Am I exaggerating?

[iamstillfuming]

Can you please tell me whether I am exaggerating and taken things too far in this situation, because I have been told by certain people that I must let it go.

My 10 year old son went out with my cousins boyfriend yesterday, he usually comes for him and takes him out for the day.

I got a phone call from the police to tell me that they had my son, and they were going to bring him home to me. I called my cousins boyfriend straight away, my instant thought was maybe something had happened to him, because why did I just receive a phone call from the police telling me that they had my child.

He didn't pick up, when the police arrived with my son they couldn't give me much detail on what had happened except they were called to a disturbance in a house and my son was found by them hiding in a wardrobe, he only spoken to them to give them my number.

My son isn't used to loud noise (he is very sensitive to noise) neither is he ever been exposed to any violence etc.

I asked my son what had happened, he told me that my cousins boyfriend had taken him to a house, people started shouting, arguing and fighting he got scared and hid in wardrobe, he thought that my cousins boyfriend would come and get him but he didn't and the police lady come and got him out.

I called my cousin once the police had left, she said that she'd try and get him on the phone then she'd call me back. I was told by her that something had gone on forgot about my child but he sent someone back to go and look for him.

All my cousin was concerned about is whether or not my son had said anything to the police i.e given them his name, then I got a phone call from him saying he is sorry about what happened and that he will come and take my son to go get a bike tomorrow, I hung up and called my cousin

I was very disrespectful to the both of then (with my words) I have had an argument with my cousin and then I called him and did the same to him.

My son is my only child, we have tried for years to conceive again but it just won't happen so we have accepted it. I can not even tell my husband about that has happened because I don't know what he will do to my cousins boyfriend.

I have had a few phone calls from family members and close friends, saying that I have taken things too far and that my cousin and I are too close for this to ruin our relationship.

I am also worried that social services might get involved, I have worked close with social services and they could put this down to neglect.

My son seems ok now, but I feel like I failed him yesterday, like I said above he is not used to things like this.

Sorry for my bad grammar or any mistakes, I didn't proof read before pressing send.

I agree, none of this happened. There is no way a mother in this situation wouldn't be singing like a canary to the police.

It's the skool holidays remember. : /

Would you mind me asking if you are a member of the travelling community or similar op ? I think it would explain the set up and the family dynamics you've described

Oh, I think she pretty much knows what the cousin's BF's "job" is, but it cannot be talked about, as it's likely illegal.

Oh, sure, he wasn't using your son or anything else untoward because we all know what high standards and morals criminals have.

And, of course, criminals are the most trustworthy people out there.

I stand by my ostrich remark and think you are either incredibly naive or incredibly dumb.

Perhaps the husband is in the same business as the cousin's BF. Since the OP seems to think it's NBD that the cousin's BF is a criminal, a well-known, don't mess with me criminal in fact, it stands to reason that they are also involved in the same activity.
Why else would you trust a small boy to run around with a well-known criminal?

Learn from this experience. But to hide it from your husband too could be another error of judgement?

No I am not a member of the travelling community why would I be?

My husband goes to work, he is self-employed he owns two businesses.

I already stated that my husband works.

What community are you from OP? I do think it might help us understand your somewhat different viewpoints if we knew.

Sorry what?

When did I tell you that he spent money on my son? Why are you making up things in your head? The only time he has bought something for my child is birthdays and Christmas, and when did I tell you that my son had seen lots of cash?

Just stop it because you sound pathetic, my son doesn’t need counselling either, I don’t know why people here think they can order me around.

Are you silly?

Why would my son have had his iPad with him? the only time he brings it out of the house is if we are going on a long car journey that’s to keep him occupied.

What do you want from this thread? You’re not listening to anything we’re saying, and you’re not answering the main questions (why you don’t want to know exactly what happened), so why are you still posting?

That's exactly what I said you Muppet!😂

Oh, I see what you did - you tricked me into replying, inching you ever closer to your goal of maxing out this very dubious thread.

Clever 😉

I meant that OP's aggression over posters assuming her son had a phone when in fact it is an iPad was misplaced, given the functionality is the same!

And yeah, I don't know why I'm still reading and posting on this thread either, it's utterly futile.

"Ostrich remark" has just won typo of the week 😂!

And you're forgetting the third possibility: OP's played a blinder!

"In my walking life I do not have any problems with people nor get into arguments."

Are you an Australian aborigine?

Sorry. In a PP, I told the OP she was acting like an ostrich with her head in the sand, ignoring the problem. The post you refer to is me saying I stand by that remark.

Oh I see! I missed that connection. I'm afraid I'm going to have to give all this prize money to someone else 😄

😂

I suspect it's an autocorrect and not the word the OP intended, or it's a bit lost in translation as a phrase that's maybe common in her mother tongue.

I sense any joke about it will go over her head.

What is your heritage/ethnicity/original nationality OP? Why are you reluctant to tell us? What difference does it make unless you are ashamed of it?

AAwwww shucks! I was going to buy a bicycle with the prize money! 😋🚴

Double post.

Good lord OP, no-one has been ordering you around. People are CONCERNED, about your son and about you, and they are trying to help you see what’s going on.

And they are getting frustrated, because every time it seems you are taking an inch forwards you then go back a mile and post something like this.

We should have all given up trying to help a long time ago - what kept me trying was the fact that you are still here, which I thought might mean that deep down under the bluster you could see that you really did need help,

I'm another one who is unsure if the whole post is a wind up, but one thing is making me think a bit. The op said her son is 10 years old and didn't have a phone on him, yet when the police found him in the wardrobe, obviously frightened, he gave them her phone number. I wonder how many of you have 10 year old children and if so, perhaps you could enlighten me if they would remember an eleven digit phone number (presuming it is a mobile number, not a land line) especially when feeling scared. (Unless of course he caries a piece of paper on him at all times with it written on)

If the whole thing is true, I do hope that the police have ensured the poor young lad gets help.

I think it’s pretty normal to make sure your children know your phone number by heart from a young age.

I can't talk for OP of course, and my son is only six, but I definitely would aim to have taught it him by 10.
In the mean time the name stamps/labels I use in his clothes all have my phone number on the second line instead of his last name - it's been useful for lost items being returned but I also remind him any time we go somewhere busy that he could show it to someone if we got separated.