to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

So fucking what though? It's not a reason to look for something to try to shame her about, which is ultimately what's going on here. People mad about fat person losing weight, again.

Agree!

Coming in late here, but I think the fact that the OP has taken to implying that those who disagree with her are on MJ, like it's some kind of devilishly clever gotcha, might suggest where her real feelings about WLIs lie.

These people can never keep up the facade can they? The mask always drops sooner or later.

Op, you dont sound like a very nice person tbh

Whether this woman is on WLI or not, its not really the point is it?

The point is, you think you have seen something to "trip this woman up " and have rushed to MN to gloat and try to get validated in you "outing her"

I probably bore the arses of the lass I work with, Ive been battling my weight for over two years now - and believe me they are the first to hear when Ive gained a pound !! Im doing it the old fashioned way ( Id take WLI like a shot if I was eligible ) and its fecking hard, it takes a lot of effort, and Im also bloody proud of how far Ive come , but I do grump and knock myself if Im having a bad week

And Im sure the girls I work with are sick of hearing it, probably about as how sick as I am of hearing how tired they are, how they cant be arsed and all the wee dramas in their lives

But we say nowt, listen and support. take it as part and parcel of spending more then enough time with people you probably would never choose to

If it really bothers you, then tell her directly - " I dont need advice from a lay person about my diet and eating habits thank you - keep your opinions to yourself and we won't be falling out". That's the grown up way

You are painting such a bad picture of yourself here

Honestly OP just bloody ask her to not comment on your food any more. It isn't hard. Just ask as simply as that - Sally I would really appreciate it if you could stop commenting on what I'm eating and/or should be eating instead. I find it irritating/upsetting/tedious.

The End.

It's none of your business

Christ, stop whinging on here and woman up then.

TELL her you'll eat what you want, when you want and you don't want to hear anymore from her on the subject of food.

The end.

The injections are posted to you in a cooling bag. Once opened, it can be kept at room temperature but with it being so hot recently, no one is going to risk carrying it in their bag. I’m confused by this story.

yabu in that you’ve picked the wrong thing to object to. Her telling people they shouldn’t have snacks is outright rude. That is something to be annoyed about. It frustrates me that so many people harbour the belief that all women must want to lose weight. I’d be finding a polite way to tell her to piss off (I’m not good with confrontation).

The injection isn’t relevant. And I agree with PPs that it is more likely to be insulin. You say you know all about her health problems and that she is not diabetic, but you also say that you know she is on weight loss injections and is keeping that from you. How can you be so certain she is lying by omission about weight loss injections, while also being equally certain there is no way she’d be lying by omission about diabetes. Surely you can see the contradiction? It’s entirely possible she is embarrassed to admit to diabetes caused by obesity.

Most unlikely

I don't think your colleague has to admit anything to you. Mind your own business.

OP appears to be mad about her colleague continually gloating and putting down others for their "bad" diet choices, which is even more egregious when she hasn't suddenly adopted healthier choices through the "willpower" she tells others to have but is getting help.

In the same way as in my example further up, if I went around lecturing people with unmedicated ADHD on the importance of staying organised and concentrating, when actually the only reason I manage is with meds.

Don't you dare say anything. It's none of your business. She doesn't owe you an explanation.

This^
congratulations on your success

Nah she doesn’t. I think you’ve just not got the response you wanted.

@WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLadyyep just this. Couple of other threads by the same poster would suggest the same.

It is in very bad taste to comment upon it.
her body is no one’s business.

these are not magic jabs that dissolve fat! that person still has to put in the hard work.

it sounds like she is re-educating herself abiut diet and trying very hard. Good for her!

IIWY I would smile, nod, encourage and not give it another moments thought.

I don’t think you would, I mean as you’ve proved it’s a bad hiding place.

You seem to be obsessed with “snacks” and the fact she is still having them. As far as I’m aware, the WLI don’t erase calories, you have to reduce your calorie intake. So the snacks she’s having are either low calorie (assuming she’s eating meals as well) or not as many as you think.

I really dislike nosey people.

I’m on self funded WLI and I kept it to myself for months and it was constantly in the news and people were being really nasty and judgemental so I can’t blame her in some ways. I did eventually put a post on facebook owning up and most people were lovely but the one who always struggled with their weight were really jealous and bitchy.
I can understand both sides of this argument.

Leave her be! If she wanted to tell you she would.

But she WILL have lost through dietary changes and walking. It’s just that WLI are a tool to support her in being able to do that.

So tell her it’s rude to comment on other people’s eating habits and ask her to stop. You could even say “I really don’t want to talk about dieting at all,” if it’s bothering you.

Why can’t the OP use her words and ask the woman to stop commenting on her dietary choices then? That’s one question she is resolutely refusing to answer.

I’ve just had a quick look and it appears that not only is the OP an actual adult, she’s a grandparent. So you’d think in all her years on the planet she’d have learned to say ‘excuse me Sally, I’d prefer if it you didn’t comment on my dietary choices’.