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To think that white British/ American etcmen are just as much a threat to women as migrants?

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malificent7 · 08/08/2025 12:47

I am not excusing grooming, paedophile sex rings and unmonitored immigration at all but I hate all these protests.
I know that my white male ex teacher is a sex offender. Not to mention the Epstein scandal.
Aibu to think that ALL men are a danger to women...not just men of different ethnicities/ religions etc?

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Dangermoo · 09/08/2025 10:44

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 10:35

She’ll say she has ‘no idea what you’re on about’ and that you ‘can’t engage with the argument’.

But of course, you’re right.

Yep. 👍

MaturingCheeseball · 09/08/2025 10:48

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 10:27

You’ve seen no evidence, yet seem to be against any potential evidence being collated? Doesn’t make sense.

Either men are all the same everywhere, and no more or less likely to be rapists, in which case Andrew Tate and the like would make no difference, as men are the same regardless, so no need to worry.

Or it does make a difference, in which case you’re happy for men who were ‘radicalised’ elsewhere to be shipped in in droves, but not happy for British men to be ‘radicalised’ by Andrew Tate online?

Excellent point!

If all comers are thoroughly decent fellows - nothing to see here - then I’ll be thrilled. And reassured.

Also as pps have mentioned - any large group of young men with no socialising effect of family is going to be problematic. The world over and since the dawn of time has seen trouble when armies/large groups have arrived somewhere.

Additionally, does anyone working with asylum seekers know if they are given guidelines on host country values? By that I mean largely the attitude towards women. I can’t understand for the life of me how some people (indeed posters on MN) think that women being second-class citizens should be a culturally-respected position.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 10:57

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 10:44

But you seem to be saying that there’s no evidence that these men are more of a threat?

But acknowledge that ‘radicalised’ men are more of a threat?

So which is it?

I said that people are being radicalised online by the far right who are organising protests outside hotels and telling people that asylum seekers are paedophiles and rapists. I gave Andrew Tate and incel culture as an example of online radicalisation. I at no point, said that radicalisation was a good idea.

Many of the men creating division and stirring hatred in the cause of protecting women and children, seem to have convictions and histories of domestic abuse and violence against women. This has been found to be the case from last year's riot and the recent NI riots. I'm wondering why this doesn't seem to be important when it comes to protecting women and children.

We have no evidence that asylum seekers and refugees are any more a danger to women and children than the far right activists or British men.

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 10:59

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 10:57

I said that people are being radicalised online by the far right who are organising protests outside hotels and telling people that asylum seekers are paedophiles and rapists. I gave Andrew Tate and incel culture as an example of online radicalisation. I at no point, said that radicalisation was a good idea.

Many of the men creating division and stirring hatred in the cause of protecting women and children, seem to have convictions and histories of domestic abuse and violence against women. This has been found to be the case from last year's riot and the recent NI riots. I'm wondering why this doesn't seem to be important when it comes to protecting women and children.

We have no evidence that asylum seekers and refugees are any more a danger to women and children than the far right activists or British men.

Separate problem entirely

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:01

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 10:59

Separate problem entirely

No it's not.

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:01

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 10:57

I said that people are being radicalised online by the far right who are organising protests outside hotels and telling people that asylum seekers are paedophiles and rapists. I gave Andrew Tate and incel culture as an example of online radicalisation. I at no point, said that radicalisation was a good idea.

Many of the men creating division and stirring hatred in the cause of protecting women and children, seem to have convictions and histories of domestic abuse and violence against women. This has been found to be the case from last year's riot and the recent NI riots. I'm wondering why this doesn't seem to be important when it comes to protecting women and children.

We have no evidence that asylum seekers and refugees are any more a danger to women and children than the far right activists or British men.

We also have no evidence they are not a higher threat.
Which was my whole point.

The only reason you are able to make your point about convictions of domestic abuse is because it’s recorded.

We need this information about the men we are shipping in as well

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:08

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:01

We also have no evidence they are not a higher threat.
Which was my whole point.

The only reason you are able to make your point about convictions of domestic abuse is because it’s recorded.

We need this information about the men we are shipping in as well

We're not 'shipping in' men. That makes it sound as though the government is going out of their way to bring asylum seekers here.

You can't claim refugee status if you are a danger to the country or are a sex offender; you lose refugee protection:
www.gov.uk/government/news/sex-offenders-to-be-stripped-of-refugee-protections

SpunkyPombear · 09/08/2025 11:14

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:08

We're not 'shipping in' men. That makes it sound as though the government is going out of their way to bring asylum seekers here.

You can't claim refugee status if you are a danger to the country or are a sex offender; you lose refugee protection:
www.gov.uk/government/news/sex-offenders-to-be-stripped-of-refugee-protections

Haha.

Just don't bring a passport. Can't be sent back to a country they can't verify you from

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:15

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:08

We're not 'shipping in' men. That makes it sound as though the government is going out of their way to bring asylum seekers here.

You can't claim refugee status if you are a danger to the country or are a sex offender; you lose refugee protection:
www.gov.uk/government/news/sex-offenders-to-be-stripped-of-refugee-protections

In which case the ones being arrested for rape and sexual assault must not be refugees then?
Just plain illegal immigrants.
Not sure what your point is there

We very much have proof that men staying in ‘migrant hotels’ have been charged with rape, so not sure what point you think you’re making?

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 11:15

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:08

We're not 'shipping in' men. That makes it sound as though the government is going out of their way to bring asylum seekers here.

You can't claim refugee status if you are a danger to the country or are a sex offender; you lose refugee protection:
www.gov.uk/government/news/sex-offenders-to-be-stripped-of-refugee-protections

And you think sex crime status is a fact that can be established where the recording authority is the Taliban?

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:16

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EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 11:17

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:08

We're not 'shipping in' men. That makes it sound as though the government is going out of their way to bring asylum seekers here.

You can't claim refugee status if you are a danger to the country or are a sex offender; you lose refugee protection:
www.gov.uk/government/news/sex-offenders-to-be-stripped-of-refugee-protections

This cites a ‘sex offenders register’, is this available everywhere?

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 11:18

SpunkyPombear · 09/08/2025 11:14

Haha.

Just don't bring a passport. Can't be sent back to a country they can't verify you from

Plus this, how can it be checked

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:22

SpunkyPombear · 09/08/2025 11:14

Haha.

Just don't bring a passport. Can't be sent back to a country they can't verify you from

They're not being shipped in.

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:23

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:22

They're not being shipped in.

Bussed in then.

They’re not just roaming aimlessly around the beach, to find themselves all staying at exactly the same hotel are they?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:26

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:15

In which case the ones being arrested for rape and sexual assault must not be refugees then?
Just plain illegal immigrants.
Not sure what your point is there

We very much have proof that men staying in ‘migrant hotels’ have been charged with rape, so not sure what point you think you’re making?

Edited

You're acting as though all refugees and asylum seekers are sex offenders, they're evidently not. I'm not sure how much clearer I can be. You can be refused refugee status if you are found guilty of sexual offences. I provided a link should you still be confused.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:27

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:23

Bussed in then.

They’re not just roaming aimlessly around the beach, to find themselves all staying at exactly the same hotel are they?

They're not being bused in either as you're perfectly aware.

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 11:27

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:22

They're not being shipped in.

Focus on a word doesn’t deflect from not thinking what you promote through. Clearly not everywhere has a ‘register’ and not everyone has documentation to say where that is.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:32

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 11:15

And you think sex crime status is a fact that can be established where the recording authority is the Taliban?

You're starting from the premise that all men from certain ethnicities are sex offenders. The Refugee Convention states that refugee status can be withheld if you're a danger to the country and you must comply with the laws of the country you're in.

BoredZelda · 09/08/2025 11:33

Coockooclock · 08/08/2025 13:49

No one is saying it's just the men of different ethnicities/religions etc though.

No, but what they are saying is we shouldn’t have immigration because of the safety of our women and girls. And yet they are not also protesting outside pubs and clubs about white men raping women.

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:33

No, you’re the one who’s confused.

Me stating there’s no statistics about these men is absolutely not saying ‘all of these men are rapists’.

I’d love to understand the thought process behind you coming to that conclusion?

The fact that men staying in migrant hotels have been charged with rape makes your point irrelevant.
’You can be refused’ not ‘will be’. And again, all very irrelevant if they’re coming from a country where rape is a crime for the woman who was raped, and not the rapist

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 11:33

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:32

You're starting from the premise that all men from certain ethnicities are sex offenders. The Refugee Convention states that refugee status can be withheld if you're a danger to the country and you must comply with the laws of the country you're in.

Yes so is there a sex offenders’ register under the Taliban?

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:34

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:27

They're not being bused in either as you're perfectly aware.

So how are they getting to these hotels?

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 11:38

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 11:32

You're starting from the premise that all men from certain ethnicities are sex offenders. The Refugee Convention states that refugee status can be withheld if you're a danger to the country and you must comply with the laws of the country you're in.

No, I’m starting from the perfectly logical assumption that men from the most misogynistic countries on the planet are more likely to be misogynistic. A conclusion anyone with half a brain can draw.

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 11:42

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 11:33

No, you’re the one who’s confused.

Me stating there’s no statistics about these men is absolutely not saying ‘all of these men are rapists’.

I’d love to understand the thought process behind you coming to that conclusion?

The fact that men staying in migrant hotels have been charged with rape makes your point irrelevant.
’You can be refused’ not ‘will be’. And again, all very irrelevant if they’re coming from a country where rape is a crime for the woman who was raped, and not the rapist

Exactly. Look at the laws and lack of any register in the country controlled by eg the Taliban. The men comply to those laws which mean the lack of any freedom for women.

I think some just read Labour stuff without thinking it through.

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