Husband has completely ruined our weekend away

[Breezeopal]

We were supposed to be going away today in the UK for a short break with our two children (both under 4).

DH went out straight from work to see friends which had been arranged for weeks but in his words was just to be a meal and quick catch up. I had barely heard from him all evening and he didn’t reply to the couple of messages I sent after the time he said he’d be home.

At about 10pm one of his friends called me and said I would need to pick him up as he can’t get in a taxi because he had been sick and it was on his clothes. Pub about 15 minutes drive away. I said I can’t leave my two children so ended up having to call my Mum (who was in bed) to come to mine whilst I drove to pick him up.

Husband was absolutely slaughtered, it turned out he hadn’t ate anything they didn’t go to dinner and had a pub crawl instead. On the way home it started absolutely stinking and when we got home it transpired he had soiled himself!!

We don’t have a bedroom spare so he has spent the night on the sofa and is in no fit state to do anything currently- he was meant to be driving.

We were supposed to leave by 9am to make the most of day 1 which there is no chance of happening.

I feel like saying fuck it and not going at all but I want a nice time with my children so I am torn…

Helloooooo.

OP's husband has woken up 👋🏻

Fun? Vomiting, shitting himself and robbing his family of a planned weekend away? Enjoy your weekend I guess 🤮 I will be actually having fun and not cleaning my husband's shitty jeans or disappointing my children. We all have different standards don't we.

Have you had someone shit in your car? Have you cleaned someone's clothes covered in shit and vomit?

Because if not, you're in no position to say lighten up.

Edit down the stuff you take to the bare minimum, put the kids in your little car and head off.

Leave him to get over the hangover and think about what he did.

He can bring the rest in his car when he's fit to drive.

Don't miss out on your break.

Ah OK. You're a doormat with low standards. Gotcha.

So you enable this crap behaviour and inconvenience your mum in the process and give your kids the worst possible example of what a relationship should look like.

You cannot drive for 2 hours, meek and forgiving, washing his shitty and puky clothes, taken the kids out so he can rest.

if you're prepared to put up with this shit (literally) for the next 50 years you need to get a back bone and stand up for you and the kids.

Useless excuse of a man.

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Having fun is going away with your two children and partner, not getting dangerously pissed, puking and shitting yourself. He was so incapable his 'mates' had to call OP, he was too out of it to do so.

OP, once this is all over, he needs to seriously make it up to you.

But it sounds like you're struggling to feel angry about this. Why is that?

She will have 2 young children in the car who may not stay still and quiet as statues. She has got to watch them, watch the traffic and also look out for the idiot MEN who drive, drunk, drugged up or just recklessly. I have driven since 1983 and I still get nervous driving on unknown roads to destinations I haven't driven to before, watching for all the speeders and lane changers every couple of minutes without signaling, and I don't have children to distract me. Don't be so offhand and dismissive of OP's feelings. If you haven't got anything useful to say and can't be a little more sympathetic then .shut up.

Oh gosh! Did he have too much pre holiday excitement & bite down too hard? It’s shitty if this is normal behaviour for him but if it’s not like him then maybe forgive him & have a great holiday. We all fuck up sometimes.

Only in this country. Have been married tiwce in my own , never have seen a man doing this and men in my country do drink every day you know. How bizarre . I am signing out of here. Are even the majority of the stories here true? What kind of bizarre land this one is.

I think the husband's crowd have arrived.

I would pack less stuff and go with the kids in my own car.

selfish and crappy behaviour from him!

Did reading all this revulsion give you an idea of what people think of you when you are “not being afraid of having fun”. News flash: no one thinks you have a “fun loving attitude to life”. They just think you’re a pathetic revolting loser. Thats your reality check.

If getting so drunk that you shit yourself and vomit all over your clothes is “called having a fun loving attitude to life”, then I’m glad I’m a boring cow, who’d rather stay in with a cup of tea and a good book.

What the hell has happened to some people that makes them think behaving like that is fun?

I’m guessing she’s trying to salvage what’s left of their trip away so wants him to sober up.

No, he was so ill because he chose to keep on drinking well after the point where he should have stopped. Grim! I’d have thrown his clothes in the dustbin, never mind the washing machine.

You sound as though you admire his behaviour. OP had to wake her mum up so she could drive over and look after OP's children while she collected her drunk husband who proceeded to shit himself in her car. It will no doubt be an amusing anecdote between him and his mates but I dout that OP's mum will be laughing and neither should OP.

If having fun consists of shitting yourself and ruining the family holiday, it really is a sad state of affairs.

Trust me, if you’ve been so drunk that you’ve fallen asleep on the stairs, that’s not having a ‘fun attitude to life’, that’s being a piss head and someone who most likely is pitied. No one likes a drunk, seriously.

Or without them and let him care for them

PLEASE go to a chemist and buy a breathalyser ! Make sure he’s under the legal limit before you set off!!

I have never been in this position but my first instinct is that I would not have picked him up

@Breezeopal