On holiday and I don’t know if I’m unreasonable!

[SunnyBlueSeal]

I’m really hoping for some perspective here. We are currently in Spain with my friends for a holiday. It’s us ( myself, DH and DC 14,16 ) and my friends ( Kate, Neil, DC 14,17) obviously names are changed. Kate was my friend for a few years through the activities. They invited us for a holiday with them. We booked two different villas about 5min walk from each other and right on the beach. Since we got here, Kate and my DH are spending more and more time together. This is our full third day here, and so far today, they met running at 7am and booked a spontaneous paddle boarding for themselves at 10am. We were all on the beach later and went for a lunch. I went back to the villa to get some plasters and they both turned up. My DH said he is changing his top as he and Kate will walk to the town to get a few bits. All of the DC are spending their time on the beach learning windsurfing with the local club so I don’t need DH to help with childcare. Kate’s husband Neil has a work project to do so he spends about 5 hours a day working in their villa. I’m starting to feel like a 3rd wheel to my friend and my DH. I’m getting grumpy when I’m around them and I don’t want to push him away but I don’t know how to get out of this mood. And another thing which got me thinking is at the dinner, Kate asked for a sparkling water and my DH said he wants some too. He never drank fucking sparkling water but when I pulled him on it, he said it’s because I only drink a still water so he did too. So for years you were drinking still water because of me? Have a sparkling water if you want! Something is feeling odd and I can’t put my finger on it

If this was me I would be unhinged. I would be questioning why my partner is spending so much time with somebody else doing these things and not asking me to do it with them. The fact that her partner is working so much. If you're really good friends, fair enough, we've got friends in that situation, and we're fluid, we all really have a good time. But the fact that your partner is doing it by himself with her, that's questionablez the thing about sparkling water... I don't really think you can read too much into that. My partner has got ADHD and is autistic. If somebody said "you know it's the best thing since sliced bread" he'd try it. However, if he was doing something that he would know I would also enjoy and not invite me to. It would be a red flag

The scat section!

I was thinking more along the lines of everybody’s reading from the same script. 😁

I’ve been enthralled by this story. Got a book to read on SEPSIS but this one keeps drawing me back.

It's an interesting middle of the night read for sure.

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He sounds like one of those knight in shining armour types....happy to look after the poor wifey who is at a loose end for an ego boost. Aka wanker.

Aka*

As I start to read between the lines, I wonder if this is the fiction section of the local library with bits added to keep the narrative flowing. Somehow, there does not seem to be enough drive in the OP posts. Surely, someone in this position would be seething or desperate and this would come out in their posts. My spidey senses say a manipulation of text for the reader.

If you were to just read the OPs posts and nothing else, you’ll see how dull, uninspiring and lacking in any real truth and depth this story is. It is completely bulked out with the contributions from other posters (most of them offering the same advice in the main) and that is how a thread is born.

The OP got to the salient bit (the bit they were always going to use) at the end with the shit in the bed.

0/10

You need to speak to your friend, Kate.
Tell her that HER husband is working, yet you are finding yourself unable to spend any time alone with your own husband.
Tell her that the boat trip is not happening without you going as a whole family.

Op, you also should set some plans in concrete every evening and morning with your own family so that you all get some time together regularly. Clarify meals and one activity with your husband.
Surely the working husband would also appreciate some meals with his own Kate and kids. Your husband needs to recognise that too.

You need to keep up to date with how this thread has turned.

He's seen her many more times than you know about imo

Why don’t you say to DH you’d like to spend the day with just him and text Kate and say ‘DH and I will take the boat thanks. We need a bit of time together’ and ditch her for the day.

It is like being on a school playground at times lately on these threads.

Posters come on here to voice their concerns about things going on in their lives and others use their threads for their own entertainment.

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Started off interesting, now realise it is a load of shit (apparently literally)

Is this nonsense still up? 😂

I can’t believe peoples lives are so boring and empty they need to make this shit up.

Poo troll klaxon

OMG!!! THIS IS HOW AFFAIRS START!!!!!
I hate to be so blunt but how are you being so ignorant to this???

You have two choices:

1. Sit back and moan to us on MNs whilst DH and Kate get closer and closer, learning about each other and what a great 'connection' they have and they're just really good 'friends' (you know post holiday they will now use this excuse to meet up and eventually start fucking don't you.....??)

1. Tell Kate outright that she's being a shit friend and acting borderline inappropriate with your husband and its not gone unnoticed; back the fuck off! Sit your husband down and tell him he is acting a complete knob and you are fully aware that his newfound spark with Kate is leading somewhere and he needs to stop it NOW if he wants to salvage any form of a marriage with you. He has ruined your holiday at the bare minimum Without a single thought for your feelings.

Why on earth you would choose risking your marriage over offending your so called (clearly not as good as you first thought) friend is beyond me?!
Yes your husband is going to get into a huff over this, call you crazy, paranoid etc and gloss over it as they're 'just fiends' etc.
Fuck him, he's happy enough to not give two hoots about you on this holiday so a few home truths wouldn't go amiss on his behalf either!

Pull your head out of the sand!!!!

So where's the bit where they find an excuse for op not to be able to go on the boat trip. Or is that the upset stomach?
Then...they go missing.... Found a day later on a local island..
Or several years later with changed identities..is it a canoo they are hiring?

What happens if your H and Kate wind up on the boat together, (having left without telling you because ‘I thought you were ill and wouldn’t want to go?’), laughing at you for shitting the bed?

This is such a horrible situation, OP.

Well it got you coming back to read more.