To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

[OnemargarIta]

I'm currently in Italy (staying in Rome) for three nights. It's my first foreign break in a warm country and I've been so excited and saved up especially.

We booked an excursion for today consisting of a trip to Sorrento where we'd spend time exploring, visiting shops and enjoying local food - and then on to Pompeii on the route back.

We've spent the whole morning/day so far stuck in traffic on the motor way. We are so behind schedule we can now no longer go to Sorrento first because Pompeii closes at 5.30 and there won't be time. A sit down restaurant meal will now be replaced by a takeaway which will be eaten on the coach.

We've just been told the cause of the traffic jam and it's because somebody has died in a collision on the motorway.

Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined.

Does this make me a shitty person? It just occurred that it might 😳

You have caused offence.The post you’re laughing at has been deleted.

No it hasn't, and I'm sorry but so many people think this type of thing.

I sometimes think it, but I don't say it out loud. Hope your holiday improves.

Not always. Sometimes when you have lost someone and you have grief vultures who didn’t know the person, talking about it a lot, saying they’re devastated, it just makes you sick. They’re not devastated, they often just want the gossip and drama.

Not always. Sometimes when you have lost someone and you have grief vultures who didn’t know the person, talking about it a lot, saying they’re devastated, it just makes you sick. They’re not devastated, they often just want the gossip and drama.

You're just being human and having uncharitable thoughts at the moment.

Probably will feel differently in a few days when you've processed your disappointment.

Yes, it's relatively common and causes a shed-load of disruption for people that just want to get home to their families. I don't think there are many commuters who have a lot of compassion in these circumstances, except for the poor drivers who are traumatised by what occurs. Accidents are another thing entirely, though, and I think most people feel sad for the victims and families, although the extent of the sadness depends on proximity to the situation.

So leave the thread, why are you re-traumatising yourself on purpose by reading along and posting repeatedly?

Someone’s suicide once caused me to have an extremely stressful 5 hour journey home in the days before gps. They closed the tunnel through the mountain that was between my home and work for many hours while they investigated. I had to find a way home that went around. Was it sad, yes. Was I frustrated, yes.

Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined

I‘m going with yes this bit does make you a shitty person. It’s the “instead of..” It reads that you’re incapable of feeling both saddened that someone lost their life this morning and frustrated at the inconvenience it’s caused you. What’s stopping you feeling both things?

Life sometimes throws us curves balls. Yours today was missing your special trip. The person in the vehicle on the motorway today had death as their curveball. Their family will now be in absolute hell for months - that was their curveball.

I can only assume you’ve never been through the kind of loss that the relatives of the person holding up your trip today are going through. You’d be capable of a bit of empathy if you had.

btw @OnemargarIta your latest post above is pretty grim. You sound nasty. People are allowed to feel emotive if what you post triggers something awful and traumatic from their past.. maybe put a trigger warning on your title?

So do you think you are shitty?

If you’re asking you know the answer, it’s the sort of reaction I’d expect from a sociopath! Though in this day and age of self absorption and narcissism your attitude doesn’t surmise me. Believe me I’m not one to gush over with feelings at such an event but I do have respect for the situation.

The person is dead so his or her troubles are over, but, but you’ve failed to take into consideration their relatives. The deceased could be someone’s father, mother’s brother sister, daughter, son etc you have can always book another holiday the dead person can’t.

Ive done a lot of travelling, if you travel there is always a chance things can and will go wrong, that has to be factored into your travel plans, you think the world revolves around you, well I’ve got news for you, it doesn’t. In the grand scheme of things we are nothing but pimple on the ass of life.

I do feel inconvenienced when someone I care for deeply has an accident or emergency. Because it is actually going to impact my life as well as theres. I will need to do more, care more, think more about them. So it's human nature when it will change your life for a significant period of time.

Not because you missed out on one day of a fancy holiday.

It's the crowing about it that's also shitty.

Wow

So delete the thread.
Why did you even post it in the first place knowing thered be people on here who have been through this?
The fact that you've just coldly said that to me shows me that you do lack empathy and that, yes, you are indeed an incredibly shitty person. And a not very nice one to boot!

Pretty nasty response that wasn’t it!

OP I think you answered your own question of whether you’re a shitty person with that reply.

Yeah, my thoughts exactly.
Think OP has just shown us what she really is.

This is pretty nasty.

Yes. A troll.

I hope the rest of her holiday is shit.

You're entitled to your feelings but mine would be sadness for the life lost and the families and friends who have suddenly received horrible news.

this!!

Goodness.
Turns out you’re not a nice person at all.

Well yes because it's not very nice how you talk about it in your initial post

Just remember, one day it could be your death or tragedy that people like yourself may feel "inconvenienced and pissed off" that it got in the way of their day.

No one is immune to death, always be grateful it wasn't you.