirBnB host if it’s ok if the family visit us at the accommodation & vice versa & it’s never been an issue. They’ve always said yes, I know some may not like it but definitely ask. They must get asked it quite a lot

I have an air BnB which is a sort of annexe to my own house. I can choose to rent it out when I am there, or not there, but I never rent it out when I am not there and this sort of thing is the reason why. I would not want some sweaty six foot bloke sleeping on my sofa, thanks. Especially not without a full and proper set of bedding. And a single bed in a holiday let may not be of the quality to withstand the weight of two shagging adults. The hot water capacity may struggle with extra people showering as well.
I make it clear on the listing that we live on site, so even if we choose to go away for a few days during guests' stays, they always book in the knowledge that we will see whatever is going on. It works because it puts off the people who might want to take the piss.
I know of people who have booked nices houses with pools sleeping 4 or 6 while the rest of their family or friends are in a cheap place with no nice facilities down the road. Then they turn up at the nice villa every day to use the pool and the wifi and the bbq, the garden furniture, the games room, the loos and the sunbeds then bugger off again at bedtime. So the house may only be sleeping 4 or 6, but everything else is taking a battering with 10 or 12 people in it.
Also people think if the host isn't there, they can book and pay for a place sleeping 4 or 6 people, then turn up with a load of blow up air beds and an extra four kids in tow. They don't see the harm, but honestly the difference to the wear and tear on your place, your furnishings and your pool etc is huge.

All the above being said, if a guest asked nicely and explained, if I felt I could comfortably accommodate them then I would. But I'd ask that they brought a double blow up bed and I might ask for an extra bit of money to be paid separately or to be held back from the deposit or whatever, to cover more hot water usage, and extra set of bedlinen etc.

We had an air bnb a year ago... two of DC's friends wanted to stay for two nights.... We just asked the owner and the two extras paid the fee.

Admittedly there was a spare room.. but often these places have spare put up beds or sofa beds.

I think it would have been stressful and ruined the break if we'd had to sneak them in and out.

If you ask the host and they refuse, because of insurance perhaps and then take him anyway YABU. It could affect everyone elses holiday. The owner may live nearby or have cctv/ring doorbell.

if you ask and they refuse, book something for the two of you nearby. Enjoy your break.

Ask the host but if they say no then you have to accept that and he stays at home.
You were going to go without him when it was booked as you weren't with him then so you can manage a weekend without him.

If you have to sneak someone in, then you know the host won’t allow it. Why is it ok to do that?

I have taken an extra person to a holiday home before, but we asked the owner in advance and they were fine with it. We brought an airbed for them to sleep on in the dining room

I wouldn't be happy if I arranged to share a house with a small group of people I knew well and one of them brought a person I did not know at all. And if she didn't even bother consulting the other members of the group, I would write her off as a CF and not go away with her again.

How do you know that the guests that you do know about aren’t also falling asleep on the sofa at the end of the night?

If it was my holiday too and 7 of us all knew each other really well were good friends and did stuff then one person brought a total stranger it would really depend on whether or not he complemented the group or not. I would not necessarily say a holiday is the best time to make introductions. Surely a few nights out first to break the ice and if he fits the group then yes but only if the Airbnb owner ok‘s it.

Because maybe everyone knows each other and a holiday away isn’t the time to meet a new person people might dislike.

This! Why do people on Mumsnet start calling boyfriends “partners” when they’ve been together 5 minutes? To me, if you aren’t serious enough to live together, you’re not partners ( unless it’s due to DC and you’ve been together a significant period of time).

He’s a boyfriend OP, it your partner.

They’ve never met him!

You’ve clearly only known him for five minutes yourself, hardly qualifies as a partner.

So not only is she being told who she can take on her trip she's now being told what she can call him.

It doesn't matter what other people want to call him. It matters what she thinks. She may simply feel too old to call him a partner
None of that is what she asked.

It does if she’s trying to impose someone she’s known 5 minutes on her friends as her “partner”. It’s just meaningless to call someone a partner unless they truly are.

I don't know, obviously, but why would they when they have a proper bed to go to? They aren't planning on spending all night, every night on the sofa, probably half naked, that's the difference.

In hotels you’re not allowed to exceed the maximum stated because of fire and safety regulations. I’d say this also applies to air bnb’s.