Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

[Jahavagayxn]

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

If the hosts find out there is over occupancy they are entitled to ask you all to leave immediately without recompense. I’m not saying they would do that but they are within their rights, and Airbnb would back them up.
It’s a bit unfair on your friends to put their holiday at risk imo.

I wouldn’t be if I didn’t know the man.

You sound like the selfish type who doesn't care about anyone else as long as you're happy.

Fortunately for me I have nice friends ☺️

Unfortunately they will have a maximum occupancy on their insurance, so I would definitely ask but don’t think they’re being difficult if they say no.

You sound like a fun sponge. Won’t somebody please think of the insurance!

Oh OP…. This is going to go one way this weekend away! 😆

Please don't sneak him in.

I run an AirBnB. I don't mind extra people assuming there's room, but I do charge extra pp so if you didn't tell me about an extra person I'd assume you were trying to get out of paying fairly and take a very very dim view.

There is indeed a limit to the number of people allowed by my insurer too.

Just ask, and if they say no either leave BF at home or book somewhere around the corner.

I’d absolutely ask the host first as I’m guessing they’re only insured for 7. But worth asking!

Yeah I will ask, I've no problem paying the extra!
I hadn't considered the insurance side tbh

To be on the safe side I'd book a cheap hotel room nearby. But there should be no issue in him spending the day with you all. I've never seen any 'no visitors to the property' in the house rules of any Airbnb I've stayed in.

I’ve done this, not partners, but family, and also had different people one night and the next, but only after checking with the host. They’ve all been fine but I didn’t exceed occupation levels which I think could well be an issue due to insurance. I normally nowadays have to give all details of all people staying, security I guess which is tighter.

Ask all your friends, ask the host.
If it's cool with everyone, go for it.
If it isn't, sneak him in anyway, inside a sleeping bag don't do it 😀

I do charge extra pp

What do you charge the extra for? In this situation there wouldn't be extra bedding or towels to launder as I am assuming the host only has enough to cater for 7 people.

If there was a spare bed you said you weren't going to use then yes that would be unfair to the host.

It costs whatever it costs for the property. I think this is fine!

Where is it? We have an airbnb attached to our home, the maximum number of people we can have is four, our fire risk assessment, insurance etc is for a maximum of four guests, so we would say no, we would also have to ask guests to leave if they chose to bring more than four people in their party. Then you have to factor than airbnb for seven may only have seven dining chairs, place settings etc. Him sleeping on the sofa also dictates peoples bedtimes and get up times, which is fairly poor.

Provided you have enough beds.

I’d want your partner to come in this situation OP, and be really happy about it.

We often go to Air bnbs near my daughter’s uni - we book for us a a couple (and a dog) so usually one bedroom.

daughter and her boyfriend almost always have dinner with us at the Airbnb and hang out, and one time, both slept in the lounge.

we’ve never had any issues.

if it’s a place for 7 adults and you’re happy to squidge into the single bed together, I really cannot see the hosts would have an issue.

prepare for 7 seats around dining table, 7 place settings, though, so take some extras with you xx

I've also got an AirBNB next to our house, and because it's quite remote, we're not on mains drainage. The system is set up for a maximum number of people and if guests sneak extra people in, there's a real chance it can cause problems for the cottage and for us! We explicitly don't allow parties for this reason, and have had to cancel bookings when guests let slip they were planning to host bigger gatherings.

Plus there's the insurance aspect, plus the fact that sofas aren't supposed to be slept on, plus the hot water/towels/seating/cutlery, plus the general ick factor of having to have that conversation with the host when they realise you're trying to pull a fast one... I just wouldn't.

If your friends are OK with it I'd probably sneak him in, to be honest.

Depends on the bloke and the circumstances, if you and he are in the throes of a new relationship it can be quite tiresome for others in the group to have to put up with 'new couple' PDAs, over the top lovey-dovey behaviour and perhaps wanting to split off from the rest of the group and do things on theirr own.
Which won't be what the others signed up for or are expecting.

And if the new guy is anything other than very easy going and sociable, you can be sure some people won't be happy about that either. Eg if he's a bit loud, or opinionated, or a bit of a drinker when the others aren't (or vice versa).
And some people just won't like the changed dynamic. This is all about you, really. Why not go away with him on your own at a later date?

OP, you weren't in a relationship when you booked this trip, so it's more a case of inviting a virtual stranger than bringing a partner, which is very different.

We are hosts in Italy. Here we have to fill in an online form for the police with photos of all the guests passports. We get fined thousands if we get caught having not done it. It's how they tax our income.

We wouldn't be allowed to exceed capacity of the bnb, but we could have him as a guest in our house next door, on paper at least, and then just let him stay with you. My point being, you need to tell the host, let them decide if it's possible. I personally wouldn't charge you extra either. I'd do my best for you, because you'd been honest.

Have you asked your friends? Do they know the new guy and like him?

A holiday is not a good time to try out new dude with friends.

You seem defensive.

Plus there's the max occupancy and insurance issue.

whose name is the booking in? Because if you don’t get permission and take him anyway there could be repercussions for them with using Airbnb in the future.