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To think that, under the threat of "Let the war begin", there should be specific laws against male's entering female private spaces (and vice versa)

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 08/08/2025 14:46

After being told they will not be allowed to enter female toilets, changing rooms, clubs and other private sexed spaces, men have vowed to "fight" or be arrested “multiple times

https://archive.ph/tdkd0

"Let the war begin. Fingers crossed. You need to fight for all of us globally. It’s a war."

I think it is reasonable to have a specific crime for this sort of violation of rights and privacy, rather than Outraging public decency, Voyeurism, Exposure/ indecent exposure.

It seems clear that without firm dealing with, men are going to violate these spaces again and again.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 16:38

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 16:36

Excellent analysis thank you.
The bottom line is that Tandora has a philosophical belief which has no scientific or factual basis. Tandora is completely entitled to believe it and not to be discriminated for that belief. But none of us have to believe it and Tandora really hates that which is why they come back to MN again and again to tell us. Reminds me of the Christian chap at the top of the High Street. Makes a terrible racket with his megaphone and doesnt change my beliefs. He just repeats assertions with nothing to back them up. I wish he would manifest his beliefs more quietly. There’s no difference in my mind between “you’ll go to hell if you don’t dedicate your life to Jesus” and “TWAW” in my mind. So Tandora can never answer your questions because to do so would result in a chrisis of faith and identity

Yes, exactly this!

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 16:39

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 09/08/2025 16:29

@Tandora , again please do engage with the direct points.

1) “They’re not making any claims about your experience/body; they’re telling you something about themselves.”
That concedes my core point. If the claim is only about a private inner state, then it isn’t knowledge of female experience. It’s a self-description. Calling that state “female” still borrows a public category (the sex class female) without access to its embodied reference point.

2) “To be a trans woman is to be registered male at birth but to understand/recognise/know oneself to be female.”
Two options, neither supports the idea that a male knows “what being female feels like”:

  • If “female” means the biological sex class, inner feeling cannot make that true.
  • If “female” is redefined to mean “my gender identity,” then the claim is circular: “I know I’m female because I feel female,” which tells us nothing about women’s embodied experience.

3) “It may seem impossible to you… but it’s a real feature of human diversity.”
Diversity of inner life is real. It still doesn’t answer the epistemic question: how could a male know a state equals “being female” without ever being female? Diversity doesn’t grant comparison data. How?

4) “It’s a direct experience, not a reasoned stereotype.”
Directness doesn’t settle correctness. Many inner states are vivid yet mislabelled (anxiety as excitement, phantom limb pain as limb). The labelling of a raw feeling as “female” depends on social learning and imagination. Without access to female embodiment, the label remains an interpretation, not confirmed knowledge. It's not direct, as they are not female, it can't be.

5) “It’s not about stereotypes, essence, or a claim to anything in common with you.”
If there’s no claim to commonality with females, that again concedes the point: the person isn’t claiming to know female experience, only their own private sensation. That supports my view: a male can think he feels like a woman; he cannot know what being female feels like. There is no way for them to know that private sensation is anything like the feeling of being female. They cannot know.

6) “It’s like hunger: a personal, pervasive, automatic sensation.”
The analogy fails in the key respect. Hunger has clear interoceptive signals, measurable correlates, and a known object (energy deficit). Everyone can validate it against shared physiology. “Feeling female” has no independent test and no shared interoceptive target for males: ovulation, menstruation, pregnancy risk, menopause, and sexed development are outside male embodiment. A felt state can be real as a feeling and still be wrongly named.

7) “The feelings/material distinction is false; psychological states have physiological underpinnings, so it is with gender.”
That a belief or feeling has a neural or hormonal basis makes the feeling real; it doesn’t make the content true. Pain is real when someone believes a phantom limb hurts; the limb still isn’t there. Likewise, “I am female” is a proposition about the world. Its truth isn’t secured by the sincerity or biology of the feeling.

Where we now agree (implicitly)
By saying the claim is “entirely personal,” “not about stereotypes,” and “not a claim to anything in common with you,” you accept that a male is not claiming knowledge of women’s lived, embodied experience. That is exactly my position: a male can only say what he thinks “feeling female” is, from a male perspective. He cannot verify that this matches what it is like to be female, because he has never been female and lacks any internal standard for comparison.

Bottom line

  • The inner feeling may be real and important to the person.
  • Labelling it “female” is interpretive, not actual knowledge of women’s experience.
  • Private sensations cannot redefine a public sex class or substitute for sex where sex matters.

Brava!!

DeanElderberry · 09/08/2025 16:40

Dylan Mulvaney actually looked his best when he was being Dillie the opossum

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 16:49

There’s no right or wrong way to be a woman. Different cultures dictate to some extent how women can/do experience their life as a woman. These are so diverse there can be no societal experience common to all women, therefore no stable universal category of ‘living like a woman.’

However all women do experience moving through the world with a female body - which is a shared experience. This biological reality, conferred by evolution to propel genes into the next generation, can never be experienced by a man. Not all women can or do have children, but all female bodies follow a pathway to produce ovum. 100% of all people who have given birth to a child were women.

Speaking of men having their own personal, unverifiable experience of being female is so regressive it’s unfathomable. Given the above the only experience they can have is ideas generated from their observations of women. Physical attributes make stark demarcations between men & women, & costume furthers these differences. For example men don’t have breasts to feed children, so a man wearing a bra is like a non-smoker holding a pipe.

To tell women that they can’t be told what a male experience of femaleness is, because it’s just so personal & has nothing to do with us, is ridiculous. Although the last part is correct, it really does have nothing to do with our collective experience, because they’re men.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 16:50

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 16:36

Excellent analysis thank you.
The bottom line is that Tandora has a philosophical belief which has no scientific or factual basis. Tandora is completely entitled to believe it and not to be discriminated for that belief. But none of us have to believe it and Tandora really hates that which is why they come back to MN again and again to tell us. Reminds me of the Christian chap at the top of the High Street. Makes a terrible racket with his megaphone and doesnt change my beliefs. He just repeats assertions with nothing to back them up. I wish he would manifest his beliefs more quietly. There’s no difference in my mind between “you’ll go to hell if you don’t dedicate your life to Jesus” and “TWAW” in my mind. So Tandora can never answer your questions because to do so would result in a chrisis of faith and identity

Well I for one am hoping that we get at least a couple of relevant links from that search that draws a strong enough conclusion to be categorised as ‘evidence’ that a group of people have a unique and identifiable hormone profile (produced naturally and prior to any treatment, of course) that is common between even a large % of people who have the belief that they are transgender.

That would actually be one of the first high quality studies that might be important to diagnose who is and who isn’t. The fact that no review by different countries picked up this high quality evidence if true, though would be very concerning.

lifeturnsonadime · 09/08/2025 16:52

DeanElderberry · 09/08/2025 16:40

Dylan Mulvaney actually looked his best when he was being Dillie the opossum

Oh my goodness!

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 16:59

My dog is sitting next to me. I think he has a great life. I make lots of assumptions about how he feels & thinks, whether he’s happy or not, but how the hell would I know?

What’s the difference? I’m no nearer to being a dog than a man is to being a woman. Which is sad if I’d like to be a dog, or a man wants to be a woman. Take it up with nature or the big fella in the sky, depending on your belief set.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 17:02

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 16:49

There’s no right or wrong way to be a woman. Different cultures dictate to some extent how women can/do experience their life as a woman. These are so diverse there can be no societal experience common to all women, therefore no stable universal category of ‘living like a woman.’

However all women do experience moving through the world with a female body - which is a shared experience. This biological reality, conferred by evolution to propel genes into the next generation, can never be experienced by a man. Not all women can or do have children, but all female bodies follow a pathway to produce ovum. 100% of all people who have given birth to a child were women.

Speaking of men having their own personal, unverifiable experience of being female is so regressive it’s unfathomable. Given the above the only experience they can have is ideas generated from their observations of women. Physical attributes make stark demarcations between men & women, & costume furthers these differences. For example men don’t have breasts to feed children, so a man wearing a bra is like a non-smoker holding a pipe.

To tell women that they can’t be told what a male experience of femaleness is, because it’s just so personal & has nothing to do with us, is ridiculous. Although the last part is correct, it really does have nothing to do with our collective experience, because they’re men.

Speaking of men having their own personal, unverifiable experience of being female is so regressive it’s unfathomable. Given the above the only experience they can have is ideas generated from their observations of women.

Yes.

And also that society must treat this male person’s conceptualisation as if it was an accurate categorisation and reflected the material reality of a female experience through law and policy is unheard of for any other group.

So, we have to keep asking, on what grounds does this group get to have special treatment where they are given privileges that are not available to others. A male person getting access to female single sex provisions is an additional privilege because they also have the access to their own single sex provisions. That they reject that access to their own single sex provision is their choice and their choice alone.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 17:06

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 16:13

I have to confess that when we were out this morning I spotted 3 trans people (I wasn’t looking particularly - there will have been many more that didn’t happen to fall into my line of sight before anyone claims I’m obsessed etc). One was working in a jewellery shop and for the first time it was their transness which put me off going in. Up to now I’ve always been you-do-you but hearing from Tandora about how trans people have to be affirmed by others in order to exist I’m now really uncomfortable. I don’t want to participate in that sort of role play. I’m really conflicted about this because previously I wasn’t bothered when I didn’t think I was involved. Now that I understand that women are an essential part of the trans experience I’m not comfortable having that taken without my consent. Am I being weird about this?

And by the way Knotty.

Despite what so many people assert, I have spent some time sitting watching crowds lately and yes, it is rather easy to tell which person is male and female without even considering their clothes.

firef1y · 09/08/2025 17:08

Part of my job involves tidying a male changing room and refilling loo roll. How would that work???

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 17:10

firef1y · 09/08/2025 17:08

Part of my job involves tidying a male changing room and refilling loo roll. How would that work???

What do you do now? Do you put a sign out? Surely that would be sufficient?

CohensDiamondTeeth · 09/08/2025 17:11

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:03

This is my point. Someone has started a thread based on, as far as I can tell, an anonymous tweet from a now deleted account, about ‘war’. It’s inflammatory and stokes the flames on an issue that is already heading in a nasty direction.

If you are saying you’re fine with actual violence towards people because it’s in response to other violence other people who think the same as them might have done then OK. I just don’t ever think that’s OK, as much as I might personally want to eg do my own little violence against the anti immigrant protesters

Inchworms · Yesterday 19:45
I can find a reference to a telegraph article that mentions this ‘let the war begin’ statement but I can’t find the statement and it seems to have just been a random tweet by…anyone. Seems a little disingenuous to use it in this context to stir up bad feelings, especially given that this is an emotive issue with the potential for real world violence

Really? Your point was that trans identified men have been violent to women?
That's a real surprise because it reads to me like you were trying to say that actually it's the trans identified people who would be at risk of violence. You also appear to be saying that the OP is somehow deliberately trying to "stir up bad feeling" by starting this thread.

As for
"If you are saying you’re fine with actual violence towards people because it’s in response to other violence other people who think the same as them might have done then OK."

Where in my post do you think I've said that? Don't attempt to put words in my mouth.

I think if you go back and have a read it's pretty clear I'm not ok with violence.

My point was very clear - ALL the violence we have seen over this subject has been perpetrated by the TRAs and has been directed at women.

I don't think you like women pointing out another worrying statement from trans identified men, I don't think you actually read my post (or at least if you did, you certainly didn't understand it), and I actually think you are the one who is being disingenuous here.

Edit: bold fail

DamienHurt · 09/08/2025 17:15

hiintrepidheroes · 08/08/2025 17:35

If retail staff like myself are forced to do this then I’ll just ID every person who tries to access a basic right like a toilet. A lot of people would feel the same.

If your transphobia means humiliating a minority part of society then be prepared to live by that law and carry your birth certificate at all times.

No problem

DamienHurt · 09/08/2025 17:26

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 08/08/2025 22:54

It's not "nonsense" it's reality, and you clearly do not understand the purpose of EA and how it pertains to single-sex spaces if you genuinely believe it somehow empowers people or organisations to challenge people and/or remove them from spaces. It does not.

In the event that someone is in a space provided for the opposite sex, the transgressor is the individual, not the organisation providing the spaces. There is nothing whatsoever in EA that then provides anyone with any legal basis for challenging or ejecting that individual.

I will challenge anyway though.

Annoyedone · 09/08/2025 18:13

Tandora · 09/08/2025 16:23

but you still haven’t given one example common to all females of a feeling

it’s baffling to me these conversations.
I don’t know how many times and in how many ways I can say the same thing?

It’s not about a thing in common with all females- it has nothing to do with having anything in common with you or me or any other people or females* as a group.

this whole line of questioning is a complete irrelevance/ misunderstanding .

Well it’s not. What criteria are these males using to say they feel female even though they are male? To know they “feel female” they must have an idea of what a female feels to know they feel the same mustn’t they? Otherwise they don’t know they feel female. Females know they are female because they have female biology. What makes these males think they are female? You said you were an expert on this. So you should know right?

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 18:19

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 17:06

And by the way Knotty.

Despite what so many people assert, I have spent some time sitting watching crowds lately and yes, it is rather easy to tell which person is male and female without even considering their clothes.

Absolutely - it's not usually the clothes that attracts my attention. It is the body shape and size. But often what attracts my attention is those body features juxtaposed with unexpected hair/clothes. So an unremarkable male stands out quite markedly when dressing in feminine clothing in a way that they wouldn't in regular sportswear or masculine clothing. Brains are wired to see different or unusual - which is why very very few TIMs pass

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 18:49

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 18:19

Absolutely - it's not usually the clothes that attracts my attention. It is the body shape and size. But often what attracts my attention is those body features juxtaposed with unexpected hair/clothes. So an unremarkable male stands out quite markedly when dressing in feminine clothing in a way that they wouldn't in regular sportswear or masculine clothing. Brains are wired to see different or unusual - which is why very very few TIMs pass

It is even where the joints are located as you see limbs move through the clothes.

There are some many cues that it is laughable every time that some one tries to tell us the we cannot tell.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 19:01

What makes these males think they are female?

Even better, why should society act as if society complies with the belief that those male people have that they are not like any other male people and should be treated as female people?

All based on reasoning founded on philosophical theory that someone’s belief should be considered as equal priority, and considered as being materially real for categorising people to access specific rights. When there is no factual basis to that belief, it is all philosophical.

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 19:22

The physical differences in the two sexes are many and interesting.

I was listening to something the other day. Males have wider, thicker jaws, thicker skulls & a more pronounced brow with their eyes set back a little more than women. This evolutionary process reflects the fact that men have been physically fighting each other throughout human history, including punching each other in the face.

I was standing outside a hospital recently, people were teaming in and out. At a bus stop I could see somebody sitting reading, with their legs crossed. All the people around them were women. I couldn’t see much else of them, but knew just by the way they were positioned that they were female. When they stood & walked towards the bus I saw I was right.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 19:32

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 19:22

The physical differences in the two sexes are many and interesting.

I was listening to something the other day. Males have wider, thicker jaws, thicker skulls & a more pronounced brow with their eyes set back a little more than women. This evolutionary process reflects the fact that men have been physically fighting each other throughout human history, including punching each other in the face.

I was standing outside a hospital recently, people were teaming in and out. At a bus stop I could see somebody sitting reading, with their legs crossed. All the people around them were women. I couldn’t see much else of them, but knew just by the way they were positioned that they were female. When they stood & walked towards the bus I saw I was right.

Males have wider, thicker jaws, thicker skulls & a more pronounced brow with their eyes set back a little more than women.

Yes. This was of course something that fed into the World Rugby decision. That thicker skull and more prominent brow also gives extra protection to brain fibres that are more robust than those in female brains. Hence, in any contact sport a female person has a thinner skull**, less protective bone density, and more delicate brain fibres.

But hey… what does it matter!!!! If a male person believes philosophically that they are female because they label their experiences as such… it must fucking be considered as true and factual, eh?

**and let’s not forget that according to one renowned and celebrated lesbian woman:

“Most murder is boring, pedestrian, even accidental stuff.

Somewhere between a third and a half result from too much alcohol. A high proportion are domestic violence "gone wrong". A blow struck one time too many: an egg-shell skull.”

I mean, if an awarded top 100 ‘woman’ said it.. it must be considered a female perspective.

To think that, under the threat of "Let the war begin", there should be specific laws against male's entering female private spaces (and vice versa)
RaverSeerOfVisions · 09/08/2025 19:36

A video of Jennifer Lopez popped up on my Insta feed the other day, she’s walking past a line of people and the young person she’s following is apparently her non-binary teenager. I guess if you were looking at a still photograph, carefully posed and with certain lighting, you might not know at first glance if the teenager is male or female. In the video clip where the teenager is walking you can tell straight away what sex they are.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 19:39

Poor old women and their pedestrian domestic violence murders.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 19:47

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 19:39

Poor old women and their pedestrian domestic violence murders.

Indeed.

Those wonderful female perspectives just keep on coming.

Shall we post the wonderful unique female perspectives of Lees, Serrano, Lavery (with the staggering penis), Alok, Chappell (a few extra murdered women is acceptable), and the list is very long. All female perspectives that we should consider as leading female voices.

BundleBoogie · 09/08/2025 19:58

Tandora · 09/08/2025 11:21

I understand that, but being trans is not the same as/ does not make someone psychotic.
This is lack of understanding about what being trans is / prejudice.

So one man understands himself to be Jesus.

Another man understands himself to be a wolf.

The third man understands himself to be a woman.

Please explain why you think there is a difference?

BundleBoogie · 09/08/2025 20:00

Tandora · 09/08/2025 11:48

nope.

what I mean is I want trans people to be respected and accepted for who they are. Because being trans is real, legitimate and a-ok

Edited

But you can’t remotely contemplate accepting that women are not the same as ‘trans women’ or respecting our wishes not to have to mix with them at times.

It is a one way street with you.

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