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AIBU?

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Partner’s best friend & constant passive aggressive remarks

131 replies

crazeepops · 09/08/2025 23:37

I just feel as if OH’s best friend always picking on me and OH says nothing.

Examples:

”I cant believe your Mrs dosent have a car, she needs to have a car to take the kids out every day. I can’t believe this. Then compares me to a mutual fiends girlfriend claiming she drives her partner’s car and takes out baby few times a week and why can’t I drive etc.
This isn’t even true.

DC’s seems to get dirty ears a lot and as per NHS guidelines we don’t use ear buds and just clean the outside (GP advised this) and next thing he is saying “I can’t believe your Mrs neglects your son like this” etc.

Calling me lazy because I work part time.
His own partner has never worked a day in her life.

When DC was weaning I was told “I cannot believe DC has never eaten of your plate, you are really holding your child back”
First time parent, I am learning.

When hospitalised for a womb infection he told OH I was “over reacting” and it’s “normal”.
Even my OH thought I was making it up after listening to him.

The latest comment is about the fact I don’t feel feel comfortable sending DC to nursery and he has how saying I am “stopping DC progressing in life.”

I have told OH to refrain from repeating his comments to me as it just upsets me.
He evidently dosent like me, I don’t even know why as in the past I brought his birthday presents etc, let him stay with us when he was homeless etc.

AIBU to want to just cut him of?
As in not invite him round anymore and not making an effort?

OP posts:
EmeraldShamrock000 · 13/08/2025 20:12

Good for you. He needs to learn actions have consequences.
Hopefully he'll apologise for his dick attitude.

NeverOneBiscuit · 13/08/2025 20:23

Fabulous update, well done OP.

He’s got the cheek of the devil being so rude to you, and yet thinking you’d be happy to have him in your home doing work for you. As has your partner, who knows how you feel about him.

Standing up for yourself is quite contagious once you start. Tell your partner you’re not interested in hearing one more word about Father of the Year, & if your paths ever cross again continue with both barrels where necessary. 💪

PullTheBricksDown · 13/08/2025 23:51

TheOccupier · 13/08/2025 19:59

Well done! Bet his patio would have been shit anyway.

And he'd have expected you to make tea for him all day and listen gratefully to more of his life advice while you did it.

FloofyKat · 16/08/2025 13:31

A patio, you say? Maybe you could have buried him under it!

Seriously, well done for standing up for yourself. I hope your DH realises what a plank he is and addresses his shortcomings pdq!

Madamum18 · 18/08/2025 11:14

Well done indeed. And please think hard about your partners attitude. It says a lot about him and not in a positive way!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 19/08/2025 14:29

How is it going OP... have you seen hair nor hide of Mr P. Agg since you gave him such beautifully short shrift?

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