Torn on attending a wedding with a positive covid test

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Hello All,

Just looking for advice really, I've been feeling under the weather with cold symptoms after going to a festival and I did a covid test today and its positive. My partner has done a test and is negative. We're both due to travel up country tomorrow, for a wedding on Saturday. I don't know the couple, I am meant to be meeting them for the first time during this wedding. My partner has another covid test that he'll take tomorrow.

I had my partner message the groom to let him know, and he's said for both of us to come anyways, and to just not make a big song and dance for testing positive, he's said about 90 people are going and the chances of someone else having it, irregardless of me, is quite high. My partner will still go without me, I think, but has said he'll be sad without me there, and is of the opinion that if the groom is fine with it, I should still go. But of course, there could be people in attendance who are vulnerable.

However I feel really torn, because my best friend has said she'll be really disappointed in me if I go, and that I don't know these people, so technically I won't be missing out on much - which is true. She said if I was asymptomatic that would be different, but I do have common cold symptoms, but they are manageable with cold and flu medicine.

Just seeking some advice really, if the groom had of said 'she can't come with covid' it would have been so much easier, but now I'm torn between my partner and the groom saying to come, and my best friend saying it would be the wrong thing to do. Would it be unreasonable for me to still go?

I had surgery a few months ago, so a considerable time after the pandemic restrictions were lifted, and I was required to take Covid tests two days before and on the day of admission, and had to take the final test into the hospital with me as proof.

I'm due to attend a wedding at 37 weeks pregnant 😬 and while usually I wouldn't care about catching Covid, I get it, common cold - at this stage I wouldn't want to catch it one bit.

Personally, if I'm sick, Covid or not, I wouldn't take the risk of infecting others. It is selfish and you never know how someone else's immune system (or lack of) will react.

Covid is endemic now, circulating freely in the community.

As we know many people will have it with no symptoms at all, others will become unwell with it.

At that wedding there may well be people incubating and transmitting all manner or viruses, bacteria etc without even knowing it.

The world is not a sterile environment. A wedding certainly won't be.

Just wash your hands.

I don't think people are testing now so the groom is right. Do everything you can to minimise the risk gargle frequently with either Dentyl mouthwash or Listerine Advanced Defence Gum Treatment Mouthwash both of which are effective in killing the virus in your throat, and that should shorten your illness. Also you can get spray to use in your nose at first signs of illness, so your partner could use that. You can decide what to do tomorrow.

Mine was also mild.

Perfect blood pressure, heart rate. Fit and healthy.

Now in my 3rd year of LC. I can now wash myself and potter about a bit. Was unable to wash, cook, use screens, read, talk, get dressed.

People are so fucking blase

I know someone who works in ASDA bakery with 4 other people, all 3 colleagues had covid and she was flabbergasted she had to go into work with them and bake things for customers.
The response was get over it, its like any other infection etc that can be passed between people, it's not treated any differently.
We walk amongst people with all kinds of infectious every day, so many of these infections affects people who are immunosuppressed but there's no testing and quarantine for them and there no longer is for covid.

It really isn’t!

This. Especially since it's not even a wedding for people you know.

Yep as we have seen on this thread. Until it happens to them or someone they love.

Covid isn't 'over' as some believe. 819 people were admitted to hospital in England due to COVID in the week up to July 31st and that is an increase over the week before. Covid is no longer front page news but it is still bringing people to hospital and causing deaths.

I guess why test if you weren’t going to use the results to inform your actions?. Maybe put yourselves in the other guests shoes - if you caught covid from someone at an event who attended knowing that they had it and were displaying symptoms how would you feel? How would you feel if it was your elderly relative that got ill?

I think I last did a Covid test three years ago.

Selfish to consider going anywhere public with a transmissible illness, especially one as potentially deadly, but to a wedding?! 🙄

I clicked on this thinking it was a zombie thread re-surfaced years later… first thing I did was check the date it was posted!
It’s now pretty mainstream to think the response to Covid was an overeaction. It’s now just another cold circulating just as colds do. Though if you’d said it was on over reaction at the time, everyone did look at you like you were an insane foil hat wearer. Chill out a bit and stop testing for Covid! If it were any other cold, do you feel well enough to go? That’s all that really matters.

There’s always one, although you were quicker than I expected.👏

I voted unreasonable because you did a test. You don’t need to but once you have - and told people the result - there will always be people who say you shouldn’t go. But people need to realise we’ve come a long way since 2020.

Please don't go. You don't know the bride and groom, so you have no reason to be there. You don't know any of the other guests or their medical history.

You would be the equivalent of that person who takes a child with chickenpox on a plane because everybody has had chickenpox & you don't want to ruin your holiday. You will never know the consequences of being so selfish.

If you had cold symptoms what was the point of testing? What are you going to do with the information?

@Naomival-- ive been housebound with long covid for a year and happily punch you for saying that. Educate yourself or shut up.

I bet relatives who are immunocompromised under medical treatment and, according to some posters, supposed to decide to stay away from ‘gatherings’, are still supposed to pay toward the wedding and/or buy wedding presents.

But that’s really not how the world goes round when it’s people’s close relatives, surely?

Noone else is testing, odd that you did. I dont think you want to go in the first place

This is not true. Many people care .

Plenty of people still test for Covid because they need antivirals if they test positive. Covid nearly killed me because it revealed an underlying heart condition. The person I caught it from only had a sniffle and didn’t end up with 2 heart surgeries- the same virus can affect many people differently. I’m obviously glad that I now know about my condition, but it means I do test fairly often, and those close to me will let me know if they have Covid so that I can decide not to see them. If I test positive then it’s a race to the surgery to get my anti virals into me. All good.
I don’t expect other people to test or isolate- it’s not their life at risk and life goes on!
However, this is just in response to the narrow minded “who the hell tests these days anyway” type questions that you always see on threads like this.
I wouldn’t go in your situation OP, but my situation is different. I appreciate your dilemma.

Imagine a Spanish wedding. They are about 300 strong as a minimum and they are all kissing, hugging, arms round each other. And someone is bound to have it, and nope, they won't care as they love a good party. It's just something we have to live with now. Crack on!

COVID is spread through respiratory droplets. So, by an infected person breathing, talking, coughing, etc. So washing hands has little effect. I thought everyone knew that now.