To send little one to nursery in a dress without shorts?

[dahliadream]

First time posting on mn so please be kind, not sure whether this board is the right home for this or not?!

I have a three year old girl, it's hot so I have been sending her to nursery in casual loose t-shirt dresses, about knee length. My friend told me yesterday that when she puts her daughter in dresses for nursery she puts shorts underneath. I havent been doing that. She doesn't wear shorts with dresses at home and also wouldn't it make her even warmer on a hot day? She is quite active at nursery and she spends a lot of time outside.

AIBU just to put her in a dress? Or should she be wearing shorts too? Three seems so little to worry about modesty doesn't it.

I put my daughter in shorts purely for her own comfort eg not getting splinters sitting on the edge of the sandpit or burning the back of her thighs on a hot slide. Not for modesty or anyone else's comfort.

lol you’re intentionally being facetious. I didn’t say the things you’re saying back to me. I don’t frequent primary schools but my school age nephews have phones, primary school age children are on TikTok & making videos so of course it’s possible they’re making videos in playgrounds.

I don’t put my daughter in dresses for playing about, and can understand people putting shorts on their girls under dresses. Equally in an ideal world it wouldn’t be necessary, but it’s not an ideal world and everyone sees different risks. The only reason I’m in this discussion with you was to say just because it was fine in the (presumably) 70’s or 80’s for you, doesn’t mean it’s fine for everyone now and gave an example of an issue you simply wouldn’t have faced.

Never even heard of this until I saw it on here.

What else would you say?

Pants 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m Scottish. I don’t think we say knickers here. Maybe some people do but it’s definitely not a word I hear on a regular basis (unless it’s in a jokey context).

I would on the whole ignore this advice but it's also true that friction burns can be a problem. Not modesty. You'll get used to yet more unsolicited advice as she grows up . .

I do however have a grandchild in primary school. And one in secondary so it's not as though I know nothing about schools these days. And the kids are not allowed phones during the school day so they can't be making videos in the playground

I've also got to daughters and it wasn't an issue for them either

I don’t think there is a primary school in the country that allows mobile phones to be used ‘on the playground’, or indeed at all during the school day. At all the primary school’s I’m acquainted with (quite a few) phones have to be handed in to the office before school and picked up at the end of the day.

As a nursery teacher I beg PLEASE send your child in wearing clothes they can play in - run, climb, hang upside down, dig, paint... also when it is hot your setting should have a policy about long sleeves and trousers. Yes getting hot may be uncomfortable, but sun safety is hugely important.

My 3 year old loves dresses too. Nursery mandate shorts under dresses, but otherwise I don’t bother unless she asks. Agree with the comments above re sexualisation of girls - if she’s comfortable in a dress and wants to climb and run and play in a dress I don’t see why she should have to put shorts on, although I note the pp re injuries on play equipment. Mine isn’t a big fan of playgrounds (to my dismay 😂) but I’d likely have a different view if she was on play equipment.

And i quote "It makes perfect sense TO ME"

My little girl pulls her dress up all the time, I wouldnt send her out in just her underwear, so i prefer to cover her underwear with shorts for when she lifts her dress up..that's my opinion and OP asked for opinions? Can't understand why people can't just answer OP's question and give their opinion without digging at the comments and showing everyone on MN you have a fragile ego..