Friend wants me to look after her DC for 4 days

[FlyingHighandDry]

A friend has asked me to look after their 19 month old DS for 4 days / 3 nights in October while they go to a work event abroad (her and her DH work together)

I really really don’t want to do this.
She caught me on the hop asking me and I just stumbled over my words and ended up agreeing.
I will have to take time off from my job eating into my precious annual leave as even though the DC will be in nursery, they are only in 10-4 and my day including commute is 8-6.

They’ve made out like they’re doing me a favour by telling me I won’t need to have their elder DC as well as they have sorted that childcare!

Friend has a way of bulldozing people into doing things for them.
Please help me formulate something to say to back out of this.
I am a people pleaser and know I need to grow a pair….

My reaction would be one of complete silence.
That was intended to get a reaction out of you OP, don’t give her one. It’ll drive her mad.

Is she waiting for the “are you ok, hun?” comments from all and sundry, do you think?

It might not be aimed at you. It could be aimed at the other dozen people she also asked who said "no way" straight off! I would not only like her post i would ' heart' it. And comment underneath "This⏫️"

What a CF she is!

Your friend is a total CF bitch

I would ‘like’ that comment on both Facebook and Instagram and be done with it, or else put up a post of your own making reference to ‘friends’ using you

Omg OP…that passive aggressive meme is something else. Save her the trouble and distance yourself!

Wow, that pass-agg meme though! I’d ‘like’ it and not speak to her again, she clearly only values friends if they are people she can use..

She truly is delusional. What a headfucker!

I bet that you’re not the only one she asked.

If you ❤️ her comment then that will screw with her.

The rubbish is very conveniently taking itself out. I cannot abide this sort of passive aggressive shite from people who call themselves 'friends'.

She is no "friend"

I would be celebrating the fact that this woman wants to distance herself from me!
Let her be someone else's problem from now on.

Another vote to post this.
Honestly, the cheek of her! She asked you 3 days back for something in October and it's 'short notice' for her to find someone else!!!

Even better 😁
We need to vote for the best reply

I think the best reply is no reply at all.
I understand the desire to retaliate but she is clearly not a reasonable person and therefore liable to turn into a problem for you op. I think your best option is to say nothing and let yourself quietly drop off of her radar.

I CANNOT believe how cheeky your “friend” is!!!!

yes to this one!!!

I'd post your own meme, and then ignore them unless they have the decency to reflect and apologise.

OP, don't let the stupid woman disrupt your thoughts any further.

I can honestly say - if you are understandably concerned as to what she will be saying to mutual friends - that if Friend A told me she was
giving Friend B a wide berth or similar because she had asked Friend B to have her 19.minth old toddler for 4 days so she and DH could have a mini break overseas, my response would be " Whaaat"? "You surely aren't seriously considering leaving a toddler with a friend for 4 days whilst you are out of the country?". "No way should she be accepting that level of responsibility". "What if something happened?"

I think that 99.99% of other MNetters would agree. Your "Friend" is either totally nuts or totally irresponsible. 🤬

You don't need to respond ... yet... wait for the DM or another similar rag to pick this thread up and send her the link.

Haven't RTFT. The friend could look for emergency childcare local to where she's going - I have occasionally done this.

I can't bare it when grown adults post stuff like this on social media, it's so childish.

Oh my days! Yes that post was likely to be about you! She's a cheeky sausage isn't she?! So passive aggressive to do that!

Agreed.

Wow she is so passive aggressive. Zero self awareness, entitled and rude. Maybe take on board her post and distance yourself from her.