Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

[Jahavagayxn]

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

They quite possibly will only have insurance for 7 people at the Airbnb. You can ask them very nicely and offer to pay more if they want, they may be fine, but they may well say no due insurance or fire safety ect. Don't try to sneak someone in, as if they find out they could ask you all to leave, which would be a pain for all your friends.

I do think it is normal at the start of a relationship to not do things together like this due to logistics of booking. If the relationship goes well you will have years of group holidays with them though. Another option, if it is not too far, might be your new boyfriend joining you for the day. In your position (if your friends are OK about someone on the sofa ect) I would ask the host in case, but not expect them to say yes.

People are being far too cautious! Just take him! The Air BnB hosts won’t know. I have an Airbnb and I really wouldn’t care, unless he shits the bed or breaks something. But anyone could do that. If he does sleep on the sofa, I would make sure he’s up and dressed with any bedding put away before everyone else wakes up as I hate duvets and shit all over the place, but other than that it should be fine.

It really isn’t a biggie.

Awww be lovely OP if he could stay, it would make it an even better weekend having your new partner stay and meet your friends.

You should just ask the host though otherwise you will only worry all weekend that you are going to get caught out. You never know the host may be ok with it but definitely best to check.

Have a lovely weekend however it goes and all the best with your new relationship.

Insurance

Which you could be invalidating on some of your trips

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

I certainly wouldn't, especially if I had to get up in the morning to a stranger on the sofa. You have to grow a friendship and that's a bit too abrupt.

I wouldn’t use a trip away to introduce anew partner to old friends. Suppose they don’t get on?

The airbnbs insurance will be for 7, any more and it will be invalidated if something happens

why don’t you see if you can get a small one room one for you and your partner? Hopefully the 6 remaining will,pick up your share of that one

Sharing accommodation with someone they don't know very well might be awkward for them. I assume that you got to know their partners before going on holiday with them.

do you have your own en-suite for this stay? If not, even if you get approval from the owner, this is an additional person to work into the queue. Also a person on the sofa limits other people’s options.

its entirely different if you plan from the beginning and choose an appropriate rental for the number of people.

I wouldn’t mind at all a friend bringing a new partner on a trip like this but I’d hate them being asleep on the sofa as I’m an early riser! Maybe take an airbed or something for the single room if the hosts do okay it? But I do agree make sure everyone knows first so it’s not awkward!

How would they even know? The thought of checking wouldn’t even cross my mind tbh, I’d just bring him

One beds are rarely for 2
It'll more than likely be a sofa bed

Maybe there is an Abnb host on here who can advise you what to do if they haven’t already.

It is what you said ”cheeky” it’s like something for nothing even tho he’s offered to pay! I’d be annoyed if plans are made then a group member decides to bring their boyfriend. Plus it goes against booking regulations. The Airbnb have rules and you are going to openly break them! Book another time together go somewhere else?

Ask them . You could word it as how much of a supplement you need to pay to have an extra adult .

OP said she'll be in the single room and IME they rarely have en suites, so as you say that's another person in the queue

Even if the host said yes there simply aren't enough beds for 8 and I doubt everyone else will be happy tiptoeing around someone asleep in the lounge, so personally I'd go with renting a small place nearby and just meeting the others in the day

Since when was a casual boyfriend a "partner"?

Blimey. I’ve always worked in the basis that you are renting the property and so it’s up to you how many people come. Had no idea that the Air BNB owner would care a jot if one more or less person was there provided no damage was done to the property. I’ve been educated today!

One potential issue if he does come though is that there are probably only 7 of everything not eight so may not be enough cutlery, plates, glasses, mugs or chairs for him to hang out.

I wouldn’t do it without checking with the host. As others have said it’s likely to have insurance implications. So doing it on the sly could result in the booking being cancelled for everyone.

As for bringing your new partner on the holiday, if your friends are ok then fair enough. Personally I wouldn’t include a new partner on a pre booked holiday. Invite them to a meal or a day out sure, even the next weekend away but I think it puts everyone in an awkward position to add someone to an existing booking. Everyone has agreed to go based on the original guest list. Adding an extra person can change the whole dynamic of the group.

Most good rentals have a double up rule re crockery - 7 guests equals 14 cups - in France to get a official star rating you HAVE to show this to the examiner.
Re extra guests - as an air b and b host (I also use other sites) while I am nice (despite the username) I’d have to say no in the 7 bed- single room scenario - it does invalidate my specialist insurance.

Sport pressed too soon - there’s a maximum occupancy for a reason - sleeps 7 - 7 are insured - 8 matter the reason - uninsured

I'd feel really awkward about being asked, because I would find it very difficult to have someone I didn't know on the trip, but wouldn't feel I could say "no", especially if I was asked straight out without time to think. I suspect I'm not alone in this.

If you're going to ask, then I think it would be fairer if you email them as a group and ask them to decide as a group, so it isn't one person saying they'd find it hard.

If they were a long time partner I'd met several times it would be a different matter, but if it was then I'd also expect them to have been asked.

I provide a generous breakfast, so more people = more food. If there are more than two people, the remaining beds are singles and need laundering pp and an extra bathroom/towels cleaning. Additional hot water for showers.

My price for one person is also very reasonable so even with a second person in the same room as an additional cost it's cheaper than average for the area.

Ask the host. If the answer's no (and there might be legal limits on the number of guests allowed), can you and your partner get somewhere else nearby?

Bit off topic isn’t it? Op said she is in a new relationship mothing about a casual boyfriend.