Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

[Jahavagayxn]

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

Exactly. Chill out people!

I think booking accommodation nearby and hanging out the air BnB is the only solution.

Same. Wouldn’t even think twice about it.

I can’t help but agree with this. I’m generally a rule follower but seriously this isn’t a big deal. Hosts are more concerned about crazy parties and damage to their property.

You need to ask the air BnB host. Whoever booked it specifically needs to ask.

Have you not asked the owner?
I wouldn’t be happy if someone just sneaked na extra person in my place but if they asked first I would certainly try to accommodate them.

my view would be to go for it. I’ve done air b n b and had my sister and niece come for a couple of days, they slept on an airbed. It was last minute, we obviously book the required amount of rooms.

Of all the things you could do to an air b n b, adding another guest would be the least of their worries. On a recent trip I ruined a rug, it wasn’t expensive and I paid for a replacement, but I’m sure there are plenty of people who break things, leave the accommodation in a bad state. An extra but polite guest wouldn’t be a deal breaker I think. If they don’t want him to stay there, I think it would be unreasonable for him not to be able to visit and spend time with you, have dinner etc.

I voted YANBU. I think I am in the minority though. What do your friends think this is the most important thing. I wouldn’t want my friend there without her partner if we could make it happen. How would the host even know?

Yes, this is just as much a consideration, op!

This. I went to a 40th birthday house party last year. We had a big house sleeping 12 for four nights. Everyone, except for one woman's husband, came for all four nights. Her husband was working the first two and he couldn't be there. My partner and I had never met him but a couple of our friends commented quietly that they'd be making themselves scarce once he arrived. He arrived on the morning of day 3 and he turned out to be an arsehole. Controlling, critical, uptight and impossible to have a light-hearted chat with without it turning edgy. And yet he and his wife have been 'happily' married for more than 25 years. He completely changed the dynamic.

And that's why I wouldn't want to go on holiday with someone a loved-up friend of mine had known only a few weeks. She may think he's wonderful but I may well not agree.

Guess what people. The OP did NOT ask your opinion on whether her friends would be happy for her to bring her new bf. How rude of you all. Why are you assuming she didn’t speak to them or that her friends would be so miserable that they wouldn’t agree. You’re all cheeky f’ers saying this to the OP!!! I’m also thinking some of you sound like selfish jealous killjoys.

You can’t see how bringing a new boyfriend into an established pre booked group event might affect the dynamic. That’s a bit odd.

Unless you all booked the AirBnB a year ago, he is some random you have recently met and want to bring, just so you can show off that you’re now coupled up. I would be very annoyed if one of my friends did this.

Can’t you survive for a few days without him? Are you 15?

Why are you assuming you get to police what people post on a public forum? Only one cf there.

Hit a nerve did I? Assuming you’re one of the cfs 😼 Your name having dissatisfied in it says it all 🤣

you mean honest people?

I would probably book in somewhere else with him. Even if the host agrees to let him sleep on the sofa, he's a stranger to your friends, they'll have to consider him sleeping in the lounge, and it changes the dynamic.

I definitely would not sneak him and risk everyone's accommodation because the host finds out.

I would be angry if you hadn't cleared it with the owner because you'll all be kicked out if you bring someone not listed. I expect they only have I surance to a certain capacity and it would be invalidated if numbers were breached.

So yes, if you haven't checked they are OK with him coming, subject to air b&b host approval, I'd be furious with you for jeopardising the trip.

Knowing the above, I'd honestly be pissed off at you asking if I mind him coming and putting me in the position if being the bad guy. Not that I'd say it to your face.

I notice the OP hasn't been back and also hasn't answered the question about how long she has been seeing this chap.

On the rare occasions when I've stayed as an AirBnB guest, the owner didn't even let us invite (sensible, professional, mature) friends round for tea for a couple of hours during our stay, so imagine what they'd be like for an unapproved overnight guest! It is their property and they get to decide who stays there, so do ask first.

I take it you aren't an Air BnB host then.

How long ago did you book this place, if it has been enough time for a boyfriend to become a partner?

What’s the official definition of boyfriend and partner?

It’s some bloke you’ve just met

don't future fake yourself.

at MOST this is a boyfriend

I'd ask, or have him arrive later.
I'm sure guests find a hook-up to bring back occasionally while staying in them.