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OLD - it's a new level of grim out there

148 replies

Lazykitten · 06/08/2025 23:49

Just.... vomit (screenshot says it all)

OLD - it's a new level of grim out there
OP posts:
IamAporcupine · 07/08/2025 07:22

snackatack · 07/08/2025 00:12

There is a guy who sings tinder messages.. well worth looking up

OLD is grim

He's brilliant

StarLake666 · 07/08/2025 07:27

I did OLD for about a year - I was in my late 50s and absolutely shocked that nearly every bloke I connected with was purely out for sex - I got sent so many dick pics - I must have been very naive but I assumed in later life most guys would have been like me, looking initially for companionship, maybe leading to something more if we clicked-but no - just sex. Although one guy asked me to move in (before we’d even met) and showed me a picture of his living room - all his seating was made out of digger buckets as he’d once been a digger driver - I did decline. 🤣
having said that, just as I was about to give up on the whole thing I met my now husband on line, we have been together for four years and he is incredible, so I for one had a happy ending!🥰
someone I know met a semi-famous person on line, for their first date he offered to take her to his AA meeting…… 😳😳😬

ConcernedOfClapham · 07/08/2025 07:29

Lazykitten · 07/08/2025 00:12

I mean it doesn't even make sense. Why would he be both seed and compost 🤔

Code for ‘swings both ways?’ 🤔

Addictedtohotbaths · 07/08/2025 07:29

I bet he’s got worms

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:31

MargoylesofBeelzebub · 07/08/2025 07:20

Haha absolutely, I lasted a week on Tinder and don't want to go anywhere near OLD any more. My mistake was thinking the men that had "nice" things on their profiles were genuine! I was only picking what I perceived to be nice men and every single one turned out to be an absolute pushy perv 😱 at least the ones with suggestive profiles were genuine.

100% agree. I matched with several men on OLD who on face value were attractive, good careers, solvent, articulate - good catches on paper.
Every last one turned out to be a sleazy sex obsessed creep - I had one wanking didn’t the phone, dick pics, grubby messages that Jay from the Inbetweeners would cringe at.

All of theses men were 50+ yet acted like horny teenagers.

Id rather stay single forever 😂

PerfectTuesday · 07/08/2025 07:32

I'm going to go against the grain and say at least 'Chris' tried to do something a bit different; not "I like going out and staying in and cycling and beer and sitting by a log fire and walking along moonlit beaches and I want a woman who is under 25 and a size 8". His SPAG also seems OK.

I wonder if he got AI to write "an amusing profile combining my love of gardening with my love of kinky sex".

If it's not your thing, scroll on. He's set out his stall, he's not forcing you to buy!

ThatCyanCat · 07/08/2025 07:35

I'm not encouraging it or saying it's a good thing, but if they want sex that much then the logical answer would be to pay for it and get it on demand. I don't understand why they don't do that. It's totally immoral but if they're fine with harassing non consenting women with dick pics, objectifying women and shamelessly seeking only one thing, it's hard to see what's stopping them from just getting straightforward sex on their terms and leaving everyone else alone. It's unlikely to be moral purity, given how they view and speak to women in general.

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:35

Worst one I had was a man who seemed normal until we exchanged numbers and then he sent we a video on WhatsApp of him dad dancing in his living room looking very pleased with himself- winking and pointing at the camera plus pulling the zip of his top up and down.

He asked me what I thought and I replied ‘I have no words’ - he responded ‘yeah I’m good ain’t I’

I confess I’ve still got the video on my phone and do watch and giggle every now and again!

disappointedconfused · 07/08/2025 07:37

What a tool

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:39

ThatCyanCat · 07/08/2025 07:35

I'm not encouraging it or saying it's a good thing, but if they want sex that much then the logical answer would be to pay for it and get it on demand. I don't understand why they don't do that. It's totally immoral but if they're fine with harassing non consenting women with dick pics, objectifying women and shamelessly seeking only one thing, it's hard to see what's stopping them from just getting straightforward sex on their terms and leaving everyone else alone. It's unlikely to be moral purity, given how they view and speak to women in general.

We’re often told by the men on here that women are just as bad and there’s plenty of female profiles basically begging for sex - so surely the common sense Rui v would be for the men and women both wanting casual sex to get together and stop sexually badgering people wanting a relationship.

I have seen it said that men pretend they want a relationship because they will attract a better standard of woman - not my words so don’t flame me!

Cakeandcheeseforever · 07/08/2025 07:41

ThatCyanCat · 07/08/2025 07:35

I'm not encouraging it or saying it's a good thing, but if they want sex that much then the logical answer would be to pay for it and get it on demand. I don't understand why they don't do that. It's totally immoral but if they're fine with harassing non consenting women with dick pics, objectifying women and shamelessly seeking only one thing, it's hard to see what's stopping them from just getting straightforward sex on their terms and leaving everyone else alone. It's unlikely to be moral purity, given how they view and speak to women in general.

@ThatCyanCat oh they probably are paying for it. But they also want it for free!

ThatCyanCat · 07/08/2025 07:46

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:39

We’re often told by the men on here that women are just as bad and there’s plenty of female profiles basically begging for sex - so surely the common sense Rui v would be for the men and women both wanting casual sex to get together and stop sexually badgering people wanting a relationship.

I have seen it said that men pretend they want a relationship because they will attract a better standard of woman - not my words so don’t flame me!

Not going to flame you, I don't like what I said either! I just don't see what's stopping them, since they clearly have no respect for women and want only one thing. There's a clear solution and I wouldn't have thought it being grubby and horrible would stop them.

I do wonder what they mean by a better class of woman. More of a "lady"? But what "lady" is going to respond to this kind of muck?

WooleyMunky · 07/08/2025 07:51

The legendary Spinal Tap...was he going for something like this?

Overnightfloats · 07/08/2025 07:58

Gets up and takes her breakfast indoors…

Highlighta · 07/08/2025 08:00

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:35

Worst one I had was a man who seemed normal until we exchanged numbers and then he sent we a video on WhatsApp of him dad dancing in his living room looking very pleased with himself- winking and pointing at the camera plus pulling the zip of his top up and down.

He asked me what I thought and I replied ‘I have no words’ - he responded ‘yeah I’m good ain’t I’

I confess I’ve still got the video on my phone and do watch and giggle every now and again!

omg 😂😂

MyDeftHedgehog · 07/08/2025 08:01

Glitterybee · 06/08/2025 23:57

Who on Earth would read that and think yes Chris you’ll do me 🤢

Depends on whether or not hes a multi billionaire 😂😂

BlueOceanFish · 07/08/2025 08:03

Overnightfloats · 07/08/2025 07:58

Gets up and takes her breakfast indoors…

@MNHQ Bring back the 😂emoji for posts like this

Highlighta · 07/08/2025 08:06

PerfectTuesday · 07/08/2025 07:32

I'm going to go against the grain and say at least 'Chris' tried to do something a bit different; not "I like going out and staying in and cycling and beer and sitting by a log fire and walking along moonlit beaches and I want a woman who is under 25 and a size 8". His SPAG also seems OK.

I wonder if he got AI to write "an amusing profile combining my love of gardening with my love of kinky sex".

If it's not your thing, scroll on. He's set out his stall, he's not forcing you to buy!

Edited

I too try to generally see the other side of things, to give people the benefit of the doubt, if you like.

But in this case, no. There is nothing there to see. My brain is screaming euwww.

MrsMoastyToasty · 07/08/2025 08:10

He's a Virginia creeper....with blight.

tequilam0ckingbird · 07/08/2025 08:13

TwistedWonder · 07/08/2025 07:35

Worst one I had was a man who seemed normal until we exchanged numbers and then he sent we a video on WhatsApp of him dad dancing in his living room looking very pleased with himself- winking and pointing at the camera plus pulling the zip of his top up and down.

He asked me what I thought and I replied ‘I have no words’ - he responded ‘yeah I’m good ain’t I’

I confess I’ve still got the video on my phone and do watch and giggle every now and again!

misread this as "him and his Dad were dancing" 😆😆😆😆

viques · 07/08/2025 08:14

Flightsoffancy · 06/08/2025 23:53

🤮
He obviously sees himself as a bit of a rake... 😉

For forks sake, I think he is trying to bamboo-zle you OP!

Roseblooms7 · 07/08/2025 08:17

Twiglets1 · 07/08/2025 07:16

5% think YABU!

There are some incredibly low standards seen on MN though.

You only have to read some of the posts on the relationship board to figure this out - mind blowing at times.

viques · 07/08/2025 08:17

viques · 07/08/2025 08:14

For forks sake, I think he is trying to bamboo-zle you OP!

At least he didn’t send you a picture of his seed packet.

merrymelody · 07/08/2025 08:21

Shovel him onto the dung heap, the filthy slug! 🪏💩

Lazygardener · 07/08/2025 08:25

Now I have to live with that in my head when I am in the greenhouse 🤮

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