To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

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I'm currently in Italy (staying in Rome) for three nights. It's my first foreign break in a warm country and I've been so excited and saved up especially.

We booked an excursion for today consisting of a trip to Sorrento where we'd spend time exploring, visiting shops and enjoying local food - and then on to Pompeii on the route back.

We've spent the whole morning/day so far stuck in traffic on the motor way. We are so behind schedule we can now no longer go to Sorrento first because Pompeii closes at 5.30 and there won't be time. A sit down restaurant meal will now be replaced by a takeaway which will be eaten on the coach.

We've just been told the cause of the traffic jam and it's because somebody has died in a collision on the motorway.

Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined.

Does this make me a shitty person? It just occurred that it might 😳

Really, are you ok?

Quite easily, what a silly question

Haven't read the full thread - has someone already pointed out that Pompeii was the scene of tens of thousands of deaths and is now a tourist attraction- including viewing casts in lava of dying people?

Ironic to be annoyed at death delaying your trip to view death.

Yes she has and I acknowledged that very many posts ago…

Fucking hell this one takes the win for the virtue signalling Olympics 😂

You're loving this aren't you knowing you've got your little helpers backing you.

This thread is going to be a beacon to every virtue signaler on Mumsnet.

People are allowed to do whatever they want. Some people’s first thought is: “Bloody hell, how awful.” Some people’s first thought is: “Bloody hell, I’m going to miss out on my planned activities.” I never said that anyone wasn’t entitled to feel the way that they feel, only that when someone says they don’t care about the reason for their delay they only care about the delay itself, that that is not the way that everyone thinks and for those who DO think of others, it doesn’t make them ‘virtuous’ or fake. Some of us do think of others first.

Have you ever tried limoncello? It's delicious!

Great comeback op I love it lol

Ah, I see this is not an original thought!

Love it.

Have a 🥇.

Some people are even ‘better’ than you. They care and don’t have to tell everyone they care because it’s real and not virtue signalling. People that tell people they care in the way they have on this thread are virtue signalling, it’s like people who give to charity and tell people.

Exactly this except I will go one step further…
Its like giving to charity ONLY so you can tell everyone and then asking all of your friends if they give to charity and telling them they are awful people if they don’t

There is a term that exists - I hope someone can remember what it is - that demonstrates that those who make a big performance out of ‘caring’ are usually the ones that you need to watch out for

So why refer to me as Doris, was that meant to be a compliment? it’s an older person’s name, how many people, who are young are called Doris🙄
You really are showing your true colours, on this thread, just getting annoyed with posters because your thread isn’t going your way.

It really isn't.

OP asked the question first. Then proceeded to post other delightful comments. You seem to be her number 1 fan.

Not at all, read my first post on here where I told her perspective was needed. I just can’t stand grief vultures and virtue signallers which mumsnet is full of and that I’ve had experience with in real life.

I think you can feel both. I once had a train delayed due to someone jumping on tracks. I did feel for the person and their family AND I was annoyed that I was going to miss my flight and miss my friends wedding. Selfishly my own inconvenience was the forethought.

Who's made a big performance about caring? OP asked the question. No-one has started a thread about how much they care or that they give to charity.

How old are you 10? lol

Do you need some smelling salts?

Nah just a sense of humour

At least you can see it. That's something.

So we all have different experiences.

I was annoyed when a couple of posters said the person who got killed was probably not innocent. I lost a Brother in a car accident, no fault of his own.

A lot of people who didnt know him have had empathy for what happened. It doesn't mean they are virtue signallers.